All In The Mind

Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel is coming to All in the Mind! And we'd love to ask her some of your questions.
Esther Perel is an internationally recognised couples therapist. You might know her as the author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs. Family, sex, intimacy, friendship, betrayal - Esther covers it all. 
So if you have any thorny relationship questions you'd like to ask her, send them to [email protected] and include "question for Esther Perel" in the subject line.
Thanks!

Slow walkers. Unmelted cheese in a toastie. Bad formatting in documents. 
If these small annoyances make you weirdly mad, you're not alone (in fact, you're human). But when little pet peeves add up, they can contribute much bigger problems like chronic stress. So what can you do about it?
Today: why small annoyances have such an outsized impact; why judging yourself doesn't help; and how elements of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help you better navigate these moments (as well as the bigger challenges in life).
And if you're not a fan of radical acceptance, which was covered in a recent episode, we go deeper on what it really means.
You can catch up on more episodes of the All in the Mind podcast with journalist and presenter Sana Qadar, exploring the psychology of topics like stress, memory, communication and relationships on ABC Listen or wherever you get your podcasts.
Guest:
Dr Patricia Zurita-OnaClinical psychologistAuthor
Credits:
Presenter/producer: Sana Qadar
Senior producer: James Bullen
Producer: Rose Kerr
Sound engineer: Roi Huberman
More information:
Relationship of daily hassles, uplifts, and major life events to health status
The peculiar longevity of things not so bad
Patricia's website and resources
Other recommended listening:
Chronically stressed? These small changes can help
Difficult people and radical acceptance: answering your questions about tricky relationships

When Blake's dad died by suicide, it came as a complete shock. Overwhelming grief, combined with confusion and guilt — it uprooted his life. The loss made him rethink his own mental health, and eventually, channel that into the community — fundraising and taking on three world records.
Today, we're talking about suicide bereavement; how it can affect family and friends, its long lasting impacts on mental health, and how to support someone going through the experience. It can be really tricky to talk about suicide, so how do you tackle talking to kids about this kind of loss?
Also, why are rates of suicide not going down, despite millions spent on prevention? And why do some people experience something called post-traumatic growth while others don't?
This episode discusses suicide, grief and mental illness in depth. Please take care while listening.
Guests:
Blake JohnstonFormer pro surferSurf CoachMental Health advocateAuthor, Swellbeing
Associate Professor Karl AndriessenPrincipal Research Fellow, Centre for Mental Health and Community WellbeingMelbourne School of Population and Global HealthUniversity of Melbourne
Tanja HirvonenClinical psychologistChief Executive Officer, ThirriliBoard Director, Australian Indigenous Psychologists AssociationBoard Director, Black Dog Institute
Credits:
Presenter/producer: Sana Qadar
Producer: Rose Kerr
Senior producer: James Bullen
Sound engineer: Harvey O'Sullivan
Thanks to freesound.org users tim.kahn and juskiddink
Support and resources:
Lifeline 13 11 14
Thirrili 1800 805 801
13 YARN 13 92 76
Beyond Blue  1300 22 4636
StandBy Support 1300 727 247
Roses in the ocean
More information:
Coping With A Parent's Suicide
Alarming rise in Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander suicide rates
A better way: suicide prevention in First Nations communities
You can catch up on more episodes of the All in the Mind podcast with journalist and presenter Sana Qadar, exploring the psychology of topics like stress, memory, communication and relationships on ABC Listen or wherever you get your podcasts.

Simon considers himself a calm, conscientious, conflict-avoidant type of person. But in the car, his personality flips — and it scares him.
It can be hard to admit, but many of us do experience road rage.
So what is it about being in the driver's seat that makes us so quick to anger? And does the type of car a person drives have anything to do with their propensity for aggression?
Today, we're talking about road rage; owning up to times we've lost our temper and finding out what we can do about it.
You can catch up on more episodes of the All in the Mind podcast with journalist and presenter Sana Qadar, exploring the psychology of topics like stress, memory, communication and relationships on the ABC Listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
Guests:
Dr Amanda StephensSenior Research Fellow,Monash University Accident Research Centre
SimonAll in the Mind listener and business owner
Credits:
Presenter/producer: Sana Qadar
Senior producer: James Bullen
Producer: Rose Kerr
Sound engineer: Harvey O'Sullivan
More information:
Estimated car cost as a predictor of driver yielding behaviors for pedestrians
Higher social class predicts increased unethical behavior
The fast and the furious: Research shows that owners of high-status cars are on a collision course with traffic

Over years of practice, clinical psychologist Dr Mary Anderson started to notice a peculiar pattern across her many clients.
Despite being impressive high achievers on the outside, inside they were struggling with burnout, imposter syndrome, anxiety and self-criticism.
So she set out to develop a guide for these high achievers. A framework to support their success ... without sacrificing their mental health.
You can catch up on more episodes of the All in the Mind podcast with journalist and presenter Sana Qadar, exploring the psychology of topics like stress, memory, communication and relationships on the ABC Listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
This episode first aired in May 2025.
Guests:
Dr Mary AndersonClinical Psychologist; Author, The Happy High Achiever
Credits:
Presenter/Producer: Sana Qadar
Producer: Rose Kerr
Senior Producer: James Bullen
Sound Engineer: Tegan Nicholls
You can find the transcript for this episode on its original webpage here.
Extra Information:
The Happy High Achiever - Pan Macmillan Australia