If attachment (or togetherness) is the ultimate need, then facing separation is the ultimate threat. Wild, right?In this episode, I’m diving into what that really means, why connection is the invisible gravity holding us (and our kids) together, and how the brain’s built-in systems for pursuit, alarm, and frustration kick in anytime that togetherness feels shaky.We’re talking meltdowns, clinginess, people-pleasing, all of it, through a totally new lens. You’ll start seeing that what looks like “bad behavior” is usually just a brilliant little human trying to feel safe again.Once you get this, parenting gets a whole lot clearer (and calmer). Connection stops being something you do and becomes who you are.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #194 Mad to Sad: The Hidden Path to Emotional Maturity
This is one of my favorite topics to teach: the powerful emotional journey from mad to sad. In this episode, I talk about what Dr. Gordon Neufeld calls the path of adaptation, the incredible shift from frustration and resistance to sadness and surrender.I’ll walk you through the “traffic circle” of big emotions, how our brains look for exits when things don’t go our way, and why the second exit, the one where we change ourselves instead of the situation, is where emotional growth actually happens.We’ll also talk about how to create the conditions for this kind of growth in our homes. What helps our kids and us feel safe enough to move through futility and into maturity? And why crying, real sad tears, is one of the most healing things we can do.If you’ve ever wondered how to help your child handle disappointment, rejection, or just plain “no,” this episode will help you see those moments as doorways to growth, not breakdowns to fix.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #193 Connection in the Mess: How to Stay With Your Child Through It All
Parenting isn’t tidy. It’s muddy, unpredictable, and sometimes really uncomfortable. In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to come alongside your child, especially when their choices, emotions, or beliefs stretch you in ways you didn’t expect.We’ll explore how to stay close when everything in you wants to pull away, how to listen with curiosity instead of control, and how to build a relationship that can hold steady through the chaos, confusion, and change that come with raising growing humans.Because real connection isn’t built in the easy moments. It’s built in the mess.💛 Let’s dive in together.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #192 BE Goals
What if everything you've been doing to become a better parent has been backwards?In this raw, real episode, I share a powerful revelation from my kitchen reorganization weekend (and a real-time call from my sick daughter) that changes everything about how we approach parenting goals.You'll discover why your to-do lists and behavior strategies keep falling short—and the inside-out approach that actually creates lasting change.The Do-Have-Be Trap:The exhausting cycle of trying to prove you're a good mom through productivityWhy "if I just get the routine right, THEN I'll be patient" never worksThe moment I realized the equation was completely backwardsWhat BE Goals Actually Are:Goals that don't depend on your life being perfectStarting from identity instead of behaviorWho you're BEING while cleaning the kitchen, when nobody notices, when your kids don't listenThe 4-Step Assumption Method:Step 1 - I AM It Claim your new identity NOW. "I am a calm, connected parent." Your nervous system listens to every "I am" statement you make.Step 2 - FEEL It Emotionally embody the state in your body. Your nervous system responds to emotions, not words. Spend 2-3 minutes feeling how you'd feel if this identity were already true.Step 3 - REVISE It Reimagine past moments that contradict your new identity. Instead of replaying them in guilt, replay them differently to create new neural pathways.Step 4 - LIVE It Make daily choices as if you're already that person. Drop the timeline. Assume it's inevitable and let reality catch up.Create Your First BE Goal:Thought Download: Write everything you want to do or create as a parent (10 minutes)Circle Your Top 3: What matters most right now?Pick ONE: Just one focus for the next 90 daysName Your Identity: "I am the kind of person who..."Your Daily Practice:Morning: Say your "I Am" statement out loud, feel it in your bodyThroughout the day: Notice when you remember your BE goalNight: Revise one moment—replay it how you wish it had goneReflect on This:Who do you want to BE when your child is melting down?Who do you want to BE when nobody notices what you did?Who do you want to BE for yourself when life refuses to cooperate?Your answers to these questions are your BE goals.You don't need to do your way into better parenting. You don't need more strategies or hacks. You need to start BEING the parent you want to be right now—today. Before your kids change, before circumstances improve, before anything looks different.Be → Do → HaveThat's the new formula. That's how change sticks.This week, pick ONE BE goal. Write it down. Say it out loud. Feel it like your life depends on it. Live it the best you can. Watch what happens.If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review! It helps us get the word of Connect Method Parenting out to more parents who are ready to break the cycle.Go connect with your kids! Love you lots.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #191 Ten Ideas That Change Everything
I've shared these ideas across 100+ episodes, but I wanted them all in one place. These are the concepts that make Connect Method Parenting different, the foundation of everything we do inside League and what I teach on this podcast.I'm going through them fairly quickly in this episode, so if you want to go deeper on any of these, search the podcast or come ask me inside League during office hours.In this episode:Connection is your most powerful tool (and your child's most essential need)Why life is designed to be 50% amazing and 50% terrible, and why accepting this changes everythingIt only takes one person to improve a relationship, and that person is youYour brain will ruin your life if you don't supervise it (primitive brain vs. higher brain)Emotional maturity is spontaneous but not inevitable, here's how to create the conditions for itWhat you want matters more than other people's expectations of youHow you think about yourself literally creates the quality of your lifeEveryone is doing the best they can in the moment (yes, even when they ate the brownies)Nature knows what it's doing, trust the timingYour emotions come from your thoughts (not from your kids' behavior)A few things I mention:The baby powder blizzard of 2007 (my origin story)Hiking Machu Picchu with my daughter having a meltdownDr. Gordon Neufeld's work on attachment and emotional maturationThe Daily Peace process we do inside LeagueThe "More emotion, less feeling" conceptWant to go deeper?These ideas are just the beginning. Inside League (my coaching program), we take these concepts and actually apply them to your real life, your kids, your triggers, your specific situations. Learn more at https://cmp.works/pivotIf you've been enjoying the podcast, I'd love it if you'd leave a review. It helps get Connect Method Parenting out to more parents who need it.Talk soon! Go connect with your kids.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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