How to Stop Letting ADHD Hold You Back and Start Owning Your Power
In this episode, Carly dives deep into the nuances of navigating ADHD, autism, and neurodivergence as an adult—while challenging the limiting narratives around what it means to thrive.
Late-diagnosed herself, Carly shares her personal journey of redefining identity, dismantling internalized ableism, and shifting from focusing on “what’s hard” to intentionally creating a reality that matches your desires. This isn’t about bypassing challenges or ignoring your wiring. It’s about understanding the power of your attention, regulating your energy, and unlocking the next version of yourself.
Carly weaves together personal stories, hard-earned insights, and practical tools to help you step out of self-judgment and step into your highest potential. If you’ve ever felt like your big emotions, different wiring, or intense way of processing the world is holding you back—this conversation will give you hope, validation, and a powerful new perspective.
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What happens when your identity shifts… again?
In this episode of Same Shit, Different Mom, Carly Ely shares a raw and honest life update. After months of being quiet online, Carly opens up about her personal and business evolution—how she’s moving beyond labels, pivots, and expectations to embrace full transparency in her journey. She reflects on her shift from school psychologist to sleep consultant to conscious motherhood mentor, and now toward a deeper focus on self-leadership and multidimensional identity as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman. Carly explores the tension between wanting to present polished expertise versus sharing what’s truly alive in the moment. She describes how her mentor challenged her to stop overthinking and start documenting her journey daily—even if it feels messy, imperfect, or self-indulgent. This episode invites listeners to embrace their own evolving identity, trust their inner wisdom, and recognize that the right people will resonate with their story, even if it’s unfinished.
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Masking, Misalignment, and Motherhood: The Truth About Being a Neurodivergent Woman
In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about something I've only ever skimmed the surface of before—what it’s really like to navigate motherhood, business, and personal growth while living with late-diagnosed ADHD and autism.
If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or “not enough”…
If you’ve been performing, pleasing, and pushing through, wondering why it’s so damn exhausting…
If motherhood has cracked you wide open and left you questioning everything—
This episode is for you.
-The identity crisis that came with my late autism and ADHD diagnosis
-The invisible toll of high-functioning masking—and why so many women miss the signs
-How internalized ableism made me afraid to share my truth
-Why I'm done performing for comfort and ready to show up unmasked
-How motherhood became the portal to awakening, not just struggle
Whether you’re a mother, a highly sensitive woman, or a late-realized neurodivergent soul, this episode is a mirror and an invitation—to unlearn, unbecome, and finally come home to yourself.
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The Scream-Free Summer Masterclass (Limited Time Release)
In this masterclass, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s really making motherhood feel so hard—and it’s not your kids. We’ll dive into the emotional weight we carry, the pressure to be calm all the time, and why traditional parenting strategies just don’t cut it anymore.
I’ll introduce you to my Conscious Parenting Matrix, a powerful lens for understanding how your nervous system, subconscious beliefs, and childhood conditioning are all shaping the way you show up. You’ll walk away with practical tools to regulate your nervous system, shift out of reactivity, and start the deeper work of breaking generational cycles.
This isn’t about doing more—it’s about becoming more of you. More self-aware. More grounded. More empowered. So you can raise your kids without losing yourself in the process.
03:07 Understanding Parental Frustration and Burnout
15:11 The Conscious Parenting Matrix Explained
20:58 Creating Safety in Your Nervous System
24:12 Practical Tools for Nervous System Regulation
27:06 The Path to Becoming a Cycle-Breaking Mom
32:10 Understanding Subconscious Triggers
39:00 Releasing Old Programming
Click here to learn more about Motherhood Alchemy.
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Invisible Cycles You're Breaking Part 2
In part two of our series on the invisible generational cycles we’re breaking as conscious millennial moms, we explore some of the most profound unconscious patterns we’ve inherited: victim mentality, hustle-as-worth culture, and emotional suppression.
These aren’t just buzzwords—they’re baked into the way we move through motherhood, and today’s episode is an invitation to unravel them with compassion, self-responsibility, and power. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “If only they would listen, I wouldn’t yell,” or rushing around the house like it’s an emergency when it’s not... this one’s for you.
00:00 – Welcome Back + Series Recap
Carly introduces this continuation of the generational cycle-breaking conversation and why these invisible patterns matter so much.
01:48 – The Biggest Cycle We’re Breaking:
08:50 – Moving from Reaction to Response
12:25 – Why the Boomer Generation Struggles with Accountability
15:40 – The Protective Nature of Victim Mentality
17:10 – Hustle, Rush, Productivity: The Cycle of Anxiety
25:15 – Emotional Suppression: The Core Wound We’re Healing From
30:05 – Why Kids Can’t “Control” Their Emotions
33:00 – Your Healing Creates Emotional Safety for Future Generations
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If you're a mom who wants to feel more connected and fulfilled in motherhood, you're in the right place. I'm Carly Ely, school psychologist turned conscious motherhood guide. In each episode, we'll deep dive into all things conscious parenting, self-healing, neuroscience, spirituality, and more. Whatever season of motherhood you’re in right now, consider this your permission slip to let go of the status quo and follow your intuition to your authentic parenting path.
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