Reflective Parenting Podcast by Curious Neuron

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Many of us have absorbed the message that emotions matter, then ended up stuck in the moment, rescuing, fixing, and working hard to keep our kids happy. In this episode, I talk with Dr. Siggie, author of the new book You Are the Parent, about the missing piece: recognizing and validating a child’s feelings without letting those feelings run the household.
We talk about why overparenting leaves parents exhausted and kids more anxious, and why looking inward at your own triggers matters so much. We also get into how a child’s temperament (feisty, flexible, or fearful) changes the way you need to show up, and how to turn disagreements with your co-parent into conversations. Along the way, we tackle rudeness, morning power struggles, and why “your power is in your restraint.” 
In this episode:
Validation, not accommodation: all emotions are okay, but not all behaviors are, and kids build resilience when we let them struggle safely with us beside them as their coach.
Know your child: the “easy” child may just be agreeable by nature, the feisty child isn’t flawed, and comparing or questioning a child’s shyness or fear can backfire.
Rudeness and power struggles: correct the trigger underneath the behavior, skip the long “because” speeches, and stay on task with a brief, calm “I hear you, now let’s go.”
Pause and try again: slowing down helps us respond instead of react, and “let’s try that again” works for parents and kids alike.
About our guest
Dr. Siggie is a parenting expert with over 1.6 million followers on Instagram and the author of You Are the Parent. She offers courses for parents of younger and older children, plus courses on siblings and anxiety, and a library of downloadable tips and tools.
Links
You Are the Parent by Dr. Siggie US link: here
Dr. Siggie’s website: here
Dr. Siggie’s Instagram: here
Join the Reflective Parenting Podcast Book Club to learn about her book all month: here
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Join the Reflective Parent Book Club for only $9.99 for the year: https://reflectiveparentclub.circle.so/checkout/reflective-parenting-book-club
Watch my Tedx Talk on YouTube called The Over-Educated, Emotionally Underprepared Parent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDYJFY_9K9E&t=19s
Grab my course for $99, The Emotionally Aware Parent: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

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Have you tried everything to make bedtime easier, yet it still ends in frustration? Or do you find yourself snapping at your child and wondering why the same patterns keep repeating?
In this episode, I explore ideas from Tiny Experiments by Anne-Laure Le Cunff and how we can apply them to parenting. Instead of searching for one perfect solution, I share how collecting simple “field notes” can help us understand the many factors influencing our child's behaviour, including our own stress, energy, and connection at home.
In this episode, I explore:
Why parenting struggles rarely have one quick fix.
How our stress and emotional capacity influence our reactions.
How to collect field notes to recognize patterns.
How tiny experiments can help us try small changes without expecting perfection.
A reflection to try: Choose one recurring parenting struggle and observe what happens before, during, and after it. What patterns do you notice? What is one small thing you could experiment with?
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Join the Reflective Parent Book Club for only $9.99 for the year: https://reflectiveparentclub.circle.so/checkout/reflective-parenting-book-club
Watch my Tedx Talk on YouTube called The Over-Educated, Emotionally Underprepared Parent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDYJFY_9K9E&t=19s
Grab my course for $99, The Emotionally Aware Parent: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

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Hi Reflective Parents,
In today's episode, we chat about The Tripartite Model of Parental Socialization! Yes, that's nerd talk for "How do kids learn to regulate/cope with emotions?"
This is important for all of us to learn because has a significant impact on our children's behaviour, our stress, their success in school and in building friendships and even their future well-being. 
Learn how to create the best home environment that lowers your stress, teaches your child how to cope with emotions and supports healthier behaviour from all members of your family! 
Don't miss my 8-week program starting October 27th! We meet every Tuesday at 12pm ET or 8pm ET (join with your partner at no extra cost!)
https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

Past episodes you might enjoy:
Supporting a child's emotional development through play with Tina Payne Bryson
Understanding a child's emotional development with Amanda Sheffield Moris
Blog post on curiousneuron.com
Support the show
Join the Reflective Parent Book Club for only $9.99 for the year: https://reflectiveparentclub.circle.so/checkout/reflective-parenting-book-club
Watch my Tedx Talk on YouTube called The Over-Educated, Emotionally Underprepared Parent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDYJFY_9K9E&t=19s
Grab my course for $99, The Emotionally Aware Parent: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

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As parents, we often step in to help our children because we love them and want to make life easier for them. However, when we constantly solve their problems, prevent frustration, or take over tasks they could learn to manage, we may unintentionally limit their opportunities to develop emotional regulation, resilience, problem-solving skills, and confidence.
In this episode, I explore the research on over-parenting, Jessica Lahey's book The Gift of Failure,  and reflect on why allowing children to experience uncomfortable emotions, make mistakes, and face appropriate consequences is an important part of their development. 
Three reflections to consider:
Is this truly a problem my child cannot handle, or a problem they are learning how to handle? 
What is happening inside me that makes me want to step in right now? 
What is the smallest amount of support I can offer my child that still lets them do the next part? 
The goal isn't to let our children fail at everything. It's to create opportunities for them to struggle, learn, recover, and discover that they are capable of handling life's challenges.
**Join our book below to discuss this week's topics in school-aged children and get some tips!

Sources:
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey
Podcast episode with Jessica Lahey
Science Article: Childhood self-regulation as a mechanism through which early overcontrolling parenting is associated with adjustment in preadolescence
Curious Neuron blogpost: Doing too much for our kids is having a negative impact on their development

Support the show
Join the Reflective Parent Book Club for only $9.99 for the year: https://reflectiveparentclub.circle.so/checkout/reflective-parenting-book-club
Watch my Tedx Talk on YouTube called The Over-Educated, Emotionally Underprepared Parent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDYJFY_9K9E&t=19s
Grab my course for $99, The Emotionally Aware Parent: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

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I'm joined by occupational therapist and author Laura Petix to celebrate the launch of her new book, The Sensory Code. Laura shares the moment she took her own daughter to the ER because of daily meltdowns, and how that experience shaped her work with parents.
In this episode, we talk about:
The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown, and why length and recovery time matter
Why gentle parenting still matters even when it doesn't stop the meltdown
The eight sensory systems, including interoception, and why hunger or worry can trigger a "zero to 100" reaction
Laura's "zoom in, zoom out" tool for finding the patterns behind a behavior
How to talk to your child about an ADHD diagnosis without making it feel like something is wrong
Why a diagnosis explains behavior but doesn't excuse it
How to help siblings feel seen, and my wish list for schools
Why we need accommodations too, as parents
Resources:
Get The Sensory Code: [Canada link] | [US link]
Join our book club, where we'll be discussing Laura's book all week: [link]
Support the show
Join the Reflective Parent Book Club for only $9.99 for the year: https://reflectiveparentclub.circle.so/checkout/reflective-parenting-book-club
Watch my Tedx Talk on YouTube called The Over-Educated, Emotionally Underprepared Parent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDYJFY_9K9E&t=19s
Grab my course for $99, The Emotionally Aware Parent: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/