Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!

What if the reason your anxiety keeps coming back isn't because you're thinking the "wrong thoughts"?
In this episode, Sebastiaan sits down with psychologist Steve Wells to talk about Intention Tapping, a variation of EFT tapping that has deeply influenced how Seb helps people with social anxiety.
They explore why social anxiety often can't be "out-thought," why emotional attachment matters more than thoughts alone, and how tapping may help reduce the nervous system's perception of threat.
You'll hear why anxiety can become linked to everyday social situations, why resisting anxiety often makes it stronger, and how Intention Tapping can help release the emotional charge underneath social anxiety symptoms.
In this conversation, they cover:
• Why logic alone often doesn't stop social anxiety • The difference between CBT and tapping • Why anxiety is not just a thought problem • How emotional attachment keeps anxiety active • Why social anxiety is often a protective response • How tapping can help calm the nervous system • Why small shifts matter more than people think • How tapping can support gentle real-life progress • What to do when tapping "doesn't work" right away • How setbacks can become breakthroughs
They also discuss fear of judgment, blushing, physical anxiety symptoms, performance anxiety, upcoming social events, public speaking, podcasting, salsa dancing, and why forcing yourself to face your fears is not always the most effective path.
If you've tried changing your thoughts, affirmations, mindset work, or pushing yourself through social situations but still get triggered, this episode will give you a different way to understand social anxiety and what may help it shift.
Learn more from Steve Wells: https://intentiontapping.com https://eftdownunder.com
Get Sebastiaan's free training: Overcome Social Anxiety Without Having To Force Yourself To Face Your Fears https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow

Want structured guidance applying tapping to social anxiety?
Fast Social Anxiety Relief is Sebastiaan's step-by-step program that shows you what to tap on, how to use tapping before, during, and after social situations, and how to gradually reduce the emotional triggers behind social anxiety.
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/

Do you feel awkward or stuck when trying to talk to new people?
You are not alone. Social anxiety can make simple interactions feel like a big deal.
In this episode

I talk with Christoph Schiessl, someone who feels naturally at ease meeting strangers and building connections anywhere in the world. We explore how he approaches people without overthinking, why he expects positive interactions, and how his mindset makes socializing feel simple and even enjoyable.
What you'll discover:
🔹 How to start conversations without overthinking what to say
🔹 Why most strangers are far less judgmental than you think
🔹 How to feel more relaxed when meeting new people
🔹 Why focusing on connection works better than trying to impress
🔹 How to make friends naturally through simple interactions
💡 Quote from Christoph: "When I meet someone, I'm fully there in that moment. That's what people feel."
 
Start here:

Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast

This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety

It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new?
You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is.
In this episode

I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up.
What you'll discover:
🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations
🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting
🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing
🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact
🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through
💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result."
 
Start here:

Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast

This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety

It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new?
You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is.
In this episode

I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up.
What you'll discover:
🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations
🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting
🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing
🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact
🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through
💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result."
 
Start here:

Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast

This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety

It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want deeper connection, but still hold back because getting hurt feels too risky?
You are not alone. Social anxiety can make vulnerability feel unsafe, especially in relationships.
In this episode

I talk with Dr. David Lake, psychotherapist and relationship expert, about why vulnerability feels so difficult, why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy, and why social anxiety often magnifies the "I'm not good enough" belief. We also explore when vulnerability is helpful, when it is not, and how authentic feedback can help you feel safer being yourself.
What you'll discover:
🔹 Why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy
🔹 Why the "I'm not good enough" belief runs so deep
🔹 How criticism and conditional love feed self-doubt
🔹 Why vulnerability only works in the right context
🔹 Why "good enough" is healthier than trying to be perfect
💡 Quote from David: "It requires a lot of courage to be authentic and be your true self with another person."
 
Start here:

Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast

This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety

It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.