How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.

You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.

That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
01:26 - It comes down to two things
03:17 - Stay in your own lane
07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage
12:29 - Supercharge your revision
17:12 - Talk to your children
21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun
24:23 - Rest and restore
27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us
30:37 - What not to do
35:28 - Trust their process!

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In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.

In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

More about Sam and his work:
Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/
Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/
Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools

Highlights from this episode:
01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation
07:00 - Stress contagion
11:17 - Matching our children’s state
14:24 - Meet them where they’re at

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Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge?

Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience.

Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family.

To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

More about Sam and his work:
Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/
Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/
Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools

Highlights from this episode:
04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity
08:08 - Nature versus nurture
13:18 - Panic disorders
17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states
21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up
25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead
31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science
35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt
42:33 - Quadrants
48:00 - Mums and dads play differently
53:29 - Co-regulating
59:14 - Stress contagion

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“I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time.

Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough.

That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging.

In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
01:49 - Non-friction
06:23 - Modelling resilience
08:19 - Curated friction
10:20 - Boredom please
12:44 - Conflict is friction
14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks

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Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time?

It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed.

In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:
01:37 - Blankets and putty
03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation
09:10 - Puberty and hormones
12:27 - The emotional tank
18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing
22:25 - Over scheduling
26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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