Stop criticizing yourself | 停止自我批判,不取悦他人才能让自己真正的快乐
本期讨论《Don't Believe everything you think》第9章,本章探讨了绝望中产生的目标和灵感中产生的目标之间的区别。作者认为,根植于外部压力的目标最终会导致空虚,而那些源于内心的目标则会带来满足和快乐。文章强调,停止思考外部因素并不意味着放弃目标,而是顺应一个人的本性去追求灵感的创造。.Main Themes: Thinking as the Root of Suffering: The author posits that overthinking is the primary cause of negative experiences. Recognizing this, the question arises: how do we approach our goals and ambitions if we stop thinking? Two Sources of Goals: The chapter explores two distinct sources of goals: inspiration and desperation. It argues that understanding the origin of our goals is crucial to experiencing fulfillment in their pursuit. Embracing Divine Inspiration: The document encourages readers to tap into a "divine inspiration," a source of boundless creativity and joy, by silencing the internal critic and allowing inspired thoughts to flow freely..Key Ideas & Facts:1. Goals from Desperation: Driven by fear, scarcity, and urgency. Feels heavy, burdensome, and daunting. Often "means goals" - a means to an end (e.g., financial freedom to escape a hated job). This leads to feelings of inadequacy and emptiness, even after achieving the goal. Quote: "The goals we set in this desperation are all a means to an end. There’s always a reason we want to accomplish the goal and it’s always for something else."2. Goals from Inspiration: Stem from a feeling of expansiveness and a deep inner calling. Experienced as a joyful and energizing force wanting to be expressed. Not driven by external rewards or recognition. Foster feelings of abundance, wholeness, and fulfillment. Quote: "It is like there’s a powerful force of life coming from within us, wanting to be expressed through us to be manifested into the physical world."3. Identifying the Source of Your Goals: Inspiration: Thoughts that arise naturally, without analysis or judgment. Feel light, uplifting, and exciting. Desperation: Goals born from overthinking, analysis, and comparison. Feel heavy, draining, and confining. Energetic Feel: Desperation-driven goals feel heavy and draining, while inspiration-fueled goals feel light and expansive.4. Tapping into Divine Inspiration: Silence the Inner Critic: Stop overthinking and analyzing potential goals. Allow thoughts and desires to flow freely. Engage with Empowering Questions: Ask yourself, "If limitations like money, fear, or recognition didn't exist, what would I create?" Quote: "Goals and dreams that come in the form of thought are created out of inspiration. Goals and dreams that come from thinking are created out of desperation."5. The Power of Letting Go: By releasing the grip of overthinking, we return to our natural state of inspiration and creativity. This allows us to experience the joy of pursuing goals that align with our inner selves..Conclusion:The chapter emphasizes the importance of aligning our goals with inspiration rather than desperation. By recognizing the distinct feelings and motivations behind each type of goal, we can consciously choose to pursue those that bring genuine fulfillment and joy. It encourages readers to tap into their innate wellspring of divine inspiration and allow their true dreams to unfold.