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Hunter talks to Gretchen Rubin about How To Be Happier.

Some big takeaways from this episode include:

1. Make easy changes first — go for the low hanging fruit

2. How do you respond to expectations (inner and outer)? Answer this question BEFORE you try to change a new habit.

3. How to draw boundaries and when to simply stop doing something

Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She’s the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers The Four Tendencies, Better Than Before, and The Happiness Project.

How do you change bad habits and create good habits? How can you be happier every day? Author Gretchen Rubin has made a science of these subjects and shares her wisdom on this podcast. She pushes back against some commonly held beliefs like, “the middle path is always best,” and “give what you want to receive.” Gretchen will tell you why these are NOT always good ideas.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.

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What if the way you speak to your child is shaping not just their language—but their identity?

In this episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast, Hunter Clarke-Fields talks with Cara Tyrrell, linguist and early childhood educator, about how intentional language can transform your relationship with your child—from birth and beyond.

They explore the powerful difference between communication and language, why emotional safety is the foundation for learning, and how small shifts in your everyday words can build connection, confidence, and resilience.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you are saying the “right” things, this conversation offers a grounded, practical reframe. It is not about saying more. It is about saying what matters.

What You'll Learn in This Episode


Why communication and language are not the same—and why both matter


How using full, natural sentences supports early language development


What permission-based language is and how it helps children regulate emotions


Why emotional safety is essential for learning, exploration, and connection


How quality of communication matters more than quantity


The role of silence in supporting language development


How everyday phrases can shape your child’s identity and inner voice


Simple ways to shift from control-based to connection-based communication


Why it is never too late to repair and rebuild your relationship with your child


How neuroplasticity supports growth for both parent and child

Key Takeaways


Your words have weight, and your presence matters even more


Children thrive when they feel safe, seen, and accepted


Language can support or undermine a child’s sense of self


Connection is the foundation for cooperation and learning


Parenting is a process of becoming, not just achieving outcomes

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host of the
Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1
bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.

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This is from Hopestream: Parenting Kids Through Addiction & Mental Health with Brenda Zane.

Hunter Clarke-Fields was a painter. She had a graduate degree in art education, a high school teaching job, and what looked from the outside like a creative life. What nobody could see was that she was white-knuckling her way through it, cycling between intense highs and pits of despair she could not explain, having panic attacks in the hallways before she had any tools to handle them. She reached for yoga, then for books on mindfulness, and read about it for years before she finally, at 27, sat down and actually tried.

She set a timer for 10 minutes and sat there thinking the whole time. She was certain she was doing it wrong. But two months in, she looked back and realized she had not fallen into a single pit. Not one. For someone who had been cycling into darkness every couple of weeks for most of her adult life, that was not a small thing. It was everything. And it sent her down a path she never expected, one that eventually turned her into the Mindful Mama Mentor, a podcast host, a mindfulness teacher, and the bestselling author of Raising Good Humans.

Hunter now teaches mindfulness to parents all over the world, with over 20 years of meditation practice behind her and two daughters who, she will freely admit, grew up slightly allergic to the whole thing.

 I wanted to have this conversation because I think mindfulness gets written off as vague or soft, and Hunter makes it anything but. She explains what is actually happening in your brain when you blow up at your kid, why longer exhales are not just a cliche, and what she calls the Three R's, a framework so simple you will remember it in the worst moment. She also says something about feelings being like toddlers that I keep coming back to. 

If you have ever thought that mindfulness is not for you, or that you are too far gone to start, this one is for you.

You'll learn:

Why Hunter spent two months certain she was meditating wrong.

The part of mindfulness most people skip that changes everything.

Her Three R's for the moments you most want to lose it.

What she says feelings are like, and why it reframes everything.

The one thing she would tell a struggling parent to try today.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Hunter Clarke-Fields website

Raising Good Humans Book

Mindful Mama Podcast

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Most parents underestimate the power of changing their approach—it's not about strict rules or punishments, but about reconnecting through compassionate discipline.

Wendy Snyder and Hunter Clarke-Fields dive into how shifting from control to connection transforms your relationship with your children and creates a peaceful, respectful home. Discover the hidden influence of your nervous system patterns, and how unlearning them is the secret to lasting change.

You'll hear real stories of mistakes turned lessons, like the police station scare that failed—and what worked instead. Wendy shares her groundbreaking framework: Rules plus relationship equals respect—an approach that empowers kids to learn, cooperate, and trust without force. We break down practical tools to set firm boundaries with love, manage parent's own emotional triggers, and foster resilience in strong-willed children. 

If you've ever felt like you're failing or wonder if parental honesty can coexist with discipline, this episode offers hope—and a blueprint for a family legacy rooted in respect, peace, and joy. Perfect for parents ready to ditch shame and control, and those committed to raising confident, compassionate kids while honoring their own well-being. Whether you're just starting this journey or looking for fresh inspiration, these stories and strategies will empower you to create lasting change.

Wendy Snyder is a certified parenting coach, known for her work on compassionate discipline and high-will kids. She's the author of Fresh Start Your Family, dedicated to transforming family life—one gentle boundary at a time.Transform your parenting. Reclaim your connection. And get ready for a family dynamic you’ll love into your elder years. Don’t just survive parenting—thrive with respect and resilience.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.

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Summer brings more than sunshine and vacations—it brings change.

Whether your child is heading to camp, navigating more freedom with friends, learning new responsibilities, or preparing for college, summer often reminds us of a truth that's easy to avoid during the busy school year: our children are growing up.

In this special summer conversation, Hunter Clarke-Fields and Chris Willard explore how mindfulness can help parents navigate transitions with greater ease, courage, and trust. They discuss why letting go can feel so difficult, how overprotection can unintentionally undermine children's confidence, and what research says about raising capable, resilient kids.

Together, they dive into the parenting paradox: our job is to build strong attachment, but our goal is eventual independence.

In this episode you'll learn:


Why transitions feel difficult for both children and parents


How mindfulness helps us navigate uncertainty and change


The surprising science behind autonomy, competence, and connection


How to support independence without sacrificing safety


Why boredom is often the gateway to creativity and resilience


Practical ways kids can become contributors at home


How to handle homesickness, separation, and mixed emotions


Why summer is the perfect season to practice flexibility


The difference between healthy guidance and controlling behavior


How simple family rhythms can create calm during less structured months

Plus, Hunter and Chris discuss summer routines, family vacations, camp jitters, teenage freedom, and the often-unspoken grief parents experience as children grow more independent.

Because raising confident kids isn't about holding on tighter—it's about learning when and how to let go.

Resources Mentioned


Self-Determination Theory (Edward Deci & Richard Ryan)


Maria Montessori's work on independence and competence


Mindfulness practices for parenting through transitions

Have you ever struggled with letting go as your child grows? Share this episode with a parent who could use a little support this summer.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.

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