Finding My Big Girl pants

In this episode, Janina reflects on loneliness through her 20s, 30s, and now on the edge of 40. From relationships that felt lonelier than solitude, to building a life that feels peaceful, full, and intentional—this is an honest conversation about solo life, aging, friendships, community, and the fear so many women quietly carry: ending up alone.
A grounding, perspective-shifting episode for anyone navigating life solo and learning to be okay with it.


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Dating doesn’t suck your mindset does (said with love).
In this episode, I break down how to decentralize men while still dating, desiring, and enjoying them. We talk about attitude, energy, dating apps, first dates, sex, boundaries, ghosting, and why your only real dating goal should be enjoying yourself.
This is not about impressing men. It’s about telling your story in a way you love, having standards without limiting your world, and remembering that this is your  world, everybody else is just living in it. A reminder that you don’t lose the right people by being yourself.


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I'm sharing a little bit of my story. From growing up in a small town in Finland, moving out at 16, surviving family chaos, money trauma, and unhealthy relationships, to building a global corporate career from the ground up with no formal education.


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This episode is a year-end brain dump about everything that’s been sitting heavy—and everything that suddenly feels clear. We talk Christmas, being alone without being lonely, health, hormones, work, love, friendship, aging parents, and why none of the things we stress about will matter as much as we think. A reminder to zoom out, refocus, and choose what truly matters.


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This one is for every woman who has hit December (again) thinking, “What the f**k am I doing with my life?”
In this episode of Finding My Big Girl Pants, we talk about that gut-punch feeling of looking back at the past year and realizing you’re still in the job that’s killing you, still in the body you don’t feel at home in, still in the relationship you’ve outgrown… and still telling yourself, “Next year will be different.”
This is your tough-love New Year’s hug and slap in one. 


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