Do You F*cking Mind?

Why do you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, even people you love?
Why does competition creep into friendships, relationships, work, and social media… even when you know it’s making you feel worse?

In this episode, I break down the psychology of comparison and competition. Why your brain gets stuck in it, why some situations trigger you more than others, and how to end the comparison cycle permanently, not just “manage” it.

We talk about:


Why comparison isn’t the problem, loss of self-trust is


How triggers reveal where you’ve outsourced your worth


The difference between healthy ambition and toxic competition


Why comparing yourself to friends and siblings hurts the most


How social media intensifies insecurity without you realising


The psychology behind competing for validation, attention, and approval


How to stop competing in friendships, dating, and everyday life


The mindset shift that makes comparison lose its power for good

This episode is for anyone who feels behind, constantly measures themselves against others, or is exhausted by the quiet mental competition they can’t seem to turn off.

If comparison is draining your confidence, affecting your relationships, or keeping you stuck, this episode will help you understand why it happens and exactly how to step out of it for good.
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BONJOUR! Head Noise today!

So many questions coming through so we are ramping up these Head Noise episodes.

Today we cover dating curses and how to break out of them, issues with friends who have given you the silent treatment, how to advance at work and stop being a soggy lemon and what to do when you take a step back for the sake of your mental health but it causes your mental health to continue to suffer because of the dreaded identity crisis.

Lets get into it!!
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On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. ⁠We get to the bottom of:

Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to change something within you to make better choices moving forward.

Why you do not have to feel guilty for cutting a friend off even if they have zero friends (ahem, accountability)

How to deal with a painfully negative mother (whom you adore and do not want to cut out)

And what to do if you are at the 7 year mark, unsure if you should stay or leave when there is a house and 2 dogs involved.

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If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval.

This episode covers:


What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful


The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection


Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality)


What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral


Signs you may be experiencing RSD


Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help


How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity


The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation

This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening.

It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next.

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Episode 10 – Choosing Peace Is the Power Move

(How Stability, Clarity, and Balance Actually Give You Everything You Want)The Reset You Actually Need

For a long time, hustle culture convinced us that being busy meant we were getting somewhere.

In Episode 10 — the final episode of The Reset You Actually Need , we explore why choosing peace isn’t giving up on ambition, but refining it into something sustainable, intelligent, and far more effective.

This episode breaks down:


Why hustle culture confuses motion with real progress


How constant urgency fragments attention and fuels anxiety


Why peace of mind increases performance rather than complacency


How balance isn’t a compromise it’s an optimisation strategy


Why inconsistency creates anxiety and the illusion of “falling behind”


How overstimulation kills clarity, creativity, and fulfilment


Why slower, long-form thinking leads to better decisions and deeper satisfaction

We talk about the gap between where you are and where you think you should be and how that gap is often the source of chronic anxiety. Not because you’re failing, but because you’re trying to sprint instead of stabilise.

Choosing peace doesn’t mean doing less.
It means doing the right things, consistently, without burning yourself out.

This episode is about redefining success so you don’t have to escape your own life to survive it.

This episode concludes a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and step into the year calm, clear, and self-led.

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