Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

This is it! Finally! 7 absolutely foolproof ways to get your kids to listen the FIRST time.

Ok ok – you got me. I lied. There is no way (unless you consider instilling intense fear by yelling and threats) Sorry for the clickbait but I still get asked this by many a parent when I’m coaching, presenting or just bump into someone at the shops.

But think about it: how many times have you said “shoes on” today? Three? Seven? Ugh. It’s universal.

Today I’m challenging the thing every parent wants to know, because “how do I get them to listen the first time?” is really “how do I get them to do what I want, immediately?” And that’s setting us up for a power struggle before we’ve even opened our mouths. (Been there, a hundred times, until I learnt a NEW way).

Let’s stop trying to raise kids who obey like little robots and start working WITH their brains instead of against them. Because you’ll very quickly see fewer battles and a lot more cooperation (no threats, bribes or punishments needed).

I also cover why this is NOT permissive parenting, and also why my kids aren’t unicorns (one’s a tween and one’s ADHD and we definitely have Moments with a capital M).

Your goal isn’t a kid who obeys the first time. It’s a kid who feels respected enough to want to cooperate.

Pick one of the 7 to try this week and let me know how you go!

📖 Want the full roadmap? My book, From Chaos to Connection, is the companion to this podcast. Link in the show notes.

🎥 Want to watch instead of listen? This episode is over on my YT channel: www.youtube.com/c/stephaniepinto

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

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“Stop crying” is probably the most automatic sentence in parenting, and I said it to my own child in the middle of a carpark after a kids’ party. (Plus a thousand more times over the yeras I'm sure).

Today I explain why it ACTUALLY comes out of our mouths so fast, and how the way we were parented plays a bigger part than most of us realise. I walk you through what crying really is, a simple step-by-step approach for staying calm when the tears start, and 10 phrases you can use TODAY.

I also share why often the most powerful thing you can do is say nothing at all. If you want to stop reacting and start responding, this is a great place to start.

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🎥 Want to watch instead of listen? This episode is over on my YT channel: www.youtube.com/c/stephaniepinto

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
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A while back, I posted a reel of my son spilling soda on the couch and me NOT punishing him. It got over 1 million views, and the comments were INSANE.

The question I heard most was “Don’t kids need consequences??” Yeees BUT they’re almost never what most of us think. And they do not have to hurt to "work" (in fact they really must NOT!).

In this episode I break down discipline vs punishment, what the research really says, and the 5-question check that tells you whether your consequence is a real consequence or a punishment in a pretty outfit. You’ll also get 10 real examples for ages 2 to 16, plus the story of a mum I coached whose daily screen-time battles ended this exact approach.

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🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

If this way of thinking resonates, my book on Amazon goes deeper into these ideas — emotional intelligence as the foundation for calmer, more connected parenting. Think of it as a companion to this conversation. 📚 Find my book From Chaos To Connection by Stephanie Pinto on Amazon here!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
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When your child struggles, every instinct says to find the problem and fix it. But 99% of the time, that actually making things harder (sorry!)

Most of the world around us, from the medical model to many therapy rooms, takes a deficit approach: what’s wrong, what are the risks, how do we fix it. The Resilience Donut is the opposite. It’s a strengths-based approach that flips the usual advice on its head. Instead of pouring your energy into your child’s weakest area, you find what’s already working and build on it.

I unpack the 3 key messages every child needs to hear on the inside (they're much more simple than you think!) the 7 things around them that protect them when life gets hard, and why kids who think pessimistically can hold on to things that they brush off even your best encouragement.

Head to www.theresiliencedoughnut.com.au for more info.

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

If this way of thinking resonates, my book on Amazon goes deeper into these ideas — emotional intelligence as the foundation for calmer, more connected parenting. Think of it as a companion to this conversation. 📚 Find my book From Chaos To Connection by Stephanie Pinto on Amazon here!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: hello@stephaniepinto.com
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
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IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

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What if your child's most baffling behaviour isn't defiance or attitude at all?

Consequences, reward charts, and bribes haven't stopped the meltdowns, refusals, or shutdowns. That's because it's not about discipline. It's about the sensory system (that no-one teaches us by the way!)

I'm joined by occupational therapist Laura Petix, author of the new book The Sensory Code, and founder of Instagram's @theotbutterfly, to talk about a topic that doesn't get enough airtime. Laura shares how looking at behaviour from a different angle, kind of like coming in through a side window, can change everything about how you understand and respond to your child, whether they're a toddler or a teenager.

You'll walk away with a fresh lens, quick practical strategies, and definitely a few lightbulb moments.

Where to find Laura's book The Sensory Code: all good bookstores and online! Head to www.theotbutterfly.com or find her on Instagram. The book is OUT NOW! Go go go :)

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

If this way of thinking resonates, my book on Amazon goes deeper into these ideas — emotional intelligence as the foundation for calmer, more connected parenting. Think of it as a companion to this conversation. 📚 Find my book From Chaos To Connection by Stephanie Pinto on Amazon here!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: hello@stephaniepinto.com
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 150,000+ parents in the community!
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