After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse. We share this with care, but please listen at your own pace and take care of yourself.

Deep breath, friends. This is one of THOSE episodes - the kind that feels a little heavy, a little scary, but is incredibly important, because the tools here could change your kid’s life. In this episode, I (Deena) am sharing my own experience with sexual abuse as a child. Not to scare you, but to give you something I didn’t have back then: Clear, practical tools to help keep your kids safer.

Because the uncomfortable reality is that sexual abuse doesn’t usually look like a stranger in a dark alley. It often happens between kids, between peers or people you know, in familiar places. And most kids don’t tell, because they’re confused, don’t have the language, or think they’ll get in trouble. So instead of fear, we’re focusing on power. This episode is your “bing bang boom - here’s exactly what to do” guide. You’ll walk away with:

Concrete, simple tools you can start using TODAY
The exact words + scripts to teach body safety in a way that feels natural (not awkward or scary)
A clear way to explain private parts, safe vs unsafe touch, and boundaries
How to teach your kid to say no, get out, and tell someone
How to build a “safety team” so your child always has trusted adults
And how to create a home where your child knows, “I can tell my parent anything, and they will help me.”

Body safety isn’t about one, big scary talk. It’s about small, everyday conversations that build kids who know their body is theirs, trust their gut, use their voice, and feel safe coming to you, no matter what. You can give your child tools, language, and confidence that dramatically increase their safety.

So take a deep breath - we’re doing this together, and it’ll be worth it, I promise.

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If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why am I so triggered by my child’s emotions?” “Why does this feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” Or “How do I raise emotionally healthy kids… when no one taught me how?” This episode is for you. Kristin and Deena go beneath the surface of parenting and into the work most of us were never taught to do: regulating, repairing, and reparenting yourself while raising your child.
You’ll learn:
The real reason parenting feels so hard (it’s not you - it’s your nervous system)
The science behind regulation and how to actually build it in real time
What generational healing looks and feels like - in messy, everyday moments
Why grief is a part of parenting when you’re doing it differently than you were parented
The 4 tools to start breaking cycles, even when you’re overwhelmed

This is the episode that helps you understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you stop blaming yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be the parent you needed.

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Pregnancy and motherhood come with pressure, opinions, and plenty of advice, but very few honest conversations about how it actually feels to be a mom. “Tell Me I’m a Good Mom” speaks to the pressure to get it right and the fear of being judged when we don’t. Through her own transition into motherhood, Lo Bosworth Natale explores the identity shift, expectations, emotional plot twists, and educational hacks that make the journey lighter, all while navigating a culture that performs, posts, and rates motherhood online. This is not about perfect parenting. It is about becoming a mother, for real.

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We need to say something that might make you uncomfortable: we are over-parenting our kids. We are over-helping. Over-entertaining. Over-scheduling. Over-involving ourselves in every single moment of their lives. And it’s not making things better. It’s making our kids less independent, less resilient, and less capable of handling real life.

In this episode, we’re bringing back the parts that 90’s parenting got right (not the fear-based, emotion-dismissing, boooooorderline trauma parts), but the parts that actually built confident, capable kids. Because back then? Kids figured things out. They got bored. They solved problems. They had space to become themselves. And today? We’re doing so much for them… they don’t get the chance. This episode will challenge you — in the best way.

We’re talking about:
Why your kid NEEDS boredom (and why it’s so hard for us to allow it)
How constant involvement is quietly undermining confidence
The science behind independent play and why it matters more than any activity
Why fewer toys, fewer plans, and fewer interventions actually lead to better outcomes
How to step back without feeling like you’re failing your kid

Your job is not to make your child’s life smooth. Your job is to raise a kid who becomes an adult who can handle a life that isn’t. This episode will help you pull back, without guilt, and start raising a kid who can stand on their own two feet. Repeat after me : PERMISSION TO DO LESS. Sound too good to be true? Tune in to find out just how easy this simple shift in parenting can be.

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What if the goal of parenting isn’t raising kids who always listen…but raising kids who feel safe being fully themselves? In this episode, Kristin shares a realization that stopped her in her tracks: so much of her life has been shaped by the quiet pressure to be liked. To be the nice one. The agreeable one. The one everyone walks away from thinking, “Wow, she’s so kind.” From friendships to everyday interactions with strangers, that instinct to make sure everyone feels good about her has been deeply ingrained, and incredibly exhausting.

And that realization led to a bigger parenting question: how often do kids learn to people-please because they feel their acceptance depends on it? Many of us grew up believing the highest compliment a child could receive was being called a “good kid.” The obedient one. The easy one. The one who doesn’t push back, question, or cause problems. But what if that expectation quietly teaches kids something we never intended, that their job is to make adults happy?

In this episode, we unpack the hidden pressure behind being the “good kid” and why prioritizing obedience above all else can sometimes make it harder for kids to develop confidence, boundaries, and trust in their own voice.

Kristin talks about:
Why the idea of the “obedient child” can be misleading
How kids internalize the need for approval from the adults around them
The subtle ways people-pleasing starts in childhood
The difference between respect and compliance
Why it’s actually healthy for kids to disagree, push back, and express who they really are
How we can create homes where kids feel safe showing up authentically...even when that’s messy

Because here’s the truth: our kids are going to grow up in a world where not everyone will like them. And while that’s uncomfortable, it’s also part of being human. The goal isn’t raising kids who never disappoint anyone. The goal is raising kids who trust themselves enough to be who they are, even when it means not everyone approves. And when kids know they’re loved exactly as they are, they don’t have to spend their lives shrinking themselves to earn it.

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