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• E18 Struggling with erections and performance anxiety? Here’s what you didn’t know you can do

  Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections. From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical. They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence. You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure. Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.   TIME STAMPS  00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working? 00:48 Let's Talk About Erections 02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You 03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking" 05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra? 08:40 More Pressure On The Man 09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind 11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20) 12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance 15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings? 16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings 18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem 19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room 20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations 21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard" 21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys 22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...? 23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido 24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation 24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit! 25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation 26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure 26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity 27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice! 28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage? 30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse 32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe 34:19 Become A Better Lover 36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick! == Ask us about Tantric Massage == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com Follow us on Instagram == YOUR GOODIES: >> Get 20% off your Mojo membership – forever – using our discount code: DEEPERSEX20 | Sign up for the Mojo App   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Book a free intro call with us

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• E17 How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women)

  This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms. Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is: Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women? And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa? Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women. Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.   TIME STAMPS 01:00 Let's talk about orgasms 01:22 How many types of orgasms are there? 04:34 Female orgasms 07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy 08:17 Leave the clit alone! 09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you 11:33 What are you doing to me? 13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience 17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other 18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next 21:22 Best practices for men 21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice 22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms 25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed 26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life 26:37 What is our primal need? 28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure 29:37 The secret club of pleasure 32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack 33:21 The 21 days challenge 34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction 35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her 37:11 If you are her 37:28 If you are him 37:51 How you can better communicate your needs 40:14 I feel pain during intercourse 42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap) 42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit 42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm) 42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge 43:21 4. Drop the blaming == Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman == The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra == Free guide download: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == Follow us on Instagram == Send us any questions here == Book a call here

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• E16 How To Restore Masculine/Feminine Polarity To Bring The Passion Back When Your Relationship Gets Meh

  Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender. They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease. In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together. == TIME STAMPS 00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2 01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships 02:31 What Women Blame Men For 03:38 What Men Blame Women For 06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless 10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits? 13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple 15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity? 17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy 24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner 25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side 28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe 32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today? 36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive" 38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender) 43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper? 43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two 43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner 44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid 45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief 45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For? 46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner 46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions == Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” == Follow us on Instagram == Send us any questions here == Book a free chemistry session with us here

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• E15 Have Deeper Sex: Stop Fighting About Sex, Improve Intimacy And Heal From Trauma Instead (Season 1 Finale)

  Guess what! We’ve been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you! We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo.  We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow.  What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. If this is calling you, sign up for our waitlist to join our upcoming workshops. == Meanwhile, don’t miss:   >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)   >> Catch up on these episodes   13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.   6: There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify   5: How Did We Do It?? From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex, Hot-Tub Orgies and Play Parties in a Castle Learn more about the hosts’ conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify == Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == TIME STAMPS 01:54 You Helped Us Grow 03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2 04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth 05:25 A Surprise For You 07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner 08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2 == Questions? DM us

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• E14 From Bedroom Boredom To First Date Chemistry S*x: This Is How You Transform Your Relationship

  Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.  They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it!  They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else. On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting. The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out! Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons. == To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify. And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) == To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify == TIME STAMPS 01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach 02:26 Download Our Free Guide 03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships 06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has 09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching 14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy 18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too 21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making 22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us 24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra 25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality 25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help? 26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane 34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image 40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear == WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF certified professional Intimacy Coach with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and become truly "comfortable" rather than just "confident", so they can embark on more intimate and sensual adventures.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === Follow us on Instagram ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

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