Outwitting the Manipulator

• Fact vs. Feeling: Outsmarting Manipulators Word by Word

  When you’re caught in the heat of manipulation, it’s easy to get swept away by emotions—and that’s exactly the point. In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker reveal how manipulators deliberately choose words to ignite reactions, control momentum, and keep you off balance. They break down how to spot these verbal traps, why even “neutral” words can carry manipulative weight, and how to stay grounded by separating fact from feeling. Whether you’re dealing with a difficult partner, workplace manipulator, or simply navigating today’s emotionally charged media, this conversation gives you the tools to pause, question, and reclaim control.   Topics 00:56 Identifying Manipulative Words 01:57 Emotional Control in Manipulative Interactions 04:55 Manipulation in Media and News 06:52 The Complexity of Neutrality and Bias 12:22 Philosophical Debate on Right and Wrong 15:18 Manipulators' Self-Interest 16:09 Understanding Manipulative Relationships 16:32 The Illusion of Love in Manipulative Dynamics 18:35 Recognizing Patterns of Manipulation 19:45 Levels of Communication: From Gossip to Argument 21:28 The Power of Word Choice in Manipulation 23:43 Strategies to Identify and Counter Manipulation 28:25 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

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• "Liked or Respected? The Manipulator’s Favorite Dilemma"

  In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski tackle a tough choice many people face—especially under manipulation—deciding whether you want to be liked or respected. They explain why this binary decision can be a trap, particularly for “pathos” personalities who lead with emotion, and how manipulators exploit that vulnerability. Using insights from ethos–pathos–logos communication styles, they break down the risks of prioritizing likability in professional settings, how emotional dominance can cloud judgment, and strategies to protect yourself in real-time. The conversation emphasizes practical ways to maintain credibility, assert boundaries, and avoid falling into the manipulator’s game.   Topics 01:27 The Binary Choice: Respect vs. Being Liked 02:13 Understanding Ethos, Pathos, and Logos 03:38 Manipulation in Professional Settings 07:45 The Manipulator's Tactics 14:19 Changing Your Mindset 17:29 Understanding the Manipulator's Intentions 17:54 Identifying Traits of Respectable People 18:39 Self-Reflection and Personal Boundaries 20:17 Observing Manipulation in Others 21:04 The Cult Analogy: Pathos and Ethos 22:43 The Subtle Erosion of Self 23:40 Reacting to Manipulation in the Workplace 25:32 Invitation for Real-Life Scenarios 28:16 Building Personal Power and Respect 29:56 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

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• Defending Against Manipulative Questions

  Dennis and Robin discuss how manipulators use questions as a tactic to control and confuse their targets. The hosts offer valuable insights on how to recognize and respond to such questions effectively. Techniques include maintaining neutrality, avoiding defensive answers, and using non-verbal cues. They also explore various types of manipulators (ethos, pathos, logos) and provide strategies tailored to each type. The episode emphasizes the importance of staying composed and setting boundaries to protect oneself from manipulation.   Topics 01:28 The Power of Manipulative Questions 03:59 False Choices: A Manipulator's Tactic 04:47 Techniques to Counter Manipulative Questions 12:22 The Importance of Neutrality 20:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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• Brittanie's Battle with a Manipulator

  Robin and Dennis interview Brittanie about her personal experiences with manipulation. Brittanie shares her background, growing up in a family with a manipulative dynamic, and how this has influenced her own relationships. She discusses the challenges of co-parenting with a manipulative ex and stresses the importance of being self-aware and vigilant. The conversation covers techniques for neutralizing manipulation, such as paraphrasing and not reacting immediately. Brittanie also emphasizes the significance of maintaining boundaries and understanding the manipulator's background to avoid being too compassionate. The episode aims to provide listeners with practical tools and insights to identify and handle manipulation effectively.   Topics 02:07 Brittanie's Background and Early Experiences 02:59 Challenges of Co-Parenting with a Manipulator 04:48 Recognizing Manipulation Tactics 08:11 Strategies to Counter Manipulation 11:51 The Importance of Neutral Responses 14:35 Using Paraphrasing as a Tool 16:44 Drawing Parallels with Child Behavior 19:17 Breaking the Manipulator's Momentum 21:08 Navigating Manipulative Relationships 21:47 Personal Experiences with Gaslighting 22:30 Understanding Manipulative Behavior 23:22 The Role of Manipulation in Society 24:34 Parental Influence on Manipulative Tendencies 28:29 Strategies to Handle Manipulation 30:32 The Emotional Impact of Manipulation 37:53 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections 40:09 Conclusion and Farewell

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• Less Is More: Outsmarting Manipulators with Brevity

  When dealing with manipulators, saying less can protect you more. In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski dive into the power of brevity—and why over-explaining makes you an easy target. Through live role-play, mindset shifts, and simple, real-life tactics, you’ll learn how to respond with calm confidence, defuse manipulation in the moment, and stop feeding the fire. Whether it’s a toxic boss or a needling sibling, this episode teaches you how to stay neutral, keep your cool, and take control. 🎯 Learn how to: Break the habit of over-explaining Use the “Broken Record” technique effectively Respond with neutral tone, confident volume, and simple words Protect your credibility and emotional energy 🔗 Visit OutwitInRealTime.com to catch up on past episodes and submit your questions!   Topics   00:53 The Power of Brevity in Communication 01:33 Understanding Manipulation Tactics 04:24 Mindset and Cultural Considerations 08:28 Improv Scenarios: Handling Manipulation at Work 18:53 Starting with Confidence 19:25 The Power of Consistent Tone 20:45 Mastering the Broken Record Technique 22:58 Handling Manipulative Tactics 25:18 Sibling Dynamics and Emotional Triggers 27:48 Consistency and Resilience 29:27 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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