The Rare Life

For most of us who have spent years inside the medical system with a complex child, the experience of being mom in an exam room can feel very different from the experience of being dad.
Sometimes that means being dismissed while your husband gets taken seriously. Sometimes it means the opposite — dad gets treated like wallpaper while mom is assumed to be the only one who knows anything. Either way, those dynamics have a way of wearing on a family over time.
In this episode, Kyrie joins The Rare Life to talk about the gap between how mothers and fathers can be received by medical providers, and what it costs families when those assumptions go unchecked. We get into the emotional toll of having to manage how you come across just to be believed, the medical trauma that quietly changes how we show up over the years, and the way this can play out differently depending on your family — including the families where it's dad who feels dismissed and overlooked.
If you've ever felt like you had to work harder than your partner just to be heard, or wondered why the same concern lands so differently depending on who's saying it, this one will resonate.
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For many disability parents, medically complex life begins in the NICU. In those early days, everything feels heightened: the machines, the uncertainty, the helplessness of watching doctors care for your tiny baby while you stand nearby unable to help.
In this episode, Alyssa and Madeline unpack the NICU experience through stories from the Rare Life community, covering the shock of having your baby taken away after birth, the grief over early parenting moments you miss, and the emotional toll of leaving the hospital without your child.
We also explore why the NICU can feel so uniquely overwhelming: when the future is unclear, it becomes incredibly hard to imagine that anything good could be waiting on the other side.
And a big thank you to one of our long-time sponsors MOOG Medical.

And a huge thank you to our sponsor, MOOG Medical, for making this episode possible!
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Visit MOOG’s website to see the many ways they support families like ours!
Listen to Ep 161: Having a Non-disabled child after their disabled child.
Listen to Ep 140: Alyssa’s Story.
Listen to Ep 26: The NICU Experience with Madeline.
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When you’re raising a child with complex medical needs, the early years can feel like one long stretch of survival mode. Hospital stays, surgeries, therapies, and constant uncertainty loom large over everything.
For Cindy, that uncertainty started before her son Thoren was even born. After a routine ultrasound raised concerns, her family began a medical journey that would eventually reveal not just one rare condition, but a genetic mutation so uncommon that Thor was one of the first documented cases in the world.
In this episode, Cindy shares the story of Thor’s early years: surgeries shortly after birth, years of hospitalizations, and learning how to advocate for his medical needs again and again. She also talks about the emotional side of caregiving: the grief that shows up in unexpected moments, the challenges of navigating medical systems, and the complicated transition that happens when survival mode finally begins to ease.
Plus, she shares her thoughtful perspectives on the importance (and difficulty) of including Thoren in as many places as possible and why that can prove to be so difficult sometimes.
Finally, a big thank you to our sponsor for today’s episode, Huckleberry Hiking! Learn more about how they can help make hiking more accessible for your disabled kiddo here!
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Listen to Ep 180: Does Disability Parenting EverGet Easier?
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For a lot of disability parents, the behavioral side of our child’s diagnosis often gets judged the fastest and is understood the least. It’s also another part that can make us feel like we’re failing, because it’s so hard to “control.”
In this episode, Alyssa talks with Annie and Katie about behavioral disability and nervous system dysregulation in rare disease parenting. We cover what it looks like when behaviors don’t fade with age, how it changes when kids get older and stronger, and what it’s like to live in constant hypervigilance especially when there are siblings in the mix.
We also dig into isolation, exclusion (even in disability spaces), and why access to services can depend on having the “right” labels beyond a rare disease diagnosis. If you’ve ever felt like this part of your child’s disability is the hardest to explain and the heaviest to carry, this episode is for you.
And our FUEL The Rare Life fundraiser is live! Help us fund the podcast for another year by sharing our fundraiser with your loved ones and community so we can keep supporting you! Learn more here.
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Listen to Ep 148: Katie’s Story.
Listen to Ep 197: Difficulty with Disability ParentFriendships.
Listen to Ep 157: Friendships with People Who Don’tHave Disabled Children.
Listen to Ep 151: Fostering Friendships with OtherDisability Parents.
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For families of medically complex kids, where you live can determine what services your child gets, whether you can be paid to care for them, how long you sit on a waitlist, and whether the world around you is even built for a kid like yours.
In this episode, Madeline and Alyssa dig into one of the most loaded and personal questions in this life: have you ever considered moving for better support for your child?
We cover why so many of us feel that pull, what can make some places better or worse for our specific kids, and the brutal catch-22 of needing more financial support but not being able to afford to move somewhere that offers it. We also get into the Medicaid waiver maze, the politics and safety fears driving families out of certain areas, and the complicated grief on both sides — whether you want to move and can't, or moved and left everything you'd built behind.
There's no single right answer, and no one place to point you toward. But if you've ever looked around and wondered whether somewhere else could be better, this episode is for you.
And our FUEL The Rare Life fundraiser is live! Help us fund the podcast for another year by sharing our fundraiser with your loved ones and community so we can keep supporting you! Learn more here.

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Share our FUEL The Rare Life fundraiser!
Learn about Medicaid and waiver programs in your state at Kid’s Waivers.
Listen to Ep 171: Financial Strain.
Listen to Ep 135: Career Impact.
Listen to Ep 139: In-Home Nursing.
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