Belonging: Conversations about rites of passage, meaningful community, and seasonal living

My essay, Gossip was sacred until they made it dangerousSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Loving a Man in a Patriarchal WorldSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay What It Means to be Ready NowSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

In this solo episode, I reflect on this past year and look forward at what's ahead through the lens of the seasons. I muse on my experience of the second full year on our farm and how we have expanded, moved through challenges and triumphs throughout the growing season. I also talk about my upcoming winter plans and what I’m generally looking forward to during the darker months. Also…I’m pregnant! Surprise!Tune in to hear more from me on:Hyperlocal and bioregional involvement with the farm standHow and why I’ve been refining friendships and connections this yearDialing down the people pleasing and rooting into my own valuesHouses as living entities and the sign about my pregnancyHow winter is the season of gathering and how it impacts community buildingPicking up writing again and considering self publishing after multiple rejections of a book ideaMy passion for women’s circles and gearing up to share my Circle Craft training again this winterResources + LinksSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackMy essay The Summer I Got Stung A LotMy essay about the loss of our pregnant cow The First Big LossMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[03:19] How Farm Life is Going[14:18] An Update on Community-Building[24:25] What I’m Looking Forward to this Winter

On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing’, which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. Tune in to hear more from us on:How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of selfThe true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causesHow shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do thisTrad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowermentEmotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitationHow to learn the body’s language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come fromManaging text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaserResources + LinksBéa Victoria Albina’s book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’Béa’s website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpBéa’s podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast’My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing [10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing [14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency [22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing [29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust [39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy [49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser [45:20] Bea’s Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’