Not Another Mummy Podcast

My guest today is Bryony Gordon - journalist, author, mental health advocate and host of The Life of Bryony podcast. Bryony has written extensively and honestly about OCD, addiction, depression and disordered eating, and her new book, People Pleaser, is her first novel. It follows a chronically people-pleasing woman who wakes up one day to find she's lost the ability to put anyone first but herself - and the chaos that follows.

Bryony talks to me about why people pleasing is at the root of so many of the issues women face, what "good girl conditioning" actually costs us over a lifetime, and why hitting your 40s can feel like finally running out of patience for everyone else's bulls**** - in the best possible way.

We also chat about:
Why people pleasing is actually manipulative - and why that's not the judgement it sounds like
What she'd do differently if she woke up tomorrow unable to people please
How early perimenopause brought back her OCD symptoms, and what finally getting her HRT right changed
The three things she does every day to keep her mental health in check
Why she deliberately picks the least flattering photo to post on Instagram
Her female elder in her 60s who responds to every crisis with "so what?", and why everyone needs one of those

Follow Bryony on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryonygordon/
Listen to her podcast: https://www.instagram.com/lifeofbryonypod/
Buy People Pleaser: https://amzn.to/4scaxYR

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Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Threads: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer

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My guest on this episode is Shakira Akabusi - women's health and fitness expert, regular face on daytime TV, author of The Strong Like Mum Method and founder of the brand new Strong Like Mum YouTube channel, where she's making all her expertise available to mums for free.

Shakira talks about the deep connection between physical movement and how we feel - and why, since becoming a mum, that link has never been clearer to her. She's also honest about what confidence actually means to her: it's not about perfection or having it all figured out, but backing yourself as a human being and giving yourself the same grace you'd give a friend.

We also chat about:
Why releasing the pressure to be perfect was the moment Shakira finally felt truly confident
How she manages anxiety and OCD on the hard days - and why that doesn't have to shake your confidence
Her three go-to techniques before a big TV appearance or nerve-wracking moment: sleep, breathing and movement
The 4-7-8 breathing technique she uses on set when she has 60 seconds before her segment goes live
Why "keep showing up" - for yourself, not just for everyone else - is the message she keeps coming back to

Find Shakira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shakira.akabusi/
Find the Strong Like Mum YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE5DBny6x7gZgT7LdMxTxYg

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Threads: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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My guest today is Poorna Bell - award-winning journalist, author and competitive powerlifter. Poorna has written for The Times, Grazia, Red and Stylist among many others, and her latest book, She Wanted More, examines the quiet revolution taking place among women over 40 who are questioning the rules they've been handed and rewriting what the next chapter of their lives looks like.

She talks with me about what those rules actually are, who set them, and why so many women in their 40s are reaching a point where they simply refuse to keep playing by them. Poorna is honest about her own journey - losing her husband in her 30s, navigating a life that doesn't look like her mother's and finding an unexpected sense of peace in that - and she has a lot to say about the mental load, the patterns that get set early in relationships and why in 2026 we're still having the same conversation about who does the dishes.

We also chat about:
Why 90% of the 1,000 women Poorna surveyed said friendship - not family or romance - is what matters most as they get older, and what that tells us about what we've been sold
The concept of "weeding" your life - and the gentlest way to let go of friendships that no longer serve you without blowing everything up
Why the patterns set early in a relationship are so hard to shift later and what that means for the mental load conversation
What it means to build a sense of purpose when mainstream society offers you precious little validation for living differently
How strength training replaced diet culture noise, and why Poorna lifts heavy weights not for how she looks, but for the bones she wants to have at 80

Find Poorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/poornabell/
Find Poorna on Substack: https://poornabell.substack.com
She Wanted More is available wherever you buy books.

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Threads: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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My guest on this episode is Mum Bum - an anonymous content creator who shares the funny, honest reality of motherhood on Instagram - debt, the mental load and the daily battle with self-doubt included. She started her account in secret, blocking everyone she knew, and has grown to over 245,000 followers without ever using her real name.

In this episode of 10 Minute Confidence Boost, Mum Bum talks about why anonymity was actually a confidence strategy, what it looks like to fight self-doubt when you're someone who really doesn't feel confident, and why looking at the evidence - rather than the story your brain is spinning - is such a useful tool.

We also chat about:
Dropping a Times article into the friend group chat with no explanation
Treating yourself like you'd treat a friend
Jungle music and the Rocky theme tune for nursery run emergencies

Find MumBum on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/i_am_mum_bum/

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Threads: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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My guest on this episode is Jake Humphrey - one of the UK's most recognisable broadcasters, having fronted the BBC's Formula 1 coverage and led BT Sport's Premier League and Champions League output for a decade. But these days he's just as well known as the host of the High Performance podcast, one of the most downloaded shows in the world on leadership, mindset and what it actually takes to perform at your best. Jake's latest book, Game Plan, aims to get these life skills into the hands of young people across the UK.

He talks with me about what it actually means to raise resilient kids and why being your child's biggest cheerleader matters more than being their coach. Jake shares the "golden blink" concept and explains why the moments that feel ordinary right now are the ones you'll miss most.

We also chat about:
Why studying elite performers has made Jake a different parent, not necessarily a better one - and what he's unlearned along the way
The manosphere, Louis Theroux's documentary, and why Jake thinks "toxic masculinity" is a dangerous phrase for young men
Why embarrassment is the price of entry and failure is the price of ambition - and how to pass that message on to your kids
How to stop "nexting" yourself and actually enjoy what you've built
The High Performance Foundation and how you can get your child's school involved for free

Find Jake on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jakehumphrey/
Find Jake on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakehumphreyofficial/
Search "High Performance" wherever you get your podcasts
To find out more about the foundation, visit highperformancefoundation.org

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Threads: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/notanothermummy.
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