Sexology

Welcome to Episode 490 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Jordan Barber, who speaks to me about pain during sex.

In this episode, Dr. Barber and I discuss why so many people are told that “everything looks normal” when they are experiencing very real pain during sex. He explains how standard medical testing often misses muscle and nerve function, and why painful sex is rarely caused by one single factor.

Dr. Jordan Barber is a Doctor of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (DAOM) specializing in integrative pain care with a focus on pelvic floor dysfunction, chronic pelvic pain, and complex musculoskeletal conditions. His clinical work centers on advanced dry needling and neuromodulation-based acupuncture, targeting both tissue and nervous system drivers of pain. With over two decades of experience, he works at the intersection of traditional Chinese medicine and modern pain science to help patients restore function and break persistent pain patterns.
In this episode, you will hear:

Understanding Painful Sex
Muscle Pain Versus Nerve Pain
Why Tests Can Look Normal
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy
Trauma And Pelvic Pain
Dry Needling Explained
Vagus Nerve Stimulation
Hormones And Lubrication
Building The Right Care Team

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Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy.

It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners. 

Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry.

It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life.

In this episode, you will hear:

Defining Sexless Relationships
The Myth of Spontaneous Desire
Understanding Responsive Desire
Navigating Discrepancies in Libido
The Impact of Unspoken Rejection
Introducing the Sure Thing Practice
Exploring Sensuality Without Pressure
Honoring Boundaries and Communicating Nos
Overcoming the Burden of Sexual Shame
Taking Accountability for Intimacy Goals

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Welcome to Episode 488 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Arthur Burnett who speaks to me about delayed ejaculation and loss of penile sensitivity.

In this episode Dr. Burnett and I discuss a topic that has been highly requested by many of our listeners and clients. We look at the complicated factors behind delayed ejaculation and the annoying loss of sensitivity some men experience. Dr. Burnett shares his urologic expertise on the role of physical health conditions such as diabetes or sensory neuropathies as well as the much-debated role of testosterone levels.

Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, M.D., MBA, FACS, is a trail-blazing and globally recognized urologist, educator, and researcher at Johns Hopkins University, where he has worked for more than 40 years. He serves as the Patrick C. Walsh Professor of Urology, Director of the Male Consultation Clinic.
 
As a barrier-breaking leader, he is recognized as the first Black person to have achieved milestones in the urology profession as professor of urology at Johns Hopkins University, President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA), and Board Member of the American Urological Association.
 
In this episode, you will hear:
 
Multilayered Causes of Delayed Ejaculation
Impact of Diabetes and Neuropathy on Sexual Health
The Role of Testosterone in Ejaculatory Function
Potential Side Effects of Weight Management Drugs
Retraining Sensitivity Altered by Masturbation Habits
How Alpha Blockers and Antidepressants Affect Climax
The Connection Between OCD and Ejaculatory Control
Debunking Myths About Attraction and Performance
Constructive Ways Partners Can Offer Meaningful Support
Safe Practices for Using Constrictive Devices and Toys

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Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Faye Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships.
 
In this episode, we talk about a common problem that many couples in long-term relationships have: the natural change and sometimes loss of sexual desire. When a partner's interest seems to fade, it's easy for our minds to jump to the worst possible conclusions. But in reality, it's often because of mismatched expectations, not a lack of attraction. Courtney and I talk about the myth of rushing through physical intimacy and why treating sex like a race often makes people feel disconnected. 
 
Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt, is the creator of Sex Life Makeover and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured in NBC, Forbes, MSN, and Psychology Today. She specializes in highly sexual women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan and has been teaching for 25+ years. Courtney brings a lighthearted, joyful approach to sex.
 
In this episode, you will hear:
 
●      The Myth of Sex in Football Style
●      Physiological Requirements for Extended Warm-ups
●      Going from Hustle Culture to Presence
●      The Idea of Foreplay All Day
●      Changing the Way We Do Date Night
●      How Mothering Changes Kill Sexual Desire
●      The Risks of Pretending to Enjoy and Have Orgasms
●      Talking About Changing Sexual Preferences
●      Growing the Parasympathetic Nervous System
●      The Twenty-Minute Cuddle and Connect Exercise
 
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Welcome to Episode 486 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Juliane Maxwald who speaks to me about understanding our sexual symptoms as deeper unconscious communications.
 
In this episode, we talk about how sexual problems are rarely just about sex. In this day and age, people are always looking for a quick fix or a medical solution to their personal problems. Julianne beautifully explains that symptoms like low desire or trouble getting an erection are often our bodies telling us about deeper emotional needs, unresolved trauma, or hidden worries. 
 
Juliane Maxwald, MA, LP, CST, is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist based in New York City. She has over fifteen years of experience working with individuals and couples across a wide range of concerns, including sexuality and intimacy, trauma, addiction and compulsive behaviors, mood and anxiety disorders, and relational and family-of-origin dynamics.
 
Her work is grounded in contemporary psychoanalysis and informed by trauma theory, somatic awareness, and relational, sex-positive frameworks. Juliane specializes in helping people move beyond symptom-focused treatment—whether the symptom shows up as sexual difficulty, burnout, overwork, emotional numbing, or relational conflict—and toward a deeper understanding of the unconscious patterns shaping their lives.
 
In this episode, you will hear:
 
·      Reconceptualizing Sexual Dysfunction as Emotional Communication
·      The Risk of Excessive Medicalization of Personal Issues
·      Getting to Know the Unconscious Messages Behind Low Desire
·      Anxiety about performance and the need for approval
·      Using Relaxation Techniques Such as Beach Showers
·      How Repetition Compulsion Relates to Past Trauma
·      Examining the Underlying Factors of Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
·      Unpacking the Hidden Themes in Pornography Usage
·      Sexual Behavior That Is Out of Control as a Way to Control Emotions
·      Getting over sexual shame with curiosity and kindness
 
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