Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | The Truth About Breakups
In today’s episode, John Kim answers raw, unfiltered listener questions on the theme of breakups and divorce — the things you’d never dare ask your therapist.
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Loving Without Losing Me: Healing the Mother Wound
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim gets personal about the mother wound - how it quietly shapes our self-worth, love life, and sense of safety. From a surprising MDMA journey insight to stories about his Korean-American upbringing, John unpacks what it’s like to grow up without emotional warmth from mom - and how this absence leaves lasting imprints on both men and women.
You’ll learn:
Why the mother wound isn’t just a “women’s issue”
How emotional absence can be just as impactful as physical absence
The different ways the mother wound shows up in men (approval seeking, caretaking confusion, fear of intimacy) and women (perfectionism, chronic self-doubt, boundary struggles)
How it fuels unhealthy patterns like codependency, attachment insecurity, and emotional projection
Practical steps for healing: naming the wound without blame, reparenting yourself, rewriting old relationship scripts, and doing inner child work
Join the conversation! Have you noticed the mother wound in your own relationships or self-image? What has helped you start to heal? Share your story with us.
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The Lie We Tell Men About Strength
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks the father wound - how it silently shapes our self-worth, relationships, and ideas of masculinity. Through raw personal stories and practical, street-level insights, he explores what it means to grow up with a “ghost father” and how both men and women can begin to heal.
You’ll learn:
Why the father wound exists even if your dad was “there”
How it shows up differently for men and women
Why emotional absence can leave deeper scars than physical absence
How it becomes a blueprint for love, power, and identity
Practical ways to reparent yourself and break the cycle
Join the conversation! Do you think you have a father wound? How has it shown up in your relationships or self-image? Share your story with us.
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Two Therapists in Bed Talk Breakups, Healing, and OnlyFans
In this episode, licensed therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett dive deep into healing, heartbreak, attachment styles, and codependency - all from the comfort of their bed. With real-life stories, practical insights, and the lens of depth psychology, they unpack what it really means to "heal" and why the journey is anything but linear.
You’ll learn:
Why “healed” is a myth - and what healing actually looks like
How depth psychology helps us make meaning from pain
Why breakups hurt even when you’re the one who ends it
The difference between codependency and true connection
How to stop chasing love and start living your own life
Join the conversation! Have you struggled with anxious attachment or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? What does healing mean to you? Drop a comment and share your take.
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Resources & Links:
Learn more about Vanessa HERE
Vanessa’s Inner Compass Academy HERE
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Love Doesn’t Kill Jealousy - It Listens to It
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks jealousy through raw personal stories and powerful insights. He dives into the emotional roots of jealousy, including insecurity, fear of abandonment, and core wounds — and offers real, practical tools to navigate it with compassion and clarity.
You’ll learn:
How jealousy actually protects us (until it doesn’t)
The difference between healthy and toxic jealousy
Why core wounds trigger jealousy more than reality does
How to build trust and “jealousy-safe” relationships
Join the conversation! Share your thoughts or experiences with jealousy in the comments below. How do you handle jealousy in your relationships?
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