The Thais Gibson Podcast

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When someone won’t commit, it can trigger anxiety, self-doubt, and the urge to chase or over-explain.

But a securely attached person doesn’t beg, pressure, or abandon themselves.

They respond with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust, and that response changes everything.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down exactly how a securely attached person responds when a dismissive avoidant won’t commit, and how you can reverse engineer that response in your own healing journey.

You’ll learn the key differences in commitment timelines across attachment styles, how secure individuals communicate needs without pressure or ultimatums, and how they protect their time, energy, and emotional well-being when commitment remains unclear.

This episode is essential if you:
Feel stuck waiting for someone to “decide”
Are dating an avoidant partner who won’t commit
Tend to self-silence or people-please to keep connection
Want to respond with confidence instead of anxiety

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why attachment styles have different commitment timelines
✔ How secure people express interest without pressure
✔ The difference between clarity and ultimatums
✔ Why secure people don’t take avoidance personally
✔ How to communicate needs while holding empathy
✔ What secure boundaries look like in real conversations
✔ Why ending codependent patterns restores self-trust

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – How A Secure Person Reacts When An Avoidant Won’t Commit
00:36 – Each Attachment Style Has A Different Expectation 
01:16 – The Anxious Preoccupied And Dismissive Avoidant Timelines
 02:01 - The Fearful Avoidant And Secure Timelines
04:07 - Not Everybody Follows the Same Expectations 
04:41 - A Securely Attached Person Would Not Take Differences Personally
05:07 - How A Secure Person Reacts When They Don’t Want To Commit
06:48 - A Secure Person Expresses Their Own Needs
08:22 - Ending Relationship Codependency and Enmeshment Promo
08:51 - How A Secure Person Communicates They Want To Commit
10:22 - A Securely Person Shows the Avoidant That There’s a Natural Consequence For Not Showing Up

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
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📝 Read the PDS Blog
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After a fight with a Dismissive Avoidant, it can feel like they shut down completely, emotionally unavailable, distant, and unaffected.

But what looks like indifference on the outside is often a complex internal process happening beneath the surface.

Understanding what’s really going on can change everything, especially if you want to stop chasing, over-explaining, or losing yourself in the process.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the 4 internal stages a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style typically experiences after a conflict or argument.

You’ll learn why dismissive avoidants shut down, distance, and deactivate, not because they don’t care, but because emotional intensity feels unsafe at a nervous system level.

This episode is essential if you:
Are in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant
Feel confused by shutdown, stonewalling, or emotional distance after conflict
Want to respond in a way that supports connection without self-betrayal
Or are a dismissive avoidant wanting to understand your own internal process

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why shutdown and stonewalling are self-protection strategies
✔ What Dismissive Avoidants are actually trying to escape after conflict
✔ The distancing stage and internal deactivation dialogue
✔ How space (when respected) leads to emotional recovery
✔ Why reconnection happens slowly and why pushing backfires
✔ The curiosity and learning stage, when growth becomes possible
✔ How codependent patterns keep conflict cycles stuck

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants After an Argument?
00:36 – Stage 1: Shutdown or Stonewalling 
01:58 – Stage 2: Distancing 
03:55 – Stage 3: Recovery and Connection 
04:57 – Ending Codependency Course Promo  
05:18 – Stage 4: Curiosity and Learning

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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You may want love, connection, and intimacy… yet still feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or suddenly disconnected when relationships get close.

If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.

In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They Need

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course Free Forever! Start creating relationships that feel safe, connected, and fulfilling.
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-17-26&el=podcast

You may want love, connection, and intimacy… yet still feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or suddenly disconnected when relationships get close.

If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.

In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They Need

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last.
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-16-26&el=podcast

When you finally stop trying… it can feel like everything suddenly shifts.

And with a Fearful Avoidant, that shift often activates a powerful, and confusing, internal reaction.

Understanding what actually happens inside a fearful avoidant when you’re done trying can give you clarity, closure, and the confidence to stop second-guessing yourself.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the 4 major internal reactions a fearful avoidant experiences when they realize you’re truly done trying.

You’ll learn why Fearful Avoidants often swing between distance and pursuit, how abandonment fears get activated, and why reconnecting doesn’t always mean they’re ready for a healthy relationship.

This episode is especially important if you:
Feel stuck in a painful push–pull dynamic
Are trying to understand a Fearful Avoidant’s mixed signals
Keep getting pulled back in after you start letting go
Or are a Fearful Avoidant wanting insight into your own patterns

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why a Fearful Avoidant’s fear of abandonment activates when you stop trying
✔ The sudden shift from withdrawal into pursuit and what it really means
✔ Why pursuit doesn’t always equal readiness for commitment
✔ The nostalgia and reminiscing stage Fearful Avoidants go through
✔ How rewriting the story helps them emotionally shut down
✔ Why codependent patterns keep these cycles repeating
✔ How healing your attachment style breaks the push–pull loop

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – What Happens When A Fearful Avoidant Realizes You’re Done Trying
00:58 – Fear of Abandonment Gets Activated
01:55 – The Two Sides of Fearful Avoidants
03:05 - Fearful Avoidants Will Swing Into Pursuit
03:40 - Fearful Avoidants Don’t Want The Relationship to Work Again
04:30 - How Fearful Avoidants Act When Their Fear of Abandonment Is Activated
05:25 - Fearful Avoidants Can Be Blind To How Their Actions Affect Other People
06:08 - Fearful Avoidants Might Feel Like Their Pain Is Normal
07:34 - When Fearful Avoidants Realize You’re Not Trying, They Start Reminiscing
08:53 - Ending Relationship Codependency & Enmeshment Promo
09:33 -  When Fearful Avoidants Realize You’re Not Trying, They Rewrite The Story

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/