The Most Important Love Language No One Talks About: Repair
Shownotes What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma How to never get ghosted again What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important Why repair is an ongoing practice Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully Bio Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster. She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together. Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection. Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce. Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair 00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership 00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples 00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections 00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma 00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship 00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges 00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship 00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization 00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are 00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again 00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship 01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important 01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective 01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice 01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair 01:28:49 - Conclusion
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Confessions Of A Former Good Girl: Pleasure is radical in a society built on purity culture
Shownotes How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it Bio Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment. With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices. Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton. Timestamps 00:00:48 - Guest introduction 00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history 00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it 00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society 00:09:56 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences 00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture 00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure 00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access 00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life 00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure 00:42:30 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her 00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston 00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything 00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her 00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure 00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life 01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics 01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching 01:08:05 - Conclusion
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Attunement, Empathy, and Connection: Learn the “Soft” Skills of Sex
Shownotes The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head The most effective way to teach attunement to men Why lack of attunement feels like apathy The difference between suppression and containment What it feels like to be present inside of yourself Bio Steven Jaggers is a somatic educator, practitioner and the founder of SOMA+IQ™ Breathwork, a powerful modality for nervous system healing and embodied transformation. He has trained over 2,000 practitioners in a unique method that rewires the body’s response to stress, trauma and connection through potent tools like breath, co-regulation and somatic self-inquiry. Steven’s approach bridges ancient healing traditions with modern neuroscience, offering experiential tools for emotional integration, authentic relating and whole-body aliveness. His work has been featured in university-accredited programs, major podcasts and global events. Learn more about Steven and his work on his website. Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:04:54 - Steven explains what meta skills are and their importance 00:08:25 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:34 - The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing 00:13:14 - How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head 00:17:20 - Steven shares Eckhart Tolle’s definition of stress 00:21:05 - Others can feel your alignment in their nervous systems 00:23:24 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:24:35 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:25:36 - Steven’s definition of eros 00:25:47 - Layla shares her definition of eros 00:32:13 - The most effective way to teach attunement to men 00:42:53 - Why lack of attunement feels like apathy 00:47:26 - The difference between suppression and containment 00:51:52 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:53:19 - Steven explains the 4 modes of communication 00:55:01 - Steven guides Layla through a powerful breathwork practice 01:06:42 - What it feels like to be present inside of yourself 01:07:05 - What it feels like to not be present inside of yourself 01:12:08 - The 3 potentials that can happen for a client during coaching or facilitating 01:16:57 - Conclusion
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I Touch My Cervix Live During This Podcast (and you can, too!) with Jamie Elizabeth Thompson
Shownotes Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after A guided cervical micropractice you can follow along with How to create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day Why your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system Bio Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a feminine embodiment teacher and the founder of Awakened Woman, a global community and course platform devoted to helping women reclaim their pleasure as holy and cultivate the intimacy they most deeply desire in relationships. Blending her 17 years of training in Somatic Psycho-Spiritual practices, erotic alchemy, and sacred sexuality, Jamie guides women to transform their relationship with their bodies and pleasure. She specializes in cervical de-armoring and awakening - activating the cervix as a divine erotic portal and a key to unlocking orgasmic aliveness and everyday bliss. Learn more about Jamie and her work: Free Ecstatic Cervical Breathwork Ritual: https://www.awakenedwoman.life/cervixbreath Jamie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth Timestamps 00:00:44 - Guest introduction 00:03:10 - How Jamie discovered the magic of her cervix 00:04:25 - Jamie describes the moment her whole life opened up during a cervical orgasm 00:08:36 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:04 - The ingredients that led Jamie to be able to have a cervical orgasm 00:11:10 - Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms 00:13:37 - The difference between a clitoral orgasm and a cervical orgasm 00:19:04 - Layla shares the story of her most powerful cervical orgasm 00:21:09 - This is one of the greatest gifts of a cervical orgasm 00:21:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:22:45 - Layla and Jamie drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:24:02 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:25:14 - What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after 00:29:24 - The cervix is a gateway into full erotic expression 00:29:55 - The most important things to know about opening and activating your cervix 00:31:48 - A regulated nervous system opens up the pathway for a cervical orgasm 00:34:09 - Jamie shares the #1 pitfall women experience when activating their cervix 00:39:41 - Jamie guides a cervical micropractice you can follow along with 00:52:51 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:53:46 - Jamie and Layla share what they experienced during the practice 00:59:25 - How touching your cervix automatically puts you in a feminine state 01:00:24 - Can you create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed? 01:03:13 - 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day 01:06:18 - Your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system 01:12:12 - Conclusion
This Tantric Life is a podcast created by Layla Martin. The profound conversations throughout This Tantric Life are dedicated to exploring the deep wisdom and practices of Tantra, Sacred Sexuality, and conscious relationships. Join host Layla Martin as she invites her mentors and friends to dive even deeper into the Tantric philosophy and approach that can transform life, intimacy and relationships. Each guest shares their wisdom through deep, thought-provoking conversations that explore the mysteries of conscious living and loving and the opportunity Tantra and Sacred Sexuality present to help us free ourselves.
Layla Martin believes Tantra is the last bastion of personal development, and whether you’re a seasoned practitioner of Tantra looking to deepen your practice or simply curious about the intersection between spirituality and sexuality, This Tantric Life with Layla Martin is the perfect podcast to guide you on your journey toward a more fulfilling and meaningful life. This Tantric Life with Layla Martin will inspire you to embrace your truth and awaken your full potential as a human being.
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