232. A Key Piece Missing from the Self-Development World
If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself disconnected, reactive, or avoiding emotional discomfort.In this episode, I’m diving into why empathy might be the most undertrained skill in personal development, especially for men. If you’ve been missing this piece, this episode will help you reconnect—with yourself, your values, and the people you love.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/missing-from-self-development-world
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231. Understanding Your Window of Tolerance with Hunter
Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised.In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when overwhelmed. You'll hear practical tools to return to your green zone and how to process emotions in a healthy way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/window-tolerance-hunter If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme
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230. Censorship Isn’t Protection and the Truth About Porn Bans
Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve.Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You’ll feel empowered, knowing how to make a real difference without unintentionally causing harm, because true safety comes from education and guidance, not control. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/censorship-protection-bans If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme
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229. Intrusive Thoughts
Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop. In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how we can learn to let intrusive thoughts exist without engaging with them, ultimately allowing them to fade naturally into the background. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/intrusive-thoughts If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme
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228. Perfectionism
Are you a high achiever trying to do everything right? I dive deep into perfectionism today - not as a badge of honor, but as a core fear of not being enough that often masquerades as discipline and drive. As a perfectionist myself, I understand how this mindset can both motivate and harm us in our journey toward healing and growth. This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of self-protection rather than self-improvement. I examine the ways our inner oppressor develops from external voices we internalized growing up, whether from parents, school systems, or traumatic experiences that made us feel unsafe making mistakes. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/perfectionism If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme
This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you.
Visit sarabrewer.com to learn more about overcoming pornography for good.
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