The Baddest Bitch in the Building

Most people think the five love languages are a pop psychology phenomenon. However, they're not rooted in psychology at all. The origins of the five love languages are closer to the Bible than to science, and they were never made as a tool to help women in their relationships.That's because they were created by Baptist preacher Gary Chapman, a man who's trained in Biblical counselling. His background involves no scientific or psychological training. The crazy thing is, that isn't even the most problematic part.I read Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages, and in this episode I critically dissect his theory from a feminist lens in a way no one's ever done before. I'll discuss:The conservative & misogynistic origins of Biblical counsellingHow marriage counselling originated as a form of eugenics (& how this agenda found its way into the church)The sexist examples Chapman uses in his book, which shatter his credibilityThe HUGE problem with Chapman's sample (hint: they're all white, Christian, traditional couples)How the love languages map out PERFECTLY to the 5 points of Calvinism (a control-based branch of Protestantism that forms the foundation of Biblical counselling)Whether there's a better alternative to the love languagesSources:Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up AgainstThe Biblical Counselling MovementThe “love languages” are a hoax by a Southern Baptist pastorThe Surprising History of Marriage Counselling __________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tomorrow is my 28th birthday & I want to open up about a fear I've had for most of my 20s: aging. __________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most of us think of gossip as something malicious. However, for centuries, gossip had no negative connotation. A woman's "gossip" were her close friends, and female friendships were a form of social power that gave women's lives fulfillment and security.It all became topsy turvy in the 16th century, when the church combined forces with labour guilds (you'll see what I mean). That's when gossip became demonized into something malicious, aggressive, and bitchy. Because patriarchy and early capitalism needed quiet, subservient women in order to function.In this episode, we'll discuss:Why patriarchy & controlling men are so scared of female friendshipsThe violent history of silencing womenHow men continue to silence womenThe role of gossip in human evolutionHow to reclaim gossip in your life starting today📚 Don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or purchase the EPUB file.Sources:Gossip in Evolutionary PerspectiveThe Feminist Origins Of GossipThe scandalous origins of gossipWitches, Witch-Hunting, and Women__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever wondered why every Abrahamic religion treats menstruating women as dirty and spiritually contaminated? That’s because religion took creation – something that’s uniquely feminine – and attributed it to a male god. And because it couldn’t erase the physical evidence of female creation, it warped it into something shameful and impure.In this episode, I roll up my sleeves and answer the questions many of us are afraid to ask. I’ll discuss:How religion began 250,000 years ago as a shamanistic practice with female leadersThe catalyst that made religion devolve into a patriarchal institutionThe neuroscience research showing how religion shuts down parts of our brainHow religion & girlhood socialization contain complementary grooming mechanismsThe missing piece explaining the paradox that women tend to be more religious than menWhether Abrahamic religions can ever serve women& the spiritual tool that women need ✨ God isn’t a woman. Woman is god.📚 Get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or purchase the EPUB file.Sources:Do humans have a “religion instinct”?How and why did religion evolve?How Religion Evolved: And Why It Endures Understanding Biological and Social Influences on Religious Affiliation, Attitudes, and Behaviors: A Behavior Genetic PerspectiveUnderstanding the Three Types of NafsShamanic and doctrinal: Dunbar and the spiritual turn in contemporary religionThe Bonobo and the AtheistThe Gender Gap in Religion Around the WorldThe neuroscientific study of spiritual practicesThe Problem of Self-Centeredness and the Paradox of ReligionThe Psychology of ReligionWhy are Women More Religious than Men? Do Risk Preferences and Genetic Risk Predispositions Explain the Gender Gap?__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever wondered why someone ghosted you? I bet you felt pretty crappy afterward, and spent days thinking of something you said or did that pushed the person away. You probably replayed your interactions over and over again to spot where it all went wrong.I have some good news for you that will settle the question of "Why do I keep getting ghosted" once and for all. After this episode, you'll never ask that question again, I guarantee it.Thanks for tuning in to my new weekly mini-series, Sunday School, where I share a small lesson from my new book, How to Hack the Patriarchy. This one's from Patriarchy Hack 4: Never Take Anything Personally.📚 Get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or purchase the EPUB file.__________🎙️ About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are, you can easily hack it. Inspired by The 48 Laws of Power, The Baddest Bitch in the Building is the first and only podcast discussing how to hack the patriarchy by teaching thousands of women how to:Use the patriarchy's loopholes to your advantageUnlearn the invisible conditioning keeping you smallStop letting guilt and shame control youNo longer feel depleted in your relationships Apply psychological strategies to get what you wantUnderstand human nature so well, you'll always win👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. That’s where I learned firsthand that power isn’t given – it’s either taken or created.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.