At Peace Parents Podcast

This is the second episode in our three-part series on hygiene and PDA. In this episode we deep dive on helping your PDA child or teen go to the dentist and brush their teeth.
Specifically, we support parents (and therapists) to understand:
Why teeth brushing and going to the dentist are so difficult for PDA children and teens
Practical tips they can use to help a PDA child or teen access teeth brushing
Specific examples of how to use autonomy, equality, lowered demands, novelty, and humor to support a PDA child or teen's teeth brushing
Strategies and example scripts to use when speaking to the dentist or dental hygienist before your child or teen goes to their next appointment.

I hope you find it helpful!
xo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

This is the first of three episodes about hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance.
In this episode I focused on how to think about PDA and hygiene struggles, and understanding the root cause of struggles around:
Teeth brushing
Going to the dentist
Showering and bathing
Hair washing
Hand washing
Nail clipping
Hair cutting
Getting dressed

More specifically, in this episode I talk through:
The Deep Why behind hygiene struggles
Sensory vs. Autonomy as a root cause of avoidance
The cumulative nature of PDA and control coalescing around a basic need (in this case hygiene)
Discernment - Asking yourself the right questions about burnout and whether hygiene is the "stickiest" basic need for your child or teen.
Decision-making around boundaries before we worry about accommodations

I hope you find the show helpful. I'll release two more episodes on hygiene soon!
xo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I coach a mom of a 10-year-old PDAer who is in burnout (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). The child loves to cook and bake but has a meltdown if family members clean up after her while she’s in the kitchen.
She also melts down if others pass by her bedroom on the way to their own, which her mom has to do if she’s going to clean the kitchen after her daughter leaves.
We talked through if Obsessive Compulsive Disorder was also present, but decided to focus on working through the PDA lens.
We then used our decision making framework to determine how the mother could manage their bedtime routine in a way that would be more pleasant for everyone.
I hope you find the conversations helpful. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays at 1pm ET.
xo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.
This is the second of two episodes in which Donna and I discussed this topic. In the first episode we covered five of her tips, and in this episode we cover five more.
Here they are:
Reflect on success
Normalize discomfort and fear
Let go of future fears
Pause social media as needed
Breathe -- you're doing great!

I hope you find our conversation helpful!
PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.
We cover five of her tips in this episode and will release another episode soon with five more.
Here's the first five:
Try to keep autonomy and equality at the forefront
Shift from parent to mentor-friend
Be vulnerable and transparent
Release the pressure to figure it all out
Redefine regression

I hope you find our conversation helpful!
PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.