Your Kids Don’t Suck: Cultivating Closeness with your Kids through Non-Coercive, Conscious Parenting

• Siblings and Non-Coercion: How Collaboration Created a Deeper Love With Their Kids

  In this episode, we are joined by Amy Niemczyk, a parent (just like you!) whose family dynamic has drastically shifted since adopting the non-coercive, collaborative parenting philosophy. This is an excellent episode for parents who are searching for concrete tools for navigating kids’ physical expression (like biting) and resolving sibling struggles.Amy and her partner are the parents to four young children who have been on this journey for just over three years. Amy shares how she struggled with letting go of screen time control as her seven year old autonomously navigated balance, and how she turned toward love and not shame to work through weeks of her three year old pinching her. Her stories go deeper than the parent-child dynamic, seeping into the sibling relationships as well. Rythea and Cara are moved by Amy’s earnest and heart-felt admission of the changes she’s experienced with her children: how removing authority from her parenting paradigm revealed a deep love both with her children and within herself. Key topics:The tornado faze Guiding kids toward their autonomy Collaborative parenting as a model for repair after ruptureNon-coercive parenting as a deep act of self love and personal healingResources mentioned:Vivek PatelRythea’s Facebook Parent-Support groupRythea’s parent-mentor sessionsCara's Relationship ToolkitSupport YKDSWe (Rythea and Cara) are white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Our perspectives are limited. We are committed to featuring guests from diverse lived experiences to reflect the realities of a broader parenting community. 25% of proceeds from this podcast go to creators of color who have shaped our work.Rate & Review: Your feedback helps us reach more families who are parenting with presence, resistance, and love. Let us know what this episode stirred in you.

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• Unpacking Attachment Wounds and How They Affect Our Parenting

  In this episode, we explore how attachment wounds impact our ability to see our children as separate from us, and even from our own parents. We discuss the incredible, unconscious urge to replay our attachment pains onto our children, and what it takes to recognize (and change) those impulses within the non-coercive, collaborative approach.Join Rythea and Cara as they get vulnerable about their personal attachment histories and current struggles as parents. They go deep about self-love and the challenge to heal after a childhood of broken attachments. Rythea offers a powerful parenting tool she calls “The Psychic Apology” where parents can take accountability through intention and visualization. Cara discusses life with a free-feeling toddler and how to recognize covert blocks to healthy attachment.Key Topics:Attachment to our caregivers is a survival needCan we REALLY heal our attachment trauma?Attachment styles and its relation to Internal Family SystemsResources Mentioned:The Will to Change by Bell HooksVivek’s Parent-Support groupRythea’s Facebook Parent-Support group:Support YKDS Book a mentor session with Rythea Explore Cara's Relationship Toolkit We (Rythea and Cara) are white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Our perspectives are limited. We are committed to featuring guests from diverse lived experiences to reflect the realities of a broader parenting community. 25% of proceeds from this podcast go to creators of color who have shaped our work.Rate & Review: Your feedback helps us reach more families who are parenting with presence, resistance, and love. Let us know what this episode stirred in you.

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• Re-Release: You Asked Us: Should I Confront My Dysfunctional Parents? And How do I Apologize to my Child?

  Episode re-release: In this episode, we dive into a Q&A format, addressing two thought-provoking questions from our listeners.Question one comes from a non-parent who comes to terms with the ways in which their own parents hurt them. Many of us grapple with the realization that our parents may have unintentionally or intentionally hurt us in the past, but the decision to confront them as an adult is a complex one. We share our insights on whether it's the right time for one listener to tackle this emotionally charged issue. Drawing from our experience as therapists, we discuss the potential benefits and risks of such a conversation.Question two, we discuss another listener’s question around effective ways to apologize and reconnect with your child after moments of rupture where we feel we’ve acted out of alignment with our values. We provide practical tips for repairing the parent-child relationship and explore what a sincere, relationship-focused, and deeply meaningful apology looks and sounds like. Stay tuned for more Q&A episodes in Season 4, and write us your questions at [email protected] Topics:Confronting parents about past harm: timing, risks, and potential benefitsNavigating the complexity of deciding whether or not to bring up a painful history with your parentsTherapist insights on healing past wounds without re-traumatizing yourselfRepairing connection with your child after ruptureWhat a meaningful, values-aligned apology to your child sounds like in practicePractical strategies for rebuilding trust and modeling accountability between parent and childSupport YKDS https://buymeacoffee.com/yourkidsdontsuckBook a mentor session with Rythea https://calendly.com/rytheaConnect with Cara https://www.caratedstonetherapy.com/We (Rythea and Cara) are white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Our perspectives are limited. We are committed to featuring guests from diverse lived experiences to reflect the realities of a broader parenting community. 25% of proceeds from this podcast go to creators of color who have shaped our work.Rate & Review: Your feedback helps us reach more families who are parenting with presence, resistance, and love. Let us know what this episode stirred in you.

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• Re-release: What About Our Partners?

  Episode re-release: In this episode of Your Kids Don't Suck, hosts Rythea Lee and Cara Tedstone dive deep into the world of non-coercive parenting within the framework of coparenting relationships. Joined by Rythea's partner Will and Cara's husband Sanjay, the conversation unfolds into a heartfelt exploration of parenting dynamics and philosophies.Sanjay and Will offer unique perspectives on parenting, bringing diverse backgrounds and value systems to the table. Together, they share their personal journeys into the realm of non-coercive parenting, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs encountered along the way. Listeners gain insight into the reasons behind Will and Sanjay's embrace of non-coercive parenting as a guiding philosophy. Drawing from their own experiences and upbringing, they reflect on how traditional parenting models shaped their worldview and the pivotal moments that led them to explore alternative approaches. You'll hear about the nuances of non-coercive parenting, with Will and Sanjay candidly discussing the toughest aspects of adopting this mindset.From confronting societal norms to reconciling with their own upbringing, they offer a raw and honest portrayal of the obstacles faced on their journey. Tune in to this heartfelt and illuminating episode of YKDS to discover what it's like for non-mothers to parent in a way that challenges convention and nurtures connection!Key Topics:What non-coercive parenting looks like within co-parenting relationshipsHow traditional parenting models shape current parenting choicesThe pivotal moments that led Will and Sanjay to embrace non-coercive parentingChallenges of practicing non-coercive parenting in a society built on controlHonest reflections on reconciling past experiences with new parenting philosophiesBuilding connection and collaboration in parenting while resisting conventionSupport YKDS https://buymeacoffee.com/yourkidsdontsuckBook a mentor session with Rythea https://calendly.com/rytheaConnect with Cara https://www.caratedstonetherapy.com/We (Rythea and Cara) are white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Our perspectives are limited. We are committed to featuring guests from diverse lived experiences to reflect the realities of a broader parenting community. 25% of proceeds from this podcast go to creators of color who have shaped our work.Rate & Review: Your feedback helps us reach more families who are parenting with presence, resistance, and love. Let us know what this episode stirred in you.

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• Fighting Facism & Finding Your Village with Yolanda Williams of Parenting Decolonized

  Many parents who reject authoritarian parenting don’t have a clear model to follow. It can feel isolating, overwhelming, and exhausting—especially in a society that prioritizes punishment, control, and individualism over connection and collaboration.In this confronting and compassion-filled episode, Rythea speaks with Yolanda Williams, an activist and single parent raising her neurodivergent child with intention, autonomy, and resistance at the core. Rythea asks about the connection between facism and childism during this moment in history, and Yolanda expertly breaks this down. How is our parenting directly related to fighting against or participating in fascist patterns?Yolanda expands on the need for building a village—a local community that supports her child while also inviting her child to actively participate in building that community. She speaks about the moment she refused to let survival mode sever her bond with her child, how she is intentionally shaping her physical environments to support her values and her family’s needs, and how community-building has become part of her parenting practice. Yolanda’s insightful vision weaves its way through this conversation as she talks about parenting an autistic and developmentally delayed child—and how conscious parenting looks different when collaboration cues are not available. She brings voice to the reality of being a Black, disabled, solo parent, and the ongoing work of balancing self-responsibility with survival, in an unsupportive social and political system.Key Topics:Building intentional community as a parenting practiceParenting while disabled, solo, and under-resourcedRefusing to let survival disconnect you from your childCreating physical spaces that reflect anti-oppressive valuesConscious parenting with neurodivergent childrenRedefining the “village” as real, local, and reciprocalYolanda Williams is the founder of Parenting Decolonized, and is currently documenting her journey of building a farm. Follow along Yolanda's farming journey https://www.youtube.com/@WildandFreeFamilyFarmListen to Parenting Decolonized podcast https://parentingdecolonized.com/podcast/Support YKDS https://buymeacoffee.com/yourkidsdontsuckBook a mentor session with Rythea https://calendly.com/rytheaConnect with Cara https://www.caratedstonetherapy.com/We (Rythea and Cara) are white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Our perspectives are limited. We are committed to featuring guests from diverse lived experiences to reflect the realities of a broader parenting community. 25% of proceeds from this podcast go to creators of color who have shaped our work.Rate & Review: Your feedback helps us reach more families who are parenting with presence, resistance, and love. Let us know what this episode stirred in you.

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