Autistic and ADHD Kids Parenting Strategies: Every Brain is Different

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Samantha and Lauren interview Dalisse, an autistic author and mom of two autistic boys, living in Barcelona, Spain, who wrote the five-book Loving Pieces series. Dalisse shares her family’s journey since her oldest son's diagnosis at 17 months, discussing early challenges such as meltdowns, guilt, grief, and uncertainty, and advises parents to give themselves time, take things one day at a time, and not treat bleak predictions as fixed outcomes.
Dalisse explains receiving her own autism diagnosis after recognizing similarities with her children, emphasizes being honest without romanticizing autism, and describes balancing differing sensory needs within the family through open communication and support from her husband and grandparents.

00:00 Welcome And Guest Intro
01:16 Life In Barcelona
02:11 Why She Wrote The Books
05:20 Advice After Diagnosis
10:52 Her Late Autism Diagnosis
13:34 Explaining Autism To Kids
15:44 Sensory Needs At Home
20:17 Finding Your Tribe
22:17 Resources And Where To Find Her
23:35 Fun Hobbies And Wrap Up
24:50 Host Highlights And Book Recap
27:45 Final Goodbye And Next Steps


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Samantha and Lauren discuss out-of-the-box ways to teach neurodivergent kids kitchen skills. They share practical strategies to include kids without overwhelm by breaking cooking into clear steps, assigning specific tasks, and using visuals, play kitchens, and practice activities like pouring between measuring cups or “mud pie” measuring. They cover progressive knife and cutting practice with kid-safe tools, softer foods, and Play-Doh, while emphasizing safety routines.
The episode also highlights sensory considerations (smells, textures, loud appliances, heat/steam) and executive-function supports (picture recipes, checklists, timers, color-coded tools), encourages experimentation when safe, and suggests building independence in stages and finding ways to say yes.

00:00 Podcast Welcome
01:42 Kitchen Skills Topic
01:58 Cold Oven Practice
04:02 Why Cooking Matters
05:43 Visual Steps and Roles
08:12 Play Kitchen Practice
10:01 Kid Safe Cutting Skills
13:37 Sensory Friendly Cooking
16:58 Food Reactions and Gloves
18:29 Executive Function Supports
21:25 Experiment and Independence
24:42 Find a Way to Yes
26:06 Resources and Wrap Up


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Samantha and Lauren discuss Samantha’s weekend camping trip with extended family and how a recent change in her son’s ADHD medication affected his behavior. Her son had previously thrived on stimulant medication, describing a “quiet” brain and better focus, but after switching meds due to appetite concerns, he became unusually emotional, restless, and reactive which led to conflicts, safety concerns, and relatives criticizing Samantha’s parenting strategies and implying he needed more discipline.
Once Samantha realized the new medication needed a higher dose and adjusted it, he returned to baseline and listened better, though others attributed it to discipline. Samantha and Lauren emphasize advocating for neurodivergent kids, using teachable moments to educate family, balancing compassion with expectations, and offering positive feedback amid frequent negative comments.

00:00 Welcome and Setup
00:14 ADHD Meds Success Story
02:24 Switching Meds Camping Meltdown
04:33 Family Judgment and Discipline
09:15 Safety and Fixing the Dose
10:30 Counting Consequences Reset
12:06 Advocating and Educating Family
14:01 Teachable Moments Sensory Needs
16:54 Positive Feedback and Wrap Up


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Samantha and Lauren discuss sensory-friendly hygiene routines for neurodivergent kids, emphasizing that hygiene is a health skill, not a test of compliance, and the goal is a safe, sustainable routine that supports autonomy and sensory needs.
They review how sensory factors (noise, bright lights, smells, water pressure/temperature, textures) and executive-function demands can make tasks like showering, hair washing, deodorant, toothbrushing, menstrual care, and shaving difficult, and they encourage parents to “get curious, not furious.”
Using a notice–name–modify framework, they suggest practical adaptations such as adjusting the bathroom environment, using handheld showerheads, keeping preferred towels nearby, offering shortened routines on hard days, trying different toothpaste/toothbrush options, and using visual schedules and timers.
They also cover respectful prompting, privacy and dignity during puberty-related care, when to involve professionals, and the takeaway that sensory distress is information, not defiance.

00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup
00:29 Hygiene Is a Health Skill
02:01 Sensory Barriers in Bathrooms
04:21 Executive Function and Toothbrushing
06:21 Get Curious Not Furious
08:36 Notice Name Modify Framework
10:41 Sensory Friendly Shower Setup
12:36 Shower Modifications and Short Routines
18:19 Haircare Without the Meltdowns
20:06 Skincare and Deodorant Choices
23:28 Toothbrushing Adaptations
26:02 Prompting Toward Independence
28:44 Puberty Privacy and Dignity
30:43 Routines for Hard Days
32:32 Define Done and Use Supports
35:08 When to Call a Professional
37:08 Key Takeaways and Next Steps
38:53 Resources and Closing

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Samantha and Lauren discuss how to support autistic boys through puberty. They emphasize that physical puberty changes are generally typical, but sensory sensitivities, uncertainty, social rules, and indirect language can make the experience harder, so autistic youth need complete, factual information about bodies, relationships, boundaries, and safety through many short, ongoing conversations.

They recommend explicitly teaching what to expect (odor, acne, hair, genital growth, voice changes, erections, etc.), building visual and predictable supports (timelines, social stories, checklists), and giving choice in how information is delivered, including AAC vocabulary.

They myth-bust that education encourages sexual behavior and stress concrete rules for privacy, consent, trusted-adult disclosure, and risks of nude images, plus when to consult a clinician.



00:00 Puberty Kickoff

01:50 Why This Matters

04:51 What Puberty Changes

06:49 Sensory And Routine Shifts

08:28 Myth Busting Puberty

11:00 Consent And Safety Basics

13:58 Teach Clearly And Visually

19:57 Privacy Rules And Sexting

26:38 Mental Health Check In

27:55 This Week Action Steps

30:07 When To See A Clinician

31:05 Resources And Wrap Up



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