The Baddest Bitch in the Building

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This episode is a listener requested topic on my origin story. I'll briefly discuss the god awful relationship I was in for 5 YEARS. Then I'll discuss 7 lessons we can all learn so we never make the same mistakes I did.

People will push you as far as you let them -- even the nice guys (16:51)
A relationship is a web of precedents (18:20)
You cannot change anyone (20:14)
Not having gender roles creates resentment (23:41)
Like begets like (28:09)
Your fear of being alone will enable manipulation and abuse (29:40)
Ugliness is your body’s way of communicating with you (32:05)

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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Feminine/female rage is the righteous anger we feel at a world that subjugates and violates us daily. Female rage has become a ubiquitous topic, but it’s time we discuss how to channel it productively. Unresolved anger turns into resentment, hatred, and psychosomatic symptoms like digestive issues and migraines.

And guess what – we’re not contestants in the Suffering Olympics like Victimella is. So let’s put our female rage to work.

Channel rage into creativity (6:14)
Reconnect with your ancestors (10:25)
Be so grateful it’s cringe (12:37)
Recalibrate the algorithm of your life (16:29)
Find a physical release (21:05)
Understand the law of inversion (22:33)
Be a bigger bitch than before (27:11)

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Here’s Shelby K Morrison’s podcast, The Serpent Signal, I mentioned.

🎶 Music credit: Mozart - Requiem in D minor - K. 626 IIIf Lacrimosa © Chœur des Marais, Villefranche sur Saône, Fr.
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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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What people show you isn't their true selves, it's their defence mechanisms. And if you look just beneath the surface, you'll see exactly what they're trying to hide. In fact, if you look deep enough, you might even see yourself.

In this episode, I'll discuss:

Why we need to stop being gullible & taking things at face value
How to see beneath the empty shell of someone's big ego
Why certain people have big egos to begin with (it's not why you think)
How to spot people's inversion patterns (aka what they're hiding)
4 steps to deal with someone who's got a big ego

✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki
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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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Most people think the five love languages are a pop psychology phenomenon. However, they're not rooted in psychology at all. The origins of the five love languages are closer to the Bible than to science, and they were never made as a tool to help women in their relationships.

That's because they were created by Baptist preacher Gary Chapman, a man who's trained in Biblical counselling. His background involves no scientific or psychological training. The crazy thing is, that isn't even the most problematic part.

I read Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages, and in this episode I critically dissect his theory from a feminist lens in a way no one's ever done before. I'll discuss:
The conservative & misogynistic origins of Biblical counselling
How marriage counselling originated as a form of eugenics (& how this agenda found its way into the church)
The sexist examples Chapman uses in his book, which shatter his credibility
The HUGE problem with Chapman's sample (hint: they're all white, Christian, traditional couples)
How the love languages map out PERFECTLY to the 5 points of Calvinism (a control-based branch of Protestantism that forms the foundation of Biblical counselling)
Whether there's a better alternative to the love languages

Sources:
Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up Against
The Biblical Counselling Movement
The “love languages” are a hoax by a Southern Baptist pastor
The Surprising History of Marriage Counselling

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
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Tomorrow is my 28th birthday & I want to open up about a fear I've had for most of my 20s: aging.
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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon
💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays
💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.