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Anna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself.  I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you.
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To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu
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LINKS MENTIONED: 
Get Anna Rollins' book Famished
Follow Anna on Substack
Watch our Love & Respect Docuseries 
The Portuguese version of The Great Sex Rescue
The Chinese version of The Great Sex Rescue
The Spanish version of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Rebecca, Joanna, and I are pulling back the curtain on what went into making the Love & Respect docuseries — including the things that didn't make the final cut.
From the bizarre Nazi torture illustration Emerson used to keep women in bad marriages, to the genuinely heartbreaking story of a little boy watching his father abuse his mother, this episode gets raw and honest about why we've been fighting this battle for seven years. We also share the stunning survey results from a church in Florida that show exactly what happens when love-and-respect-style teaching takes root in a community. And we end with a word of real hope: healthy churches exist, better books are being written, and the tide is turning.
THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED: 
Watch the Love & Respect Docuseries! Episode 1, Episode 2, and Episode 3
Our Love & Respect hub (links to all Love & Respect articles 7 resources at bottom)
The Substack from the Florida woman
Subscribe to Good Fruit Faith on YouTube
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Part two of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book Love & Respect.
LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:
Watch the video version of this
Here's episode 1. 
To see episode 3 next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith Channel
This podcast delves into what Love & Respect is based on--recycled ideas from a 1970s best-seller; faulty stats; misrepresented research--and editing the Bible.
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Support Good Fruit Faith, that paved the way for this project
LINKS: 
Op-ed on the history of ordination of women and the SBC
Shaunti Feldhahn's original survey
Double-barrelled questions
Study on shoulder-to-shoulder communication
The Authoritarians book  
Breakdown of Eggerichs misunderstanding marital rape and saying you can't tell if a woman is aroused
Podcast about the mystery of a woman being "turned on"
Dr. Shauna Springer's original PsychologyToday article

EXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION: 
Dr. Chuck DeGroat 
Dr. Shauna Springer 
Dr. Andrew Bauman 
Dr. Beth Felkner Jones and her Substack 
Jay Stringer and his book Desire
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Part one of a three-part docuseries deep dive into the best-selling evangelical marriage book, Love & Respect.
THE LOVE & RESPECT DOCUSERIES:
This is a video series, so if you want to watch it in all its glory, head over to https://youtu.be/z3EEAkjwcXA!
To see episodes 2 & 3 when they launch next week, subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith Channel

This podcast delves into the broken logic of Love & Respect, why so many people bought into it, and the truly bizarre nature of what passes for evangelical marriage advice.
Copyright Disclaimer: - Under section 107 of the copyright Act 1976, allowance is mad for FAIR USE for purpose such a as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statues that might otherwise be infringing. Non- Profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of FAIR USE. All DVD clips and quotes from the book are used for criticism and teaching, and therefore fall under fair use.

BONUS CONTENT
Gain bonus content, full videos of the interviews and MORE if you become a patron! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

LINKS:
Support Good Fruit Faith
Our paper, Sanctified Sexism
Our one sheet on the problems with Love & Respect

EXPERT INTERVIEWEES INFORMATION:
Chuck DeGroat: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/
Chuck's book, "When Narcissism Comes to Church"
Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/
Andrew's book, "The Sexually Healthy Man" 

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“Romantic Smooth Rock (O Mundo Gira)” performed by Yummy Tunes/stock.adobe.com
“Gentle Relaxed Smooth Jazz (Soul Power)” performed by Tasty Tunes/stock.adobe.com
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Today I'm talking with Dr. Steven Tracy, author of "To Heal or Harm," about how scripture has been twisted to keep abuse victims trapped. We're diving into passages that discuss things like, "wives submit," "God hates divorce," and "a gentle answer turns away wrath" to show what they actually mean in context. And spoiler alert: none of them tell victims to stay in abuse. If you've ever felt like the Bible was being used against you, or if you're a pastor who wants to understand how to truly help abuse victims, this conversation is essential.

PLUS: A special announcement with Rebecca you won’t want to miss!
TO HEAL OR TO HARM: Get the book here!
COMING SOON:
Subscribe to the Good Fruit Faith channel for our Love & Respect podcast coming soon!
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED: 
Mending the Soul website
Reporting on John MacArthur excommunicating Eileen Gray for leaving her abusive husband
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.