This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

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Exactly what the "witch wound" is and where it lives in your body

The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings

Why spiritual lies live inside our bodies as self-hatred

How spirituality impacts our ability to be a sexual being 

What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene

 
Bio
Meggan Watterson is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Mary Magdalene Revealed.  She is a feminist theologian with a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. 
 
Meggan is the founder of The House of Mary Magdalene, a spiritual community that studies the sacred texts left out of the traditional canon and practices the soul-voice meditation. 
 
Her work has appeared in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, HuffPost, TEDxWomen, and Marie Claire. 
 
Meggan's most recent book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself, was recommended by Glennon Doyle in ELLE as "the book that kept me up way too late."
 
You can follow Meggan's work on Instagram and find her books, meditations, and offerings on her website.

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Timestamps
00:00:45 - Guest introduction
00:02:36 - The moment the gospel of Mary Magdalene began transforming Meggan's life

00:05:40 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist
00:06:20 - Layla explains the messaging that Catholic scripture sends to women
00:12:32 - The shift in Christianity from fighting the unjust to enforcing it
00:19:41 - How distorted teachings contribute to loneliness and alienation
00:24:43 - A sovereign power exists within every person
00:26:36 - The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings
00:33:00 - How experiencing rage helped Meggan finally return to her body
00:36:21 - The original definition of salvation
00:42:46 - We are only ever as far from our power as we are from our own embodiment
00:49:32 - Spiritual lies live inside our bodies as negative self talk and self-rejection
00:58:53 - Meggan shares her experience with self-doubt and a desire for external validation
01:05:18 - Layla shares the hallmarks of the Tantric tradition
01:17:37 - How spirituality impacts our ability to be a fully expressed sexual being
01:23:59 - It's easier to control men who don't have a power center outside of religion
01:30:15 - What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene
01:32:15 - A simple practice you can do right now to reconnect with the voice of love within you
01:43:09 - Conclusion

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Ian's definition of great sex and how you can bring it into practice

Why basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together

How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences

The number one key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together

A daily practice for men and one for women to enhance presence and pleasure

Bio
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. 
 
He's regularly featured as an expert in various media, such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR, as well as contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. 
 
Ian lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021, and is the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. 
 
In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). 
 
He's the co-founder and co-director of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of the oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities in New York City.
 
You can learn more about Ian's work on his website.

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Timestamps
00:00:46 - Guest introduction
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00:05:21 - Ian shares how his personal experience inspired him bring his work to the world
00:10:28 - The science behind how pleasure is created in the vagina through intercourse
00:15:53 - How sensual touch above the waist and communication impact sex and pleasure
00:16:59 - How to get a woman's desire going and enhance it throughout sex
00:24:25 - Ian shares his definition of great sex
00:31:18 - Layla explains what a recap after a sexual experience is and how it helps
00:33:00 - Ian and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC
00:37:17 - How basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together
00:39:45 - Can you create sexual desire if it was never there in the first place?
00:43:39 - Chemistry comes in all different forms
00:47:33 - Why porn is easier than partnered sex
00:55:54 - Ian shares what he sees as the biggest contributors to sexual issues
01:00:11 - How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences
01:06:37 - The role willingness plays when it comes to sex in a long-term partnership
01:09:55 - The 3 different ways sex gets started
01:13:10 - The big key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together
01:13:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
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Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life

Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy

How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure

What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them

A simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds



Bio
Lee Holden is a Qi Gong Master who has brought ancient tradition to the mainstream. He's the author of the bestselling book Ready, Set, SLOW and a PBS favorite with shows such as Less Stress, More Energy and Your Fountain of Youth. 
 
Lee is the founder of Holden Qi Gong, an online education center for Eastern Wisdom.
 
You can learn more about Lee's work on his website and find him on Instagram: 
@holdenqigongofficial

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🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women

Timestamps
00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 
00:00:51 - Guest introduction
00:02:11 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 
00:05:30 - Sexual energy as the source of vitality
00:13:26 - When you can celebrate your power, you no longer have to hate yourself 
00:14:41 - Transforming sexual energy into life force energy into spiritual energy
00:17:50 - Sexual energy is universal energy
00:22:24 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir using code PODCAST
00:24:20 - Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life
00:27:45 - Layla's shares her favorite question to take inventory of your stress
00:32:52 - When you're inspired about the future, you have more energy in the present
00:40:36 - Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy
00:44:19 - How sexuality used to be part of prescribed medicine
00:49:54 - How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure
00:52:42 - What multi-orgasmic means for men
00:58:34 - How Lee learned to become multi-orgasmic
01:02:03 - Layla's shares her story of how she learned to be multi-orgasmic
01:04:06 - What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them
01:06:34 - Why becoming multi-orgasmic is important for both the man and his lover
01:09:12 - Energy work can build a bridge so both partners feel in the mood
01:10:51 - How slowing down during sex heightens and amplifies sexual energy
01:11:59 - Lee shares a simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds
01:15:08 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
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How the American approach to pleasure compares to other cultures

Layla shares one of her favorite cemetery sex stories

The #1 way to get back into a sexual headspace

How to approach shame around your sexuality

Dr. Kate shares a take home practice you can use to connect with your body sexually



Bio
Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in California, Florida, New York, and Illinois. She's a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples' therapist. 
 
As the Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational, and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving holistically in their lives. 
 
Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast.
 
You can learn more about Dr. Balestrieri's work on her website and find Dr. Balestrieri on Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri

Timestamps
00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 
00:00:55 - Guest introduction
00:01:54 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 
00:04:39 - Dr. Kate's 2025 mid-year sex in review
00:05:20 - The top ways Dr. Kate sees people lose desire
00:08:40 - How the American approach to pleasure compares to other cultures
00:11:15 - Layla shares one of her favorite cemetery sex stories
00:13:54 - Layla and Dr. Kate drink MOOD SEX MAGIC Elixir 
00:16:19 - Dr. Kate shares a deep dive into her work with sex and addiction
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00:20:27 - What it's like working with sex offenders in prison settings
00:25:04 - How better prevention can stop sexual violence
00:28:02 - The #1 way to get back into a sexual headspace
00:30:50 - How sexuality has changed from a cultural perspective over the last 20 years
00:32:11 - Dr. Kate's personal favorite thing about sex
00:32:54 - Dr. Kate shares her current sexual growth edges both personally and professionally
00:35:14 - How to approach shame around your sexuality
00:36:28 - Layla explains what it means to "eat shame for breakfast"
00:37:33 - Dr. Kate shares a take home practice you can use to connect with your body sexually
00:39:17 - Pleasure comes from within and you can access it anytime you desire
00:42:35 - Conclusion

Show Notes 
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The difference between objective truth vs. your truth (a.k.a. how to stop arguing with your own assumptions)

A practical script for conflict that doesn't melt into blame soup

The Five A's of Requests (Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements)

How to repair trust and build integrity like it's a daily gym routine

Why "Do you want to be heard, helped, or held?" is the relationship cheat code

Men's work, shame alchemy, and the real work of becoming who you say you are

Bio
Andrew Horn is an entrepreneur, writer, and relational leadership coach whom Forbes calls "Dale Carnegie for the digital age." He grew his last company, Tribute, to eight figures in revenue and millions of users, landing on the Inc. 500, before stepping away to focus on coaching and transformation. He also co-founded Junto, a community for leaders to explore men's work and personal growth. Andrew has shared his insights on global stages including Conscious Capitalism, Summit Series, and Google Talks, and coaches founders and executives from some of today's most innovative companies, including Hinge, Casper, and Everyday Dose.
Learn more about Andrew's work ⁠on his website⁠, at ⁠Junto⁠, and follow him on Instagram @itsandrewhorn
 
00:00 Truth hits like electricity: authenticity, curiosity, presence
01:01 Meet Andrew Horn and why "being right" is overrated
03:03 The Burning Man suitcase origin story
04:00 Take your business to the next level with my ⁠VITA™ Coaching Checklist ⁠
05:31 "I love the sh*t out of you" - friendship, on record
08:07 Bad communication = hyperbolic criticism (why "never/always" backfires)
09:41 Learning to meet fire with skill (Non Violent Communication, ownership, objectivity)
10:56 Gestalt wake-up: three pillars to speak from your spine
13:40 The eye-contact exercise that turned truth into lightning
15:02 Coffee-machine confession: when honesty cracks reality open
16:09 Matrix moment: you don't meet people, you meet your story about them
19:16 Layla's jungle-cult nights and the psychedelic power of saying the uncomfortable thing
25:02 Choosing aliveness over being liked
27:49 Objective > subjective: the foundation of clean communication
31:16 Feelings at work and the "clear ask" example
32:12 Get 2 FREE sticks packs of ⁠MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir⁠ using code PODCAST at checkout 
34:02 Curiosity as the antidote to mind-reading
39:46 Byron Katie and "everyone makes sense to themselves"
43:49 Boundaried vs. boundaryless and the sacred pause
47:45 "Violent" (charged) communication vs. objective language
51:10 Needs-based consciousness (OFNER) - a map out of reactivity
52:26 The Five A's of requests: Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements
58:24 Why agreements beat "good intentions" every time
1:00:55 Rituals that keep love alive: weekly check-ins & love dates
1:01:12 "Therapy speak" complaints - the pragmatic reframe
1:02:40 Integrity = knowing yourself, speaking the truth, and keeping agreements
1:06:37 Rebuilding integrity after breaches: deconditioning and working with shame
*Correction: Nonviolent Communication was developed by Marshall Rosenberg (not Marshall Goldsmith).