Dam Parenting

Do you ever feel like you're constantly dropping the ball, losing yourself in the chaos of motherhood, or just can't seem to keep up — no matter how hard you try? It might not just be motherhood. In this episode, originally aired as part of our 2024 Maternal Mental Health series, I'm joined by Emma, founder of ADHD Potential, a mother and ADHD coach who knows this reality from the inside out.
We talk about what ADHD actually looks like in mothers — because it doesn't always look the way you'd expect — the shame spiral that so many women carry silently, emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, and the strategies that can genuinely help. We also talk about why so many women go undiagnosed for years, and what to do if you suspect ADHD but don't know where to start.
If you're based in the Netherlands, we cover how the referral process works and what to expect, including waiting times and insurance coverage.
This episode is part of Damn Parenting's Maternal Mental Health Month series — bringing honest, real conversations about the things that affect us as mothers, the ones we don't always get to say out loud.
In this episode:
What ADHD in motherhood really looks like
Why so many women are diagnosed late — or not at all
The shame and guilt that comes with it, and how to work through it
Practical strategies for managing ADHD as a mother
How to get diagnosed in the Netherlands
Why "good enough" parenting is not only okay — it's necessary

You’re exhausted. You’re touched-out. You haven’t wanted sex in months and you’re quietly wondering if something is broken.
Nothing is broken.
This Maternal Mental Health month we’re talking about what nobody talks about: what actually happens to your body, your brain, your desire — and your sense of yourself as a sexual being — after you become a mother.
We are joined by Debby Port, a sex and couples psychologist based at Yellowwood in Amstelveen, and works online.
We talk about matrescence and the body. Breastfeeding and desire. Guilt. Performance anxiety. And why your pre-baby self is not the benchmark.
For the woman at 2am who hasn’t had sex in 6 months and is scared it’s gone forever: it isn’t. This episode is for you.
Part of the Maternal Mental Health Month series.

After birth, so many women are told their symptoms are normal — and then left to quietly wonder if they are. Leaking, pain, pressure, discomfort during sex. Normal? Or not?
This week I'm joined by Sofía, a pelvic floor physiotherapist based in The Hague with 13 years of specialist experience — and an immigrant herself who understands the unique position international families are in when navigating Dutch healthcare.
We cover what's actually normal in the first six weeks postpartum, when to seek help, what a pelvic floor physio appointment in the Netherlands actually involves (including the parts nobody warns you about), and the one thing Sofía wants every woman to hear: there is always a solution.
For the international parent in the Netherlands sitting with something they haven't told anyone: this one is for you.

After a late phone call with a friend, I felt the urge to record something very different than usual, as we already are bombarderd with Mothers Day deals, discounts and bundles - but the reality is - we don't want or need more stuff. Our mental overload is barely dealing with managing our home as it is.
So this was mine to you. Just words - and acknowledgement for all you go through, raisinig kids, on the daily.

Happy Mothers day.

There are some experiences in motherhood that don't end when we think they will.
Pregnancy loss is often spoken about as something that happens — and then we move forward. But what's talked about far less is what happens when the grief doesn't stay in the past. When it returns in another pregnancy. Or shows up after your healthy baby is born.
Today I'm joined by Dr. Renée Out — a doctor, bereavement counsellor, and founder of Renée Begeleiding — who works closely with women navigating the emotional impact of miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, and medical pregnancy loss.
We talk about why grief doesn't follow timelines, why a healthy baby doesn't erase a previous loss, how the body holds what the mind tries to move past, and what partners can actually do to help.
If you've ever thought: "I should feel grateful… so why do I still feel this?" — this one is for you.

Part of our Maternal Mental Health Month series.