2 Pastors and a Mic

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, we talk about the difference between being hurt and living offended, why certain criticisms affect us more than others, and the stories we often attach to someone else’s behavior. We also look at the life of Jesus—someone who was misunderstood, criticized, rejected, falsely accused, and abandoned, yet never seemed consumed with defending himself or repairing his reputation.
What would change if you didn’t need everyone to understand you correctly in order to know who you are?
00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast
01:07 - Living the 2:6 Life
01:36 - Why Was Jesus So Hard to Offend?
03:44 - What Offends Us More Than It Should?
08:54 - What Criticism Gets Under Your Skin?
12:02 - Being Hurt vs. Being Offended
12:20 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves
13:00 - What Criticism Is Hardest to Hear?
15:13 - Disliked or Disrespected?
17:18 - Why Was Jesus So Hard to Offend?
19:18 - Offense Might Be More About Us
20:11 - Jesus Didn’t Defend His Reputation
22:32 - Jesus Let People Walk Away
23:50 - Being Hurt vs. Living Hurt
24:02 - Do You Need People to See You Correctly?
24:50 - A Practice for Handling Offense
26:27 - Final Thoughts: Knowing Who You Are

In Episode 291 of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock continue the conversation around changing our minds, being wrong, and what happens when the people we love don’t change with us.

They talk about why we often assume more people think like us than actually do, why certain people’s disagreement affects us more than others, and how our need for validation can hide underneath our need to convince someone that we’re right.

They also explore the connection between agreement and belonging, why disagreement can feel like rejection, how political and theological differences can strain relationships, and what it looks like to stay connected without requiring someone else to see the world exactly the way we do.

00:00 - Welcome to Episode 291
02:13 - Why Do I Need You to Think I’m Right?
03:14 - The False Consensus Effect
04:31 - We Assume More People Think Like Us
06:41 - When Someone Close to You Disagrees
07:33 - Whose Disagreement Bothers You Most?
09:18 - When a Friend’s Disagreement Hits Different
10:50 - Learning to Live With Theological Tension
12:03 - Why One Person’s Disagreement Can Wreck Your Day
12:48 - Social Verification & the Need for Validation
15:03 - Why Disagreement Can Feel Like Rejection
15:59 - When Did Agreement Become Connected to Belonging?
17:12 - What’s Harder: Changing or Watching Others Stay the Same?
20:10 - Losing Friendships Over Politics
20:33 - Does Relationship Require Agreement?
21:40 - What Do We Actually Disagree About?
23:20 - Friendship Can Survive Disagreement
26:22 - Where Do You Need to Stop Needing Agreement?
26:31 - The Challenge: Let a Disagreement Stay Unresolved
27:18 - Choosing Relationship Over Agreement

In Episode 290 of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock continue their conversation from last week by exploring what’s underneath our need to be right. They talk about why admitting we’re wrong can feel so uncomfortable, how church culture can turn certainty into a measure of faithfulness, and why disagreement doesn’t have to lead to disrespect or disconnection.

They also unpack research on intellectual humility and why people who are willing to consider that they could be wrong are often more curious, more open to opposing evidence, and more capable of maintaining relationships with people who see the world differently.

The goal isn’t to stop having convictions. It’s learning to hold those convictions without needing everyone else to agree with us.

00:00 - Welcome to Episode 290
01:27 - Why Do We Care So Much About Being Right?
02:11 - What Are We Really Protecting?
04:54 - When You Can Feel Yourself Needing to Win
06:22 - Would You Change Your Mind If You Had To?
08:19 - What Does Being Right Give Us?
10:18 - What Does Being Wrong Make Us Feel?
11:18 - When Being Wrong Feels Threatening
14:35 - Letting People Believe Differently
17:11 - When Being Wrong Becomes a Spiritual Issue
19:51 - When Certainty Becomes Faithfulness
20:01 - Why Does Disagreement Become Disrespect?
20:52 - Can You Respect Someone You Think Is Wrong?
22:58 - What Research Says About Intellectual Humility
24:06 - The Problem With Staying in Our Own Camps
25:18 - Rapid-Fire Questions About Being Wrong
27:38 - Who Changed Your Mind Without Fighting You?
30:04 - Ask One More Question
31:59 - What’s That to You?

Why is it so hard to change our minds?

We like to think our beliefs are simply based on facts, evidence, and what makes the most sense. But changing our minds is rarely that simple. Our beliefs can become connected to our identity, our relationships, our sense of belonging, and even our need to feel safe.

In this episode, Cory and Channock talk about what actually happens when we begin questioning something we’ve believed for years. They share some of the significant ways their own minds have changed—especially around theology—and why curiosity, safe relationships, and becoming comfortable with “I don’t know” have been so important along the way.

00:00 - We’re Back!
02:25 - Summer Updates
05:38 - Why Is It So Hard to Change Our Minds?
07:10 - The Power of Curiosity
10:11 - When Was the Last Time You Changed Your Mind?
12:02 - Why Our Brains Resist New Beliefs
13:21 - Changing Our Minds About Theology
14:31 - When Beliefs Become Part of Our Identity
15:12 - Confirmation Bias and Scripture
16:16 - Beliefs We Can’t Believe We Once Held
19:33 - What Are We Really Protecting?
21:41 - Our Need for Certainty
23:11 - What Makes Changing Your Mind Possible?
26:35 - Is Changing Your Mind a Sign of Maturity?
27:56 - Why Do We Shame Adults for Changing?
29:10 - What Belief Made Your Life More Beautiful?
30:14 - Stop Asking “Am I Right?”
31:42 - Finding Safe People for the Journey

For generations, many of us have been taught that God's wrath is His anger directed toward sinful people. But what if we've misunderstood it?

In this final message of the Reframe series, Cory explores one of the most misunderstood themes in Scripture and asks a simple but profound question: If Jesus is the perfect revelation of the Father, what does that mean for how we understand God's wrath?

Looking through the lens of Jesus, this message challenges the idea of an angry, punitive God and presents a different picture—one where God's wrath is His relentless love confronting everything that distorts, enslaves, and dehumanizes us. Rather than destroying people, God's passion is aimed at destroying the lies that keep us from knowing who we've always been.

Together, we explore:
• What the Bible actually means by "wrath"
• Why Romans 1 says God "gave them over"
• How Jesus redefined God's character
• Why the cross reveals reconciliation, not divine retaliation
• The difference between fear-driven religion and love-driven transformation
• How God's consuming fire purifies instead of punishes

00:00 - Introduction & Why We're Revisiting Reframe
02:35 - My Journey of Unlearning and Relearning
06:20 - Week 5: Reframing God's Wrath
09:28 - From Fear-Driven Thinking to Peace-Filled Living
12:25 - What If Wrath Isn't God's Anger?
15:35 - The Church's View of Wrath Changed
16:19 - God Is Love, God Is Light
17:52 - The Meaning of "Wrath" in Scripture
19:10 - Romans: Wrath as Natural Consequences
21:32 - Jerusalem, 70 AD & Rejecting Love
24:00 - God's Fire Purifies, Not Punishes
25:11 - Jesus Corrects the Old View of Wrath
29:01 - The Cross Reveals God's True Heart
32:04 - The Old Lens vs. The New Lens
33:29 - Living From Love Instead of Fear
38:09 - Closing Prayer & Final Encouragement