Ep #200 Fight-or-Flight Club (Rule #1: We Actually Leave)
This episode is one I've been wanting to do for a while because thought work is truly the foundation of everything we do in Connect Method Parenting. And I know "thought work" might sound intimidating or like some woo-woo concept, but I promise you—it's the most practical, life-changing tool you can have as a parent.The biggest problem isn't that we go into fight or flight. Nope...it's that we never come OUT of fight or flight. And that's exactly what thought work helps us change.I'm sharing my entire 15+ year journey of discovering thought work—from stumbling on Viktor Frankl and Byron Katie as a young, struggling mom to building the STEER tool and Daily Peace process that thousands of parents now use every day.Here's what we cover:What thought work actually is (and why it's not just "thinking positive thoughts")How I reverse-engineered my Baby Powder Blizzard miracle momentThe science behind why thought work works: mirror neurons, neural pathways, and the nervous systemWhy who you're BEING matters infinitely more than what you're DOINGHow thoughts create emotions, emotions fuel actions, and actions create your resultsThe power of becoming the "watcher" of your own lifeHow to use thought work even when (especially when) you're triggered by your teenagerYou can read every parenting book, memorize all the scripts, and understand child development backwards and forwards, but if you don't understand how to align who you're BEING with the highest, most loving version of yourself, you're still going to struggle.I'm sharing stories from a family trip, where I had to excuse myself from the room to do my own Daily Peace process. Because guess what? There's always another level of emotional maturity we can reach as parents. This work never stops, and that's actually beautiful.One of my favorite insights from this episode:"The more I think I need to hurry, the more I need to slow down. If I don't feel like I have time for thought work, that's exactly when I know I really need it."Key Takeaways:✨ Thoughts are OPTIONAL—you get to decide what you believe ✨ Your nervous system is broadcasting an emotional frequency that your kids pick up on (thank you, mirror neurons) ✨ Thought work isn't about perfection—it's about awareness and compassion ✨ When you witness yourself without judgment, everything changes ✨ The goal isn't to always be regulated; it's to become skilled at repairing when you're notTools I Mention:STEAR - My signature thought awareness toolDaily PEACE - The complete process that includes STEER plus emotional processingThe Six Acceptance Questions - From Chapter 3 of my bookBottom line: This is THE most important skill you can develop as a parent. Once you understand how your thoughts create your emotions, which fuel your actions, which create your results... you'll never see parenting (or life) the same way again.If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review! It h🎙️ Special Invitation: Starting November 16, join PIVOT LIVE — an eight-week small-group version of my signature parenting program. You’ll learn the full Connect Method Parenting framework and get weekly live coaching to help you implement it. 👉 https://cmp.works/pivot Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #199 The Traffic Director
Today we’re talking about what it really means to guide your child through big emotions. Not fix them. Not rush them. Just guide them.Think of yourself as the traffic director for your child’s emotions. You’re not trying to stop the traffic. You’re not trying to control it. You’re there to help it move safely in the right direction.In this episode, we’ll talk about:Why your child’s emotions aren’t problems to solveHow to know when to help them change the situation or when to help them change themselvesWhat it looks like to move your child toward courage, caution, or tearsHow to stay connected while they move through frustration, alarm, and pursuitYou’ll see how acting as a traffic director builds emotional resilience, deepens attachment, and keeps you calm in the middle of the chaos.Grab your notebook ('cause you're gonna want to jot some things down), and let’s talk about how to lead with connection when big emotions show up.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #198 Roots of Attachment
Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment.Nature’s answer to separation is not independence. It is connection. Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart.In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being fully known and loved for who we are.We talk about:How attachment deepens each year of a child’s lifeWhy separation feels so hard and what to do about itHow to strengthen connection when your child pulls awayWhat it means to experience separateness without losing togethernessThink of this one like a gardening episode for the heart. We are learning how to care for the roots that keep us connected no matter the distance.Grab your tea, take a breath, and let’s dig in. Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #197 The Discipline of Belief
We talk a lot about emotions, regulation, and connection—but underneath all of it is belief. What we believe about ourselves, our kids, and what’s possible determines everything that follows.In this episode, I dive into the discipline of belief—the conscious, daily practice of choosing thoughts that align with who you’re becoming instead of who you’ve been. We’ll talk about why your nervous system clings to old stories, how to rewire it with kindness, and what it really takes to believe something new when nothing around you has changed yet.This isn’t about pretending. It’s about practice. Because belief is a muscle, and when you train it intentionally, your entire reality starts to shift—your parenting, your peace, your sense of possibility.By the end, you’ll know exactly how to:Identify the beliefs keeping you stuckCreate new ones that actually feel truePractice them until they become your default stateIt’s time to stop waiting for proof. This is The Discipline of Belief.🎙️ Special Invitation: Starting November 16, join PIVOT LIVE — an eight-week small-group version of my signature parenting program. You’ll learn the full Connect Method Parenting framework and get weekly live coaching to help you implement it. 👉 https://cmp.works/pivot Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #196 In Weakness, There’s Strength
This week we’re talking about weakness. The parts of us we try to hide, fix, or wish away. But what if weakness isn’t bad? What if it’s actually where our strength grows?In this episode, I talk about how being hard on yourself never helps, how to see your weak spots with kindness, and why loving all parts of you makes you a calmer, happier parent.You’ll learn how to:Stop beating yourself up when you mess upSee your weakness as a teacherFeel strong even when you don’t feel perfectThis one is soft, honest, and real. You’re going to feel better about being human after listening.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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