Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads

Justin Shaw went from addiction, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and spiritual rock bottom to a life-changing “bliss attack” that completely rewired how he saw himself. In this raw, funny, and deeply human conversation, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles talk with Justin about shadow work, religious trauma, emotional healing, and what happens when we stop letting fear drive the damn car.

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“The shadow is the reactor. The sorcerer is the responder.” — Justin Shaw

Episode Description

Justin Shaw knows what it feels like when the shadow takes the wheel. After years of addiction, PTSD, depression, anxiety, grief, and spiritual confusion, he reached a point where survival was no longer enough. He wanted to understand why pain kept repeating itself—and how to stop reacting from wounds he had never learned to heal.

In this bold and brutally honest conversation, Justin joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to explain why our shadow cannot simply be locked in the trunk and ignored. Instead, he believes we must recognize it, care for it, and move it into the back seat where it no longer controls every decision. Justin shares how comedy first became a way to escape emotional pain, how substance use took over his twenties, and why traditional recovery and religious spaces helped him for a time but eventually left him trapped in fear.

He also opens up about losing his mother, questioning beliefs about hell and worthiness, and experiencing what he calls a “bliss attack”—a powerful wave of love, clarity, and connection that changed the direction of his life. Through his book, Sourcery 101: 13 Rungs to a Higher Elevation of Consciousness, Justin now offers a practical, no-BS path toward emotional alchemy, curiosity, and personal freedom.

This episode is about questioning inherited beliefs, separating your identity from your trauma, and learning to respond instead of react. It is messy, funny, spiritual, uncomfortable, and full of hope—because healing is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering who the hell you were before fear took over.

Keywords: Justin Shaw, shadow work, addiction recovery, PTSD healing, anxiety support, depression recovery, emotional freedom, religious trauma, spiritual awakening, trauma healing, mental health podcast, consciousness, self-awareness, emotional wellness, personal growth

Meet Our Guest — Justin Shaw

Justin L. Shaw is a mystical comedian, spiritual sherpa, author, and self-described Sourcerer who uses humor and higher-consciousness principles to help people transform pain into wisdom. After navigating addiction, PTSD, depression, anxiety, grief, and religious fear, Justin developed a grounded approach to healing that blends comedy, curiosity, shadow work, and spiritual connection without dogma or toxic positivity.

Website: https://www.awakenthesourcerer.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sorcerer_u_13/

Book: Sourcery 101: 13 Rungs to a Higher Elevation of Consciousness - Available through Amazon and Audible.

Key Takeaways

Your shadow is not something to destroy—it is something to understand, care for, and stop allowing to run your life.

Unhealed trauma often shows up as anger, reactivity, addiction, anxiety, or destructive behavior.

You are not your diagnosis, addiction, fear, or trauma. You are the awareness observing those experiences.

Healing is not one-size-fits-all, and recovery should leave room for different spiritual beliefs and personal paths.

Questioning inherited beliefs can be painful, but curiosity creates space for emotional freedom.

Happiness comes from temporary experiences, while joy can remain present between those moments.

Actionable Items

When you feel triggered, pause and ask: “Am I reacting from my shadow, or responding from awareness?”

Write down one belief you inherited about yourself, religion, success, or worthiness—and honestly question whether it is still true.

Create a healthy outlet for anger or fear through journaling, movement, comedy, music, art, or honest conversation.

Important Chapters

00:00:37 – Welcome to Justin Shaw
G-Rex and Dirty Skittles introduce Justin and jump into his description of being “a little bit Deepak and a little bit Tupac.”

00:01:26 – Understanding the Shadow and the Sorcerer
Justin explains how the shadow can drive the car, sit in the passenger seat, or rest safely in the back seat when we learn to care for it.

00:05:26 – Healthy Ways to Work With Anger
From journaling and exercise to comedy and creative expression, Justin shares ways to process shadow emotions without harming ourselves or others.

00:08:42 – Comedy as a Pain-Ducker
Justin talks about growing up emotionally unsupported and using humor, television, food, and entertainment to create relief and connection.

00:13:05 – Addiction, Rehab, and Relapse
He opens up about addiction to opioids and benzodiazepines, his first attempt at rehab, and why physical sobriety alone was not enough.

00:15:39 – Recovery, Religion, and Fear
Justin describes following the AA and Christianity path, then spiraling after his mother became terminally ill and he feared she was going to hell.

00:17:35 – Rebuilding Beliefs After Religious Trauma
Working with a shaman, meditation, and self-inquiry helped Justin challenge dogma and begin separating spirituality from fear.

00:19:32 – Justin’s First “Bliss Attack”
Justin describes a three-hour experience of love, clarity, and spiritual connection that became his “near-life experience.”

00:20:45 – Loss, Grief, and Searching for Direction
After losing contact with his young son, Justin moved to Sedona and asked the universe for guidance about what to do next.

00:22:32 – The Difference Between Happiness and Joy
Justin explains why temporary pleasure is not the same as cultivating a deeper, more sustainable sense of inner peace.

00:25:30 – Spiritual Healing Outside Traditional Religion
G-Rex and Justin connect over religious trauma, changing beliefs, and finding support beyond the walls of a church.

00:31:36 – Creating Sourcery 101
Justin shares why he created 13 “rungs” instead of 12 steps and how his framework turns pain into emotional alchemy.

00:33:29 – Healing Is Not One-Size-Fits-All
The conversation explores spiritual bankruptcy, anxiety, depression, PTSD, recovery, and the need for more inclusive healing options.

00:38:25 – Questioning Childhood Programming
Justin discusses how early messages shape identity and why adults must learn to question the beliefs installed during childhood.

00:42:30 – Advice to His Younger Self
Justin says he would tell his teenage self to question everything and approach life with curiosity.

00:44:32 – The Hardest Lesson Justin Learned
He reflects on realizing how many beliefs he accepted from people who may not have understood the truth themselves.

00:45:54 – Anxiety’s Theme Song
Justin chooses the Indiana Jones theme because anxiety can feel like a wild journey filled with rising intensity and sudden drops.

00:47:11 – Favorite and Least Favorite Words
Justin names his favorite word without hesitation and explains why “church” still brings up painful emotional memories.

00:48:47 – Where to Find Justin and His Work
Justin shares his social media, book, audiobook, email, and vision for combining spiritual growth with live mystical comedy.

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This conversation concludes our two-part Season 19 opener with Diandra Ford-Wing. In Part 2, Diandra joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to ask one hell of an important question: why are employees expected to navigate grief, burnout, mental health leave, and returning to work almost entirely alone? Together, they imagine a more human workplace built on emotional intelligence, practical support, psychological safety, and leaders who actually know how to lead people.

Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder

This episode includes references to suicide, depression, mental health crises, workplace trauma, and medical leave. Please listen with care.

If you or someone you know is struggling or experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 in the United States and Canada to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Help is available, and asking for it is an act of strength.

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Global crisis resources: https://findahelpline.com/

Awards & Downloads

Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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“Losing people won’t kill you. It can teach you how deeply you were capable of loving them.” — Inspired by Diandra Ford-Wing

Episode Description

What happens when an employee is too mentally unwell to work—but also too overwhelmed to navigate the system that is supposed to help them?

In Part 2 of our Season 19 opener, Diandra Ford-Wing, G-Rex, and Dirty Skittles take an unfiltered look at workplace mental health, FMLA, toxic leadership, grief literacy, and the emotional cost of being treated like a replaceable number.

Diandra shares how FMLA gave her the time she needed to recover after a suicide attempt, while Dirty Skittles describes the exhausting hoops she faced when severe burnout left her unable to form sentences or manage complicated paperwork. Their experiences reveal a brutal contradiction: people often need the most administrative help at the exact moment they are least capable of advocating for themselves.

The conversation also examines what happens when employees return from leave. Who prepares the manager? How should coworkers respond? Why are struggling employees expected to disclose private medical details just to satisfy someone else’s curiosity?

Together, the group imagines better systems: trained leave coordinators, crisis support that exists outside traditional HR, emotional intelligence standards for managers, return-to-work plans, ongoing leadership education, and workplaces where asking for help feels safe.

Diandra also reflects on the advice she would give her 16-year-old self, the hardest lesson she has learned through loss, and the tattoo she shares with her twin sister commemorating the 16,282 days their mother was alive.

This episode is a call for workplaces to stop treating mental health as a personal inconvenience. Employees are human beings—not machines, metrics, or cogs in somebody else’s wheel.

Keywords: Diandra Ford-Wing, workplace mental health, FMLA mental health, burnout leave, grief in the workplace, toxic workplace recovery, emotional intelligence, employee wellbeing, return to work, mental health accommodations, leadership training, workplace crisis support, psychological safety, bereavement reform, human-centered leadership

Meet Our Guest — Diandra Ford-Wing

Diandra Ford-Wing is an author, speaker, Sales Director, and workplace grief advocate committed to creating conversations about loss, burnout, resilience, and humanity at work. Through her speaking platform and her debut novel, Red Bird, she uses personal experience and storytelling to help others feel less alone while encouraging organizations to respond to grief and mental health crises with greater compassion.

Website: http://booksbydiandra.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diandrafordwing

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diandrafordwing

Book: Red Bird by Diandra Ford-Wing

Key Takeaways

Human resources primarily protects the organization, so employees need independent and accessible mental health support.

FMLA can provide essential recovery time, but the application process may overwhelm people already experiencing a crisis.

Employees returning from mental health leave do not owe coworkers the details of what happened.

Managers need practical training in burnout, grief, emotional intelligence, crisis response, and psychologically safe communication.

Supporting someone can be as simple as checking whether they ate, rested, brushed their teeth, or need quiet companionship.

Losing someone can change you without ending you, and healing does not erase the love that remains.

Actionable Items

Prepare a return-to-work sentence before taking leave or coming back: “I appreciate your concern, but I’m not discussing the details. I’m ready to focus on moving forward.”

Create a personal crisis folder containing benefit contacts, insurance information, leave policies, medical providers, and one trusted person authorized to help you navigate paperwork.

Leaders should schedule regular, private check-ins that ask about workload, safety, capacity, and support—not just performance metrics.

Important Chapters

00:00:46 — Taking the first step toward workplace reform: Diandra explains why simply getting into the room and beginning the conversation can create meaningful change.

00:01:56 — The need for workplace grief and crisis support: The group discusses why HR alone cannot provide the independent emotional support employees need.

00:03:40 — When burnout leaves you unable to advocate for yourself: Dirty Skittles describes how mental exhaustion made navigating medical leave and workplace procedures nearly impossible.

00:05:43 — How FMLA supported Diandra’s recovery: Diandra shares how her mother and manager helped her access leave after a suicide attempt.

00:06:44 — The exhausting reality of FMLA paperwork: The conversation exposes the deadlines, documentation, costs, and administrative pressure placed on people in crisis.

00:08:14 — Returning to work after mental health leave: G-Rex and Dirty Skittles discuss privacy, intrusive questions, and preparing a script for coworkers.

00:10:41 — What meaningful support can look like: The hosts share why simple, low-pressure check-ins can matter more than advice or demands for conversation.

00:12:45 — Building assessments and crisis-response systems: The group imagines tools that could help managers and leave coordinators identify escalating levels of distress.

00:14:45 — Why emotional intelligence must be a leadership requirement: Diandra reflects on how therapy changed the way she would lead and why technical skill alone does not make someone fit to manage people.

00:18:42 — Good managers, self-check-ins, and changing work culture: G-Rex discusses the leaders who made employees feel seen and the self-care questions she now asks herself.

00:21:21 — What must change first?: The conversation turns toward realistic reforms, including workload expectations, psychological safety, and leadership accountability.

00:25:38 — Why an EAP is not enough: The group challenges companies that point employees toward limited assistance programs without fixing harmful workplace conditions.

00:26:59 — Men, stigma, and asking for help: G-Rex directly addresses the shame many men experience around burnout, grief, and mental health leave.

00:28:00 — The advice Diandra would give her younger self: Diandra returns to age 16 with one clear message: things will get better.

00:29:18 — The hardest lesson loss taught her: Diandra explains why losing someone will not kill you and shares the meaning of the tattoo honoring her mother’s 16,282 days.

00:30:26 — Anxiety theme songs and favorite words: The episode closes with humor, reflection, and Diandra’s refusal to accept the word “can’t.”

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Welcome to Season 19 of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads. We’re opening the season with a powerful two-part conversation about grief, survival, workplace burnout, and what it takes to rebuild your life after everything changes without your permission. In Part 1, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with author Diandra Ford-Wing for a raw conversation about surviving a suicide attempt, losing her mother, stepping away from burnout, and learning that grief is love with nowhere to go.

Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder

This episode includes an open discussion of depression, suicide, hospitalization, grief, and the loss of a parent. Please listen with care.

If you or someone you know is struggling or experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 in the United States and Canada to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. You are not weak, broken, or alone, and you deserve support.

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Global crisis resources: https://findahelpline.com/

Awards & Downloads

Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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Mental Health Quote

“Grief is just love with nowhere to go.” — Diandra Ford-Wing

Episode Description

Burnout does not always arrive with a dramatic breakdown. Sometimes, it looks like showing up, hitting your numbers, answering messages, and quietly disappearing inside yourself.

In Part 1 of our Season 19 opener, author Diandra Ford-Wing joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to share what happened when grief, depression, and workplace exhaustion became too heavy to carry. After the sudden death of her mother, Diandra stepped away from a successful career and gave herself something corporate life rarely offers: time to stop, feel, and heal.

Diandra also speaks openly about surviving a suicide attempt at 24. She remembers the depression she could not name, the friend who found her, and the mother who made the difficult decision to place her in professional care. That choice saved Diandra’s life and began a relationship with therapy that continues today.

The conversation explores what it means to lose the person who made you feel safe, why three to five bereavement days are nowhere near enough, and how support systems can keep us standing when grief knocks the air out of us. Diandra explains the therapy exercise that helped her understand grief as love searching for somewhere to land.

She also shares how writing her debut novel, Red Bird, became a love letter to her mother and Aunt Audrey—and a safe harbor for others navigating loss.

This episode is honest as hell, but it is also filled with hope. You can survive the thing you believed would destroy you. You can ask for help. You can honor the people you have lost by choosing to keep living.

Keywords: Diandra Ford-Wing, grief recovery, workplace burnout, suicide prevention, depression recovery, losing a parent, grief and mental health, therapy, bereavement support, healing after loss, maternal loss, emotional resilience, Red Bird novel, storytelling as healing, mental health podcast

Meet Our Guest — Diandra Ford-Wing

Diandra Ford-Wing is an author, speaker, and accomplished Sales Director whose experiences with grief, depression, career burnout, and healing inspired her to use storytelling as a source of connection. Her debut novel, Red Bird, is a heartfelt tribute to her mother and Aunt Audrey and an exploration of love, loss, resilience, and the complicated beauty of being human.

Website: http://booksbydiandra.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diandrafordwing

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diandrafordwing

Book: Red Bird by Diandra Ford-Wing

Key Takeaways

Burnout can build quietly until your mind and body have nothing left to give.

Asking for professional help is not a failure; it can be the decision that saves a life.

A strong support system does not need perfect words—it needs consistency and presence.

Grief has no corporate timeline, and a few bereavement days cannot contain the loss of someone you love.

Therapy can help name emotions that feel too complicated or painful to explain.

Storytelling can give grief somewhere to go and transform private pain into connection.

Actionable Items

Write a free-association list of every word you connect with grief, burnout, or loss. Review the list and notice which themes keep appearing.

Identify three people you can contact when you are not okay, and tell them what useful support looks like for you.

Check your current level of exhaustion honestly. Ask yourself whether you need rest, professional support, medical leave, firmer boundaries, or a larger life change.

Important Chapters

00:01:07 — When burnout and grief collide: Diandra explains how her mother’s death intensified an exhaustion that had already been building and why she ultimately stepped away from work.

00:07:09 — Taking time off and writing Red Bird: During an 11-month career pause, Diandra wrote and published the novel that transformed her grief into a tribute to the women who shaped her.

00:08:39 — Why workplaces need grief literacy: The conversation turns to productivity culture, employee burnout, and the lack of meaningful support for grieving workers.

00:10:16 — Diandra’s suicide attempt and mental health crisis: Diandra shares the depression she experienced at 24, the night her friend found her, and the emergency care that followed.

00:11:58 — The decision that saved her life: Diandra’s mother recognized that love alone was not enough and insisted that her daughter receive professional psychiatric care.

00:14:46 — Gratitude, therapy, and learning how to cope: Diandra reflects on the coping tools she did not yet have and why she remains committed to therapy.

00:16:33 — Mourning a parent before the loss: Diandra discusses anticipatory grief and the ways she imagined her mother’s death before it happened.

00:18:32 — Grief is love with nowhere to go: A therapy exercise helps Diandra find the language that now shapes how she understands and carries grief.

00:20:19 — G-Rex on honoring her mother through the podcast: G-Rex shares why the show launched on Valentine’s Day and how she changed the meaning of a painful anniversary.

00:22:47 — Why bereavement policies fail grieving employees: The group challenges the idea that loss can be processed within a standard three-to-five-day leave period.

00:24:15 — The people who helped Diandra keep standing: Diandra speaks about the support of her husband, twin sister, older sister, and brother.

00:25:22 — Turning grief into advocacy: Diandra shares her goal of speaking on larger platforms and bringing more humanity into workplace culture.

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Season 18 reminded us that healing is not always about becoming someone new. Sometimes, it is about finding your way back to the person you were before trauma, shame, burnout, illness, or other people’s expectations pulled you away from yourself.

In this season-ender, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles look back at eight unforgettable guests, the lessons that stayed with them, and the conversations that changed how they think about anxiety, emotional healing, healthy masculinity, self-love, neurodivergence, food freedom, trauma, and listening to the body.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner for Best Health, a 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner for Best Mental Health Podcast, a 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner for Best Mental Health Podcast, and a 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner for Best Hosts, with more than 4.5 million downloads and listeners in more than 160 countries.

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“Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to the person you were before the world taught you to leave.” — Inspired by the guests of Season 18

Trigger Notice and Crisis Reminder

This episode includes conversations about suicide, suicidal thoughts, childhood sexual abuse, trauma, grief, serious illness, and mental health crises. Please take care of yourself while listening.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis in the United States, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.  https://988lifeline.org/

For crisis resources outside the United States:  https://findahelpline.com/

Episode Description

Season 18 brought us eight guests with completely different stories, but one truth kept showing up: healing begins when we stop running from ourselves and start listening.

In this season-ender, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles revisit the conversations that changed how they think about mental health, parenting, masculinity, trauma, food, illness, self-worth, and the way the body carries what the mind tries to bury.

Nancy Gilette reminded us that behavior is communication and that connection needs to come before correction. Dr. Mark Sherwood showed us what it means to become a hope dealer, especially for people who feel forgotten or written off. Dominic Petty helped us see that peace is not some distant finish line. It is the baseline underneath the noise.

Jason Lange gave men permission to feel what is happening in their bodies and talk about it without shame. Michelle Petties challenged diet culture by showing us that food noise is often emotional noise in disguise. Michael Caprio proved that a life-changing diagnosis can become part of your story without becoming the end of it. Alan Katz showed us that telling yourself the truth can set you free, even decades later. Anat Peri reminded us that the only way to feel better is to get better at feeling.

G-Rex and Dirty Skittles also reflect on their own growth, the ridiculous lies anxiety tells us, and what happens when you finally answer that voice with two words: watch me.

This episode is honest, funny, emotional, and full of reminders that your body is not the enemy, your emotions are not weaknesses, and asking for help carries absolutely zero shame.

Keywords: mental health podcast, emotional healing, coming home to yourself, anxiety recovery, self-discovery, trauma healing, emotional wellness, healthy masculinity, neurodivergent parenting, food freedom, self-love, body awareness, emotional literacy, personal growth, mental health awareness

Meet Our Guests — Season 18

Season 18 featured eight guests with eight very different stories, but every conversation gave us one unforgettable lesson about healing, self-awareness, and finding our way back to ourselves.

Nancy Gilette

Nancy taught us that behavior is communication. Before we rush to correct, fix, or control someone, especially a child, we need to slow down, listen, and connect first.

Dr. Mark Sherwood

Mark reminded us that hope can be life-saving. Even the smallest glimmer of hope can interrupt the darkness and help someone believe that more is still possible.

Dominic Petty

Dominic taught us that peace is not something we have to chase. It already exists beneath the anxiety, the noise, and the emotional chaos. The work is learning how to return to it.

Jason Lange

Jason showed us that emotional strength begins with body awareness. When men learn to name what they feel and take responsibility for their pain, they are less likely to pass that pain on to the people they love.

Michelle Petties

Michelle taught us that food struggles are rarely just about food. Lasting change begins when we understand the emotions, beliefs, and unmet needs underneath the behavior.

Michael Caprio

Michael reminded us that a diagnosis can change your life without ending it. Gratitude does not erase pain, but it can help us build meaning, connection, and hope on the other side of it.

Alan Katz

Alan taught us that the truth can set us free, even decades later. Healing began when he stopped blaming himself for what happened and finally told his own story with honesty and compassion.

Anat Peri

Anat reminded us that the only way to feel better is to get better at feeling. Self-love grows when we stop running from our emotions and learn how to sit with ourselves without judgment.

Key Takeaways

Healing is not always a reinvention. Sometimes, it is a return to the most honest version of yourself.

The body is a messenger, not the enemy.

Connection creates more change than shame or correction.

Emotional literacy helps us understand what is happening inside us.

Rock bottom can become a turning point, but asking for help should come sooner.

Your worth does not depend on achievement, toughness, productivity, or perfection.

Actionable Items

Ask yourself, “What is my body trying to tell me right now?”

Replace broad words like “fine” or “stressed” with a more specific emotion.

When anxiety says you cannot do something, answer it with evidence and two words: “Watch me.”

Important Chapters

00:00:37 — Welcome to the Season 18 Ender, celebrating 18 seasons with laughs and side quests.

00:05:17 — The Thread That Connected the Season: Finding your way back to yourself.

00:08:11 — Growth, Reassurance, and Reinvention: How the season changed G-Rex and Dirty Skittles.

00:11:09 — Nancy Gilette Connection before correction.

00:14:58 — Dr. Mark Sherwood Hope, vulnerability, and first responder mental health.

00:17:31 — Dominic Petty Inner peace, relationship healing, and baby spiders.

00:25:16 — Jason Lange Men’s groups, emotions, and healthy masculinity.

00:30:08 — Michelle Petties Food freedom and emotional eating.

00:33:20 — Michael Caprio Rare disease, gratitude, and resilience.

00:35:19 — Alan Katz Childhood trauma and telling yourself the truth.

00:37:14 — Anat Peri Self-love and learning to feel.

00:39:26 — Gratitude for the Season: Thanking the guests, listeners, and each other.

00:40:42 — What Anxiety Told G-Rex From “You won’t make it” to “Watch me.”

00:42:18 — Goodbye to Season 18: Closing out the season and welcoming Season 19.

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What happens when losing the life you thought you wanted finally sets you free? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with Anat Peri to talk about hitting rock bottom, uncovering childhood wounds, learning to feel your feelings, and building the kind of self-love that changes everything.

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Mental Health Quote

“The only way to feel better is to get better at feeling.” — Anat Peri

Trigger Notice and Crisis Reminder

This episode includes conversations about emotional trauma, anxiety, substance misuse, depression, and suicide rates. Please take care of yourself while listening.

If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis or considering suicide, call or text 988 in the United States and Canada. For international crisis resources, visit:
https://findahelpline.com

Episode Description

When Anat Peri discovered evidence that her five-year relationship was ending, she felt devastated—but underneath the heartbreak was an unexpected realization: she was finally free. Three weeks later, she boarded a one-way flight to California with $2,000, $40,000 in debt, no car, no job, and no permanent home. That rock-bottom moment became the beginning of her real journey toward self-love.

In this raw and deeply practical conversation, Anat joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to explain why personal growth requires more than positive thinking and intellectual breakthroughs. She shares how codependency, emotional disconnection, and an unhealed father wound shaped her relationships, career choices, and belief that she had to work harder to be worthy.

Anat also breaks down what it means to reparent yourself, recognize the childhood scripts still directing your adult life, and safely express emotions instead of judging, suppressing, or analyzing them. She explains why unfamiliar feelings can register as threats to the nervous system—and how giving an emotion your full attention for just 90 seconds can begin building emotional capacity.

This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is not about becoming someone else. It is about letting go of inherited roles, reconnecting with your body, and trusting that you are worthy without hustling, performing, or proving yourself. Your feelings are not the enemy. They are part of the path home.

Keywords: Anat Peri, self-love, emotional healing, inner child healing, reparenting, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, childhood trauma, father wound, codependency recovery, emotional expression, anxiety support, personal transformation, self-worth, generational healing

Meet Our Guest — Anat Peri

Anat Peri is the CEO and Founder of Training Camp for the Soul and the creator and Master Facilitator of the TCS Method, a transformational coaching framework that blends mindset work, somatic healing, and inner-child reparenting. With nearly two decades of experience in developmental and trauma-informed coaching, she helps coaches, healers, and business leaders move beyond survival, break painful patterns, and create lasting emotional freedom.

Website:
https://trainingcampforthesoul.com

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/anat.peri/

LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/anat-peri

Key Takeaways

Rock bottom can become the moment you finally stop living a life that no longer belongs to you.

Self-love means becoming your own inner best friend, cheerleader, protector, and nurturer.

Many adult relationship patterns are childhood survival strategies playing out in a different setting.

Positive thinking cannot replace the emotional work of grieving, feeling, and healing.

Emotions are not dangerous; they often feel threatening simply because they are unfamiliar.

You do not have to hustle, overperform, or overgive to prove that you are worthy of receiving.

 
Actionable Items

Use an emotion or mood chart to identify exactly what you are feeling instead of defaulting to words such as “sad,” “bad,” or “anxious.”

Set a timer for 90 seconds and allow an emotion to move through your body using sound, facial expression, movement, and breath—without judging or explaining it.

Ask yourself: “Am I choosing this because it is aligned with who I am, or am I repeating a role I learned in childhood?”

References Mentioned

Training Camp for the Soul:
https://trainingcampforthesoul.com

Yale Mood Meter:
https://moodmeterapp.com

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline:
https://988lifeline.org

Global Crisis Resources:
https://findahelpline.com

The Chopra Center and the teachings of Deepak Chopra were also discussed as part of Anat’s healing environment and professional journey.

Important Chapters

00:00:37 – Meet Anat Peri
Anat shares how growing up on the East Coast eventually led her to San Diego—and why California always felt like home.

00:02:17 – Arriving at Rock Bottom
With limited money, significant debt, and no job or home, Anat makes the life-changing decision to move across the country.

00:04:06 – Codependency, Heartbreak, and Freedom
Anat reflects on losing herself in relationships and the betrayal that finally gave her permission to leave.

00:06:35 – One Hundred Days of Dating Herself
Unable to enjoy her own company, Anat commits to spending 100 days building a relationship with herself.

00:08:35 – Reconnecting With Her Body
She discusses dissociation, plant medicine, stored tension, and realizing how much of her life had been lived inside her head.

00:10:05 – The Relationship That Revealed Her Father Wound
An emotionally significant relationship uncovers childhood grief and introduces Anat to deeper inner child work.

00:12:11 – The Support Behind the Healing
Anat explains how mentorship, meditation, yoga, friendships, and her work environment supported her transformation.

00:15:40 – Recognizing Childhood Relationship Patterns
She examines how her father’s absence shaped beliefs about being invisible, unimportant, and repeatedly chosen second.

00:20:13 – Relationships as Mirrors for Growth
G-Rex and Anat discuss healthy partnerships, vulnerability, and why lasting relationships require ongoing inner work.

00:22:10 – Moving From Survivor to Creator
Anat explains how inherited family scripts and generational learning can quietly control adult decisions.

00:26:08 – Why the Work Never Really Ends
Marriage, entrepreneurship, and reinvention continue to reveal new levels of healing and personal growth.

00:29:47 – Choosing Joy Over External Success
The conversation turns to money, career expectations, social media comparison, and defining success for yourself.

00:34:31 – The Only Way to Feel Better
Anat explains why talking about feelings is different from physically and emotionally expressing them.

00:38:16 – Teaching Children Emotional Safety
Dirty Skittles shares how she helps her son name and process emotions rather than dismissing or suppressing them.

00:40:53 – Building Your Emotional Vocabulary
Anat introduces the Mood Meter and a 90-second practice for making unfamiliar emotions feel safer in the nervous system.

00:44:09 – What Anat Would Tell Her Younger Self
She offers her 12-year-old self a message about intelligence, talent, self-acceptance, and future impact.

00:44:37 – The Cost of Not Believing in Herself
Anat reflects on leadership, business mistakes, overgiving, and learning that she is worthy simply because she exists.

00:46:46 – Anxiety, Alignment, and Letting Go of “Try”
The episode closes with Anat’s reflections on anxiety, her word of the year, and her choice to align with her authentic self.

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