The Tamsen Show

Starting over can feel overwhelming and discouraging, especially when it comes to dating, navigating dating apps, and trying to make sense of modern dating after divorce or a long relationship.  Many women find themselves burnt out, questioning their instincts, and unsure how to find a healthy relationship when the old rules no longer seem to apply. This is exactly why Tamsen turned to Bela Gandhi, dating coach, relationship expert, and founder of the Smart Dating Academy. Bela has helped thousands of women find meaningful, lasting relationships by replacing guesswork with a clear, data-driven formula for dating with intention. In this episode, she lays out the framework she uses to help women find love that feels safe, secure, and emotionally available and explains why following a proven system matters more than chemistry, luck, or timing. They discuss: - Why dating apps feel so exhausting and how to use them more strategically - The biggest mistakes people make on dating profiles and photos - What chemistry really is and why butterflies can be misleading - How to spot red flags early without becoming cynical - What to look for (and not overthink) on first dates - How to date with clarity, confidence, and realistic expectations - The patterns and behaviors that consistently lead to lasting relationships This conversation cuts through the noise, myths, and mixed messages around dating and replaces them with clarity, reassurance, and a roadmap you can actually follow. If your goal in 2026 is to find lasting love, the kind that feels safe, secure, and grounded, this episode offers a smarter, more intentional way to date without burning out or losing yourself. By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with renewed hope, practical tools, and the confidence that finding love doesn’t have to be random. When you follow the right formula, it becomes possible. Ready for more support? Download the 2026 Dating Profile Cheat Sheet. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Bela? Follow her on Instagram Visit her website This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Menopause doesn’t just change your body. It changes how you think, how you feel, and how you see yourself. For so many women, that shift shows up as brain fog, exhaustion, lost motivation, or a quiet fear that something is “wrong,” even when nothing is. In this episode, Tamsen is joined by Dr. Mindy Pelz, functional medicine expert and bestselling author of Fast Like a Girl and her new book Age Like a Girl, to break down what’s actually happening in the female brain during menopause and why understanding it can be empowering instead of frightening. They explore how menopause rewires the brain, why motivation and clarity can disappear seemingly overnight, and how metabolic health and fasting play a role in supporting brain function during this transition. They discuss: - Why menopause is a neurological shift, not a mental decline - What’s really behind brain fog, low motivation, and emotional changes - How fasting supports brain health during menopause - The role of insulin, blood sugar, and metabolic health - Why dopamine and motivation work differently after 40 - How to restore clarity, energy, and confidence - Practical tools women can use to support their brains in midlife This conversation reframes menopause as a transition into clarity, self-trust, and power,  not something to fear or push through. If you’ve felt different in your body or mind, questioned your energy, or wondered why the old rules no longer work, this episode offers science, reassurance, and a completely new way to understand what your brain is doing and why. By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of menopause, concrete tools to support your brain, and relief in knowing that you’re not broken, you’re rewiring. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Mindy? Follow her on Instagram Visit her website Read her book, Age Like a Girl: How Menopause Rewires Your Brain for Mental Clarity, Increased Confidence, and Renewed Energy  This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Divorce is already disorienting. But when you’re dealing with a narcissist, the rules change and most people don’t realize that until they’re already in it. In this episode, Tamsen is joined by Sue Moss, a leading NYC divorce attorney, to talk about what actually happens when control, manipulation, and power dynamics show up in a divorce  and what women need to understand before things escalate. They discuss:  - The early red flags of a controlling or narcissistic partner - Why so many women feel blindsided when divorce turns adversarial - What prenups really protect and when they matter most - How power, money, and fear show up in divorce negotiations - The biggest legal mistakes women make when emotions are running high - How custody decisions actually get made (and what courts care about) - What women should be thinking about long before they ever file This conversation is eye-opening, especially if you’re questioning your marriage, supporting a friend through divorce, or trying to understand your options before things escalate. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or feels unsafe, help is available. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Additional resources are listed below: Sanctuaries for FamiliesSafe HorizonsPro Se Court OfficeWatch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Sue? Follow her on Instagram Visit her website This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You might feel overwhelmed, burnt out, stretched too thin, or constantly behind, even when you’re doing everything you can. The pressure to be productive, to keep going, to never fall apart is so heavy… and most women don’t understand why they feel this way or how to break out of it. This is exactly why Tamsen turned to Israa Nasir, a licensed psychotherapist and the author of Toxic Productivity, a powerful guide to understanding why we push ourselves past our limits and how to reclaim our time, energy, and sense of self. In this episode, Israa breaks down the questions so many women have, including: - What toxic productivity actually is and how to know if you’re stuck in it - Why rest feels uncomfortable or “undeserved” - The identity traps women fall into without realizing - How culture, childhood, and expectations shape our patterns - What burnout really looks like beneath the surface - How to set boundaries without guilt - How to slow down when your life has taught you to speed up - Simple, practical tools to reconnect with yourself This conversation cuts through the shame and confusion and brings real understanding to a struggle millions of women are facing. By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with language for what you’re feeling and the steps to finally create a healthier relationship with productivity, rest, and self-worth. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Israa? Follow her on Instagram Visit her website Read her book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More  This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many women are confused about GLP-1 medications like Zepbound, Wegovy, Ozempic, and Mounjaro, and unsure how they work, how to start, how to avoid side effects, or whether they are safe. The opinions are loud, the misinformation is everywhere, and it can feel impossible to know what is true. This is exactly why Tamsen turned to Dr. Rocío Salas-Whalen, one of the country’s leading GLP-1 experts and a triple board-certified endocrinologist who has guided thousands of women through this process.  She is also the author of ‘Weightless: A Doctor's Guide to GLP-1 Medications, Sustainable Weight Loss, and the Health You Deserve,’ a trusted clinician for decades, and one of the clearest voices in the conversation about weight, hormones, and metabolic health. In this episode, Dr. Rocío Salas-Whalen answers the questions you submitted, including: -What is the safest way to start a GLP-1 -What dose to begin with, and how slowly to increase -How to prevent nausea and other side effects -Whether GLP-1s help with perimenopause belly fat, PCOS, or Hashimoto’s -Whether microdosing is effective or just a trend -What to do when weight loss plateaus or when the medication is stopped -What new GLP-1s are expected in 2026 This conversation cuts through the noise and brings real understanding to a topic that affects millions of women. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok Want more from Dr. Rocio? Follow her on Instagram Visit her website Read her book, Weightless: A Doctor's Guide to GLP-1 Medications, Sustainable Weight Loss, and the Health You Deserve This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices