The Kink Consultant

In the first episode of a special three-part solo series, I am breaking down everything you need to know before you tell your partner you are kinky.

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This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, I am launching a special solo series on how to tell your partner you are kinky. In part one, I focus on the preparation that needs to happen before the conversation even starts, because disclosing a kink and asking your partner to participate in it are two very different things.

I walk through the questions you need to ask yourself first, including why you want to tell them, where your kink falls on the spectrum of fantasy, nice to have, and need, and how to identify the feeling underneath the kink so you can explain it in a way your partner can actually understand. I also address how to prepare for a no, why highly stigmatized kinks require extra time and softness, and why releasing shame is the number one thing standing between you and the experiences you want.

If you have been hiding a kink, wondering how to bring it up, or scared of how your partner will react, this episode gives you the foundation you need before part two.

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Melanie Rose, star of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room, joins the podcast to discuss sex room design, the history of sex toys, and how to create a pleasure space that works for your body and your relationship.

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This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Melanie Rose, interior designer, artist, and host of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room. They discuss how she went from designing kitchens and bathrooms to creating intimate sanctuaries for couples, why sex rooms do not have to look like dungeons, and how she approaches consultations with curiosity and zero judgment. They also discuss her favorite recommendations for spicing up a master bedroom, including the Tantra Chair, underbed restraint kits, and her curated website where everything has been personally tested or vetted.

If you have ever wanted to add a little spice to your bedroom, wondered how to store your kinky items tastefully, or been curious about what it is really like to design a sex room, this episode is for you.

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https://www.melanieruthrose.com/
https://www.instagram.com/melanieruthrose/
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https://www.pinterest.com/melanieruthrose/

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Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store

The hosts of The Kinky Cocktail Hour join the podcast to share their 24/7 D/S dynamic story, how they evolved their relationship over time, and why kink is the way they communicate.

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This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Saffer Master and Lady Petra, hosts and producers of The Kinky Cocktail Hour podcast. They share their powerful origin story of coming out of 30-year marriages, finding each other on FetLife, and building a 24/7 dynamic. They explore how Lady Petra discovered her dominance after years of identifying as a service submissive, why they renew their vows every six months, and how checking your ego at the door is the key to a healthy dynamic. They also discuss the importance of daily debriefs, why kink is the way they communicate, and how they built their relationship through curiosity and connection.

If you have ever wondered how a dynamic can evolve over time or how to navigate a major shift in roles, this episode offers a beautiful example of what is possible when both partners stay open and committed.

Connect with Saffer Master and Lady Petra
https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married
https://hardmarried.net/
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/kinky-cocktail-hour/id1505110538

Connect with Amanda
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Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠

Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store

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Fitrix, personal trainer, and OnlyFans creator Carmilla Vess joins the podcast to discuss how kink and fitness intersect, why butt plugs can teach you to squat, and how to break the binge-restrict cycle. 

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This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Carmilla Vess to explore the unexpected overlap between kink, fitness, and binge-eating. Carmilla shares her approach to fit domming, why she refuses to use food or working out as punishment, and how she builds sustainable programs for clients. They also dive into the binge-restrict cycle, why shame keeps people stuck, and how to love your body through the process instead of hating it into change.

If you have ever struggled with consistency in the gym, felt shame around your body, or wondered how kink and fitness actually connect, this episode offers practical tools and a refreshing perspective.

Connect with Carmilla Vess
https://www.instagram.com/fitfor.ofans/
https://www.instagram.com/xo_carmilla/
https://www.tiktok.com/@carmilla_vess
https://x.com/Carmilla_Vess

Connect with Amanda
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Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store

Four real people, four very different kink journeys, and a whole lot of proof that listening to your kink can actually change your life. 

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For the 100th episode of The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with four former clients to share their real-life stories of kink, BDSM, relationships, desire, and self-discovery. From finding the courage to prioritize a long-suppressed kink, to discovering D/S as an adult virgin, navigating a relationship where partners have different interests, and learning how to bring kink into a long-term partnership, these stories show just how different a kink journey can look. There are no neat fairy-tale endings here. There are hard conversations, changing relationships, boundaries, experimentation, vulnerability, and plenty of growth.

If you've ever wondered what could happen when you stop ignoring what you want, this episode is for you. Hear how embracing kink helped these clients become more honest with themselves, communicate more openly, build stronger relationships, and feel more comfortable in their own skin. 

Connect with Amanda
⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠
⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠

Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store