Dorinda Medley on Grief, Identity and The Real Housewives: ‘I was angry. I was lost. I felt like I got cheated.’
What happens when the life you thought you’d built - the one with love, money, recognition - seems to slip away? This week, Elizabeth speaks to Dorinda Medley, author, TV personality and iconic former Real Housewife of New York, about reinvention, resilience and learning to be okay with not being liked by everyone.
Dorinda opens up about the loss of her husband, the loneliness that followed fame, and why her departure from Housewives was both painful and necessary. This is a raw, funny, emotional conversation with a woman who’s lived many lives - and isn’t afraid to talk about all the ways they’ve fallen apart.
✨ IN THIS EPISODE:
00:00 Intro
02:12 Life After Reality TV
03:30 Authenticity and Public Perception
06:37 Dealing with Grief and Loss
14:06 Finding Strength in Vulnerability
19:14 The Impact of Fame
21:56 Housewives' First Visit to Blue Stone Manor
23:03 Behind the Scenes Drama
23:32 Staying Connected with Castmates
25:36 Dealing with Trolls and Haters
29:00 Coping with On-Screen Conflicts
31:19 Reflecting on the Housewives Experience
32:48 Blue Stone Manor Tag Sale
35:57 Life Lessons and Moving Forward
💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:
“A lot of people mourn by crying. I was angry. I was lost. I felt like I got cheated.” “If you want to love me, great. If you don’t, I’m okay with that.” “There’s a difference between missing Housewives and wanting to do it again.”
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