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Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?

In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off.

We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections.

If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have.

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TIME STAMPS

04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal

06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos?

13:58 Stay curious

17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy?

23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner

24:39 Domination fantasy

27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us

30:03 Slutty and proud

31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy

33:29 Rape play fantasy

36:26 Sex in public fantasy

36:58 Threesome fantasy

37:22 Dirty talking fantasy

38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations

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Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify

Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify

 

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Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".

In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour.

Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves.

In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change.

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TIME STAMPS

04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected

08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships

12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection?

13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved

16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work

19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship

19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You

22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole

23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle

24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day

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Join Chiara's next live workshop "Finally share your secret fantasies without shame or fear"

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To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships.

Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections.

If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you.

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TIME STAMPS

01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship?

02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship

06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First

07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks?

11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy?

18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe

19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers

21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious?

25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room?

29:23 It's All About Boundaries

29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You?

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Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?

In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.

They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.

They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.

For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.

Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?
03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it
04:09 Is your relationship ready for this?
07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them
09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner
11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely
17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after
19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps?
23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle
26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on
30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you?
33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier
35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics
37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment
44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple?
46:56 The biggest mistake couples make

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If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies:

>> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship

 

>> Join Chiara's free live online workshop "How to share your fantasies without fear": register here

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>> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear"

Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections.

From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical.

They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence.

You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure.

Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.

 

TIME STAMPS 

00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working?

00:48 Let's Talk About Erections

02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You

03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking"

05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra?

08:40 More Pressure On The Man

09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind

11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20)

12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance

15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings?

16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings

18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem

19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room

20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations

21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard"

21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys

22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...?

23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido

24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation

24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit!

25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation

26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure

26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity

27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice!

28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage?

30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse

32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe

34:19 Become A Better Lover

36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick!

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