49. 6 Signs You’re NOT Speaking Like a Senior Leader
🚨Get on the free waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™, Melody’s new program to help you become a crisp, clear, confident communicator. Head to https://speaklikeaseniorleader.com. You can be highly competent and still not come across that way. You can be clear in your head and still unintentionally confuse, frustrate, or undersell yourself without even realizing it. In this episode, Melody gives you the behind-the-scenes look at how her brand-new program Speak Like a Senior Leader™ came to be and breaks down the 6 subtle communication mistakes that might be keeping you from developing the executive presence and gravitas that makes decision-makers trust you with bigger opportunities. What You’ll Discover: The silent reason your expertise isn't translating into influence (even if everyone says you're doing a great job)The six sneaky habits that make even high performers sound like mid-level contributors instead of strategic leadersOne innocent-sounding sentence that instantly signals “not ready for the next level” (and what to say instead)Why most senior leaders don’t answer the question they’re asked, and why that makes them MORE effective, not evasiveThe communication pattern that makes you sound scattered, even when your thinking is crystal clearGet on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Connect with Melody: FREE GUIDE: Steal These Scripts for Saying No at Work FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Waitlist Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Melody on Instagram Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
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48. How to Take Criticism Without Taking It Personally
Criticism at work only gets harsher and more frequent the higher you climb – not easier or less. That’s why in this episode Melody shares strategies to take feedback seriously without taking it personally (none of which requires superhuman zen). You'll learn how to handle difficult conversations in a way that both projects executive presence and safeguards your confidence. What You’ll Discover: How to decode what criticism reveals about workplace politics, power dynamics, and hidden agendasHow to separate someone's communication style from the actual content of their feedbackWhy you should never act on a leader’s input until you do THIS (and no, it’s not “ask questions”)The specific scripts to use when you're blindsided by criticism and need to calm downGet on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Connect with Melody: FREE GUIDE: Steal These Scripts for Saying No at Work FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Waitlist Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Melody on Instagram Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
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47. Leadership Under Pressure with Sabina Nawaz
Author Sabina Nawaz joins Melody to explore why pressure, not power, is what truly derails even the most well-intentioned leaders. They unpack simple tools like the Yes List and Multiple Meanings to help you lead with clarity, even when you’re overwhelmed.What You’ll Discover: Sneaky ways pressure warps your thinking, behavior, and relationships at workThe first thing to do when you feel like you’re barely keeping your head above waterHow to build your “pressure capacity” so challenges don’t derail your success About Sabina NawazSabina Nawaz is an elite executive coach who advises C-level executives and teams at Fortune 500 corporations, government agencies, nonprofits, and academic institutions around the world. During her fourteen-year tenure at Microsoft, she went from managing software development teams to leading the company’s executive development and succession planning efforts for over 11,000 managers and nearly a thousand executives, advising Bill Gates and Steve Ballmer directly. Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Connect with Melody: FREE GUIDE: Steal These Scripts for Saying No at Work FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Waitlist Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Melody on Instagram Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
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46. Can't Stop Checking If Your Boss Is Happy With Your Work? Here's Why
You're on top of your work, but part of you is always checking – did that land? Did my boss like it? In this episode, Melody explains how constantly seeking your boss's approval drains your confidence and what to do about it. In this episode, she gets into what happens when your focus shifts from doing your job to managing someone else’s reaction. What You’ll Discover: How to differentiate managing up from approval seeking Why your boss's approval never actually satisfies youThe seemingly innocent habit that's secretly broadcasting your insecurity to everyoneThe "filter not sponge" approach that transforms how others’ input affects youHow "I know my worth" can become a trap if it's your only strategyConnect with Melody: FREE GUIDE: Steal These Scripts for Saying No at Work FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Waitlist Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Melody on Instagram Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
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45. Building Emotional Fitness for Work & Life with Dr. Emily Anhalt
Most of us weren't taught how to handle workplace stress, difficult colleagues, or career setbacks. We just figure it out as we go—sometimes successfully, sometimes not. In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt breaks down what she calls "emotional fitness" and why it matters in our work lives. Based on fifteen years of research with professionals across industries, her new book "Flex Your Feelings" offers a refreshingly practical approach to strengthening our emotional health. Dr. Anhalt shares simple exercises you can use to build resilience and connection in everyday work situations, from tense meetings to performance reviews.What You’ll Discover: Why treating your emotions like muscles you can train changes everything about how you handle workplace stressHow to spot the telltale signs of emotional "unfitness" before they derail your careerPractical "emotional pushups" that Emily has taught top Silicon Valley executivesAbout Dr. Emily Anhalt Dr. Emily Anhalt is a clinical psychologist, keynote speaker, author, and cofounder of Coa, the gym for mental health. For the past fifteen years, Dr. Anhalt has worked clinically with executives, founders, and high-performers, and has conducted extensive research with prominent psychologists and entrepreneurs about how leaders can improve their emotional fitness. Dr. Anhalt has collaborated with companies like Google, Salesforce, NBCUniversal, NASDAQ, and the NBA, and her debut book, Flex Your Feelings (published with Penguin Randomhouse) is available now.Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Get on the waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader. Connect with Melody: FREE GUIDE: Steal These Scripts for Saying No at Work FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Waitlist Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Melody on Instagram Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
Have you ever felt like you're the only one struggling with self-doubt at work? Maybe you’ve wondered why office politics seem so complicated or how some people seem to influence so effortlessly? The secret is that every day at work, we're surrounded by psychological dynamics - internal and external. There's the voice in our head second-guessing our decisions, the subtle power plays in meetings, the unspoken expectations that shape our behavior and others. Yet most of us are dropped into our careers with zero insight into these invisible forces.That changes today. Welcome to Psychology at Work. I’m your host Melody Wilding, licensed social worker, human behavior professor, and author of two books: Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work and Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge. With a background as an emotion researcher, therapist, and after over 13 years of coaching thousands of executives and leaders across the world, there’s nothing I love more than helping emotionally intelligent people like you use superpower to make work better for themselves and everyone around them. Because here’s the thing, technical skills will only get you so far in your career. It's mastering your own psychology and understanding that of others that will truly make or break your success.While your coding skills might land you a job, it's your ability to manage stress and stay focused under pressure that will help you meet tight deadlines and deliver high-quality work.Your financial acumen might get you noticed, but it's your ability to navigate stakeholder relationships and office politics that will help you secure buy-in for your ideas.Your strategic thinking might earn you a promotion, but it's your self-awareness and ability to regulate your emotions that will make you an effective leader people want to follow.The title of this show is a playful nod to our double focus. First, we explore how psychology operates in professional settings. But second, in each episode you’re going to walk away with practical insights that you can put to work right away. I know firsthand how challenging it can be to navigate the workplace when you're sensitive, empathetic, and prone to overthinking. That's why I created this podcast that brings you the tools and insights I wish I'd had earlier in my career.Get ready, because you’re going to learn how to master the ‘silent rules’ of human behavior so you can achieve career success without sacrificing inner peace.
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