Happier with Gretchen Rubin

We revisit some of our most useful Four Tendencies listener questions, including how to help a Rebel stick to exercise, work with a Questioner boss, and keep Obliger people-pleasing from getting in the way of dating.

Revisited Highlights:

Episode 43: Listener Round-Up of the Four Tendencies

Episode 120: Listener Questions about the Four Tendencies

Episode 280: Questions from Listeners about the Four Tendencies

Mentioned in This Episode:

The Four Tendencies in Action Workbook

The Four Tendencies Quiz

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We talk about how to avoid the mental trap of the “sunk-cost fallacy.” Plus, why it’s so hard to plan for emergencies and the biases that keep us from preparing for risk.

Episode highlights:

Try This at Home: Avoid the sunk-cost fallacy—the mental trap that keeps us committed because of the time, money, or energy we’ve already spent [04:57]

Happiness Hack: Create a personal reading syllabus with deadlines to help you read more [12:58]

Happiness Stumbling Block: Six common biases that make it difficult to assess and prepare for rare but serious emergencies [16:03]

Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: Turning into a Knicks bore; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: To her friend Mindy for a new exercise experience [24:11]

Mentioned in this episode:

The Ostrich Paradox: Why We Underprepare for Disasters by Robert Meyer and Howard Kunreuther (Amazon, Bookshop)

This Vast Enterprise: A New History of Lewis and Clark by Craig Fehrman (Amazon, Bookshop)

Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop)

Rolling utility cart

Happier Labor Day resources

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Even after a person has died, we can continue to understand them in new ways.

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We discuss how people know what to do in certain situations. Plus why you might–or might not–make friends at the gym.

Episode highlights:

Something Making Us Happier: Elizabeth finds connection to our beloved father through reading history. Gretchen delights in discovering Jamie’s rock-skipping skills [00:48]

I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: How do people know what to do in certain situations? [07:29]

Spotlight on a Tool: Check out my free 7-day email challenge designed to help you head into fall with more energy [13:03]

I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: Do you make friends at the gym? [14:40]

Mentioned in this episode:

This Vast Enterprise (Amazon, Bookshop)

Check out Gretchen’s free 7-day movement challenge here

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Why you might consider spending your vacation money on a home experience that you’ll enjoy for years, and why delegating tasks is more important–and harder–than it may seem.

Episode highlights:

Try This at Home: Why you might "spend out" on your space, instead of on vacation, to give yourself fun and comfort at home [02:35]

Happiness Hack: A listener's three-system method for documenting daily life and family milestones [13:14]

Happiness Stumbling Block: Why we avoid delegating and how to let go, especially during the empty-nest years [17:25]

Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: still need to visit the Encino Mah Jong parlor; Gretchen’s Gold Star: Winsteads! The ice! The lacy burgers! [25:57]

Mentioned in this episode:

Lake Effect by Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney (Amazon, Bookshop)

I, Robot by Isaac Asimov (Amazon, Bookshop)

Check out Gretchen's free quizzes here

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Website: gretchenrubin.com

Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft

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