Masking, Misalignment, and Motherhood: The Truth About Being a Neurodivergent Woman
In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about something I've only ever skimmed the surface of before—what it’s really like to navigate motherhood, business, and personal growth while living with late-diagnosed ADHD and autism.
If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or “not enough”…
If you’ve been performing, pleasing, and pushing through, wondering why it’s so damn exhausting…
If motherhood has cracked you wide open and left you questioning everything—
This episode is for you.
-The identity crisis that came with my late autism and ADHD diagnosis
-The invisible toll of high-functioning masking—and why so many women miss the signs
-How internalized ableism made me afraid to share my truth
-Why I'm done performing for comfort and ready to show up unmasked
-How motherhood became the portal to awakening, not just struggle
Whether you’re a mother, a highly sensitive woman, or a late-realized neurodivergent soul, this episode is a mirror and an invitation—to unlearn, unbecome, and finally come home to yourself.
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The Scream-Free Summer Masterclass (Limited Time Release)
In this masterclass, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s really making motherhood feel so hard—and it’s not your kids. We’ll dive into the emotional weight we carry, the pressure to be calm all the time, and why traditional parenting strategies just don’t cut it anymore.
I’ll introduce you to my Conscious Parenting Matrix, a powerful lens for understanding how your nervous system, subconscious beliefs, and childhood conditioning are all shaping the way you show up. You’ll walk away with practical tools to regulate your nervous system, shift out of reactivity, and start the deeper work of breaking generational cycles.
This isn’t about doing more—it’s about becoming more of you. More self-aware. More grounded. More empowered. So you can raise your kids without losing yourself in the process.
03:07 Understanding Parental Frustration and Burnout
15:11 The Conscious Parenting Matrix Explained
20:58 Creating Safety in Your Nervous System
24:12 Practical Tools for Nervous System Regulation
27:06 The Path to Becoming a Cycle-Breaking Mom
32:10 Understanding Subconscious Triggers
39:00 Releasing Old Programming
Click here to learn more about Motherhood Alchemy.
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Invisible Cycles You're Breaking Part 2
In part two of our series on the invisible generational cycles we’re breaking as conscious millennial moms, we explore some of the most profound unconscious patterns we’ve inherited: victim mentality, hustle-as-worth culture, and emotional suppression.
These aren’t just buzzwords—they’re baked into the way we move through motherhood, and today’s episode is an invitation to unravel them with compassion, self-responsibility, and power. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “If only they would listen, I wouldn’t yell,” or rushing around the house like it’s an emergency when it’s not... this one’s for you.
00:00 – Welcome Back + Series Recap
Carly introduces this continuation of the generational cycle-breaking conversation and why these invisible patterns matter so much.
01:48 – The Biggest Cycle We’re Breaking:
08:50 – Moving from Reaction to Response
12:25 – Why the Boomer Generation Struggles with Accountability
15:40 – The Protective Nature of Victim Mentality
17:10 – Hustle, Rush, Productivity: The Cycle of Anxiety
25:15 – Emotional Suppression: The Core Wound We’re Healing From
30:05 – Why Kids Can’t “Control” Their Emotions
33:00 – Your Healing Creates Emotional Safety for Future Generations
Download Carly’s Free Cycle Breakers Guidebook to go deeper into your own subconscious healing journey.
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Invisible Generational Cycles You're Breaking Part 1
In this episode of 'Same Shit Different Mom,' we delve into the concept of breaking generational cycles and what it truly means to be a cycle breaker.
Emphasizing the importance of changing behaviors and becoming an evolved version of oneself, we explore the deeper psychological and emotional work involved.
We introduce three key cycles you're breaking for yourself and your kids.
00:18 Understanding Generational Cycles
00:48 Personal Journey and Professional Approach
04:31 Common Misconceptions About Breaking Cycles
07:21 Deeper Meaning of Breaking Generational Cycles
08:17 Healing Internalized Beliefs and Patterns
10:12 Subconscious Mind and Generational Cycles
18:34 Practical Examples and Patterns to Break
19:19 Cycle of Self-Abandonment
22:36 Cycle of Vanity and Image
26:50 Cycle of Fear of Judgment
32:28 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Why You Feel Mom Guilt and How to Let It Go
In this episode, we're diving into the complex topic of "mom guilt" and unpacking how societal conditioning shapes our feelings of inadequacy. We explore the difference between guilt rooted in actions versus guilt over thoughts or feelings. I'm sharing audience responses to what triggers mom guilt and offering powerful insights for shifting the narrative around guilt, self-awareness, and emotional regulation in motherhood.
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If you're a mom who wants to feel more connected and fulfilled in motherhood, you're in the right place. I'm Carly Ely, school psychologist turned conscious motherhood guide. In each episode, we'll deep dive into all things conscious parenting, self-healing, neuroscience, spirituality, and more. Whatever season of motherhood you’re in right now, consider this your permission slip to let go of the status quo and follow your intuition to your authentic parenting path.
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